I hate making New Year's resolutions. The one resolution I made this past year was to have more of all kinds of fun. And while I did have more fun, it didn't prevent lots of really tough things from happening too. So why go through the motions in the first place?
Instead, I like to make New Year's dream resolutions. I go through my dream journal at the end of the year and re-read everything I wrote down. I take the most interesting or funny or poignant bits, and make resolutions out of them.
There is no room in dream resolutions for moralizing or resolving to be a better person. Dream resolutions have nothing to do with the worries of everyday life--they are solely concerned with having the best dreams possible. Anything you like that happened in a dream, make a resolution to do it again. Anything that didn't turn out quite right, handle it differently next time.
Dreams love to break taboos, and revel in exposing the stuff we try to keep out of sight. So the best attitude for making your own New Year's dream resolutions is honesty and acceptance, with a good dose of humor. If you decide to make some dream resolutions of your own, be sure to leave a comment. I would love to read them.
Here are my top ten official 2009 New Year's Dream Resolutions.
1. When you have turned your bathroom into a spiritual purification chamber, you have to let people use the shower even if it gets water on the floor.
2. Rule of thumb when moving into old Victorian ballrooms with 58-foot ceilings: very long swings hanging from the rafters. Filtered water at the bar also makes up for the fact that there is none in the kitchen.
3. Sometimes your friend gets the hot new boyfriend and you just get a glimpse of a very old, very married fling. Be patient, your day will come.
4. Even the most beautiful boathouse and pavilion will not become a stop on the steamboat route if they are set too far up the hill from the water.
5. If a child in your dream has a dream that she should leave her favorite doll in the road for the fairies to take, let her do it.
6. Burn the candle all the way down--no shortcuts. These things take time.
7. If you're wearing a beautiful dress to a prom, make sure you've got a sexy bra on under it.
8. When called on to facilitate a day-long meeting with lots of people, be gracious and engaging and the meeting might take only a couple hours.
9. On those long car rides through Texas, any frozen food in your backpack will probably not stay frozen very long. On the other hand, it may make it all the way to the state line.
10. If you're going someplace you've been before and you sort of know the way, just follow your instincts. You don't need to stop and ask for directions.
This post was originally published here.
Anne Hill is a dream consultant and writer based in Northern California. She teaches internationally, has a private dreamwork practice, and hosts a weekly radio show on dreams. Anne can be reached at annehill.org.