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Wealth School: Learning the Art of Surrender

Posted: 07/06/2012 7:10 am

When you are feeling challenged, or stuck, do you go into panic mode, or do you respond with inspired action? I confess. Mentally, I sometimes drop in to panic mode. Gotta do something, even if I do no know clearly what it should be.

Do you ever do this? Or do you pause, take a deep breath or two, relax, stand back and allow the truth of you to speak? By truth of you, I mean the infinite source of love and guidance within you, that which I recognize as your soul.

My ego likes the gratification of being in control, which actually is no control at all. The greatest control is not of hanging on, but of letting go and being open. One of the great blessings of this age is that everything is changing, and rapidly. New possibilities and opportunities are opening up all the time.

I am a great admirer, and appreciate very much the work, of Drs. Ron and Mary Hulnick. Recently, I received this video in which Ron explains "How is Spiritual Psychology Different From Traditional Psychology."

How is Spiritual Psychology Different From Traditional Psychology from University of Santa Monica on Vimeo.

I love this video because it reminds me to question: Why am I here? What is my purpose? What is it, right now? Deep down, or actually not very deep, I do know the answers.

To remember my purpose puts me back into the driving seat of my life and out of the fast-lane highway of "gotta get ahead -- sooner, faster, better." Knowing my purpose attracts me to the opportunities available for me to fulfill it.

What I know from the past is that what I need has always shown up for me, sometimes seemingly under grace and in perfect ways.

I believe in a friendly universe, because that is the way I experience it. How, you might ask, can the universe possibly be "friendly" with so many bad things going on?

The way I see it is that given all the obstacles, disease and disasters happening, it is amazing to me how there are so many as alive and as well as there are. Something very powerful is sustaining all of this.

I know the beauty of surrender -- the surrender of releasing my concerns upwards and of surrendering up to the greatest good and guidance available for me. It looks like relaxing and being patient, not being inactive but following inspired action.

This would also look like being open to be in the infinite love of the universe for me, being available to a universal field of astonishing good and extraordinary creativity.

Surrendering allows space for the unexpected and benevolent to take place. When you hear an item of bad news, you have a choice. You can elaborate on the dire consequences of the situation, or you can bless it. You can become a witness to the good happening in the world by choosing to focus upon it. There is plenty that does not get reported in banner headlines.

For example, I live in Europe, the eurozone. Dramas around the common currency, the euro, can get pretty scary. Alternatively, I can bless the situation and those actively dealing with it. I can hold the view that something really good is coming out of this and not buy into disaster forecasting, which is pretty active at the moment. I can surrender my fears, and open the space in me to witness a miracle taking place.

There was a time that no one thought that the Berlin Wall would come down, or Nelson Mandela would be released from prison, or the peace process in Northern Ireland would ever progress.

Do you know of anyone who is wedded to woe, anxiety and fear for the future? I call this "the 49 percent and falling" outlook or attitude.

Then there are those who are 51 percent and rising -- taking life step by step, walking across a bridge of faith with trust, confidence, a clear intention of their dreams and objectives, and celebrating the many gifts of the present moment -- even when the bridge feels wobbly.

To go from the 49 percent to 51 percent? Surrender. Take your very next breath -- take it in deeply, and then let go. Give up and release the lower energy choice. Turn 180 degrees. Surrender. Look up and receive the many blessings that await you. Experience your choice for fulfillment.

Find new friends who are living at 51+ percent. Get help in creating a vision that fills your life with meaning, purpose and passion. Take the next action that will take you closer to where you want to be. Notice and be ever so thankful for the many gifts, however small, that come to grace you on your journey. Fill and celebrate the precious life you were given.

Imagine surrendering up to the blessings of the sweet grace and peace of a loving universe -- to receive for yourself the goodness available to you. This is sweet surrender, claiming once again your childlike nature with openness and a willingness to celebrate each new moment, now.

You may not be "in control" as your ego would have it. You can direct your life energy to connect with the soaring spirit within you, not as a life plan to be followed to the letter, but simply being in the flow of who you are and what is happening around you. You can educate your ego to surrender its role as "master" to become a loving servant to the wise soul within you.

How have you practiced surrender to gain fresh inspiration, energy and insight? How do you keep yourself in the 51 percent and rising field? I would love to know. Please leave a comment below, or drop me a line at annenaylor@me.com

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When you are feeling challenged, or stuck, do you go into panic mode, or do you respond with inspired action? I confess. Mentally, I sometimes drop in to panic mode. Gotta do something, even if I do n...
When you are feeling challenged, or stuck, do you go into panic mode, or do you respond with inspired action? I confess. Mentally, I sometimes drop in to panic mode. Gotta do something, even if I do n...
 
 
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mikeydjd83
08:10 AM on 07/18/2012
Sounds simple. But what if you are educated but have no job, no money, no prospects for feeding your family and are effectively squeezed out of the American economic opportunity structure? What then?

Read more at

http://lifeamongtheordinary.blogspot.com/2012/04/map-keys.html
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Anne Naylor
Celebrant, Weddings and Other Blessings
05:02 AM on 07/25/2012
mikeydjd83

My response to you did not go up. I appreciate your commenting and understand that life is very hard for many people at this time. Sometimes, it comes down to taking just one action at a time to move out of the depths of difficulty. It is not easy.

Thank you for including your link.
Anne
02:20 PM on 07/11/2012
Thank you, Anne. I am in a time where surrender seems to be the only route to peace, although sometimes the process of surrendering to surrender seems anything but peaceful! Thanks for the encouragement.
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Anne Naylor
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03:49 PM on 07/15/2012
Great to see you here, Martha. Thank you for your comment. The process of surrendering to surrender reminds me of the process of remembering to remember. Life can get so distracting!

With much love and joy to you,
Anne
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Dr. Cara Barker
author, artist, and Jungian Analyst,
01:42 PM on 07/11/2012
Dear Anne,

what an important and thought-provoking blog you have written! Surrender is surely key for me. That said, to tell the truth, my own surrender has happened so often when I've gotten to the bottom of the barrel trying to ego my way through the insolvable, only to discover that letting that burden go is actually what brings the sweet surrender! On better days, the meditation and creative activity help focus the breath, clear the mind, and open my heart to what can only be found in the Land through Surrender.

Be the Love, as I know you are,
Cara
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Anne Naylor
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06:02 AM on 07/15/2012
Beloved Sister Cara,

What sweet music you bring to my ears, as so often you do. That bottom of the barrel feeling is sometimes necessary for me to - for heaven's sake - just let go, girl!!

I love this: "... focus the breath, clear the mind, and open my heart ... "

Yes, a thousand times, yes.

Ever onwards, upwards and joy to you,
Anne
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onethot
D.I.P.
12:29 PM on 07/10/2012
Surrendering for me is key. Little things tend to annoy me.
Recently, had a checkup which included an ECG. That evening I received a call from the doctor saying, that I had to immediately go to ER as I had had a heart attack.
I sat quietly, and the first thing that surfaced was, " No, this isn't true." I was not in denial. I just 'knew' it wasn't so. I responded that I was not about to go to emergency and sit there for hours when I knew I was well. The doctor said she would call me back, which she did and told me she had arranged for me to go for another ECG the following day. I went because she had made the arrangements but I just 'knew' and sure enough the ECG turned out just fine.
Apparently the first ECG had been misread.
All this to say that faith plays a huge part in how I deal with such situations. Listening to the indwelling Presence works for me. Over the years I have' learned' that IT is always there and ready to 'help.'
I cannot explain how this works for me, it just does. I like to keep it all very simple.

Now, the little things bug me because that is where I still like to think that I have control :)

Peace,
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Anne Naylor
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03:50 PM on 07/15/2012
Hello onethot,

I love your comment - thank you! You are an inspiration.

Many blessings of joy to you,
Anne
03:39 PM on 07/07/2012
The road becomes a river.
The leaves begin to fall.

I watch and I await,
that which is in us all.

I strive for that which is beyond me;
and find it not at all.

My mind it bends and shapes me
until I let it go;

and find it there before me
in a mist above the snow...
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Anne Naylor
Celebrant, Weddings and Other Blessings
06:19 AM on 07/09/2012
Thank you, Kavoom. This is beautiful.

Anne
03:09 PM on 07/07/2012
"believe in a friendly universe, because that is the way I experience it. How, you might ask, can the universe possibly be "friendly" with so many bad things going on?

The way I see it is that given all the obstacles, disease and disasters happening, it is amazing to me how there are so many as alive and as well as there are. Something very powerful is sustaining all of this.

I know the beauty of surrender -- the surrender of releasing my concerns upwards and of surrendering up to the greatest good and guidance available for me. It looks like relaxing and being patient, not being inactive but following inspired action."

It would seem our outcomes are proximate. I glimpse it with a complete non-judgemental objectivity. Friendliness imo is a judgement implying good vs bad. I find these things to be like seeds once planted not easily eradicated and seldom recognized for their influence upon perspective. But there are many paths. I might seem to be implying a "right" or "wrong" way. I'm not. You gotta get traction somehwhere before you can move.
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Anne Naylor
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06:23 AM on 07/09/2012
Thank you very much for your view. From where I am looking, there is no shortage of traction. Seeds can be planted in fertile ground and then give the light and water of encouragement to grow, flourish and bear fruit.

As far as I can see, judgment is a part of human nature. But the human spirit has the possibility to rise and live above it. I agree there are certainly many paths. Of the choices available, I would want to choose the best.

Joy to you,
Anne
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llstudent
Tax churches now!
04:38 PM on 07/06/2012
I read and read all this stuff but i can never follow through for very long because i have been a pessimist all my life and find it hard especially in today's world to not get totally depressed.
03:39 PM on 07/07/2012
Surrender You are caught in a feedback loop of your own making mind trying to understand mind. Your words reflect that. You "read and read" and it doesn't mean anything because you have no referents. There are no referents for this that is. You have to let go (surrender) everything you have ever learned. At some point you will have a moment of clarity that will stand out as different. One of mine (you will have more of them if you choose to walk down the path) was simply driving down the road after a night of about six inches of snow. I saw a multi hundred year old Oak tree in the middle of a field without leaves standing there since before this world existed. It spoke to something without referents in the here and now, I let it lie within me and take root. Just a moment. but what else is there? And there are as many paths as there are us. The author points toward one. Might be worth a try. It has organized steps to help with the transition from this to what is. Just don't become dependent upon the crutch. Oh, that tree in the field led to one of two poems I wrote in my life. The other was about a woman... We won't even go there. Oh, too many words. What a wonder? I will post the poem separately.
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05:59 PM on 07/08/2012
Thanks Kavoom for taking the time to give me feedback i appreciate it, and you are right on the money.
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12:46 PM on 07/06/2012
The beautiful teachings of Dr's. Ron and Mary Hulnick at University of Santa Monica. The moment-by-moment choices to live in awareness of the present is such a huge key to getting through these challenging times. And boy does this awareness challenge us to our core ... and instead of stuffing those issues that come up for us all; issues such as a stale marriage, a company that is forever asking more of its employees while cutting staff and keeping everyone concerned for the longevity of their own position, children that are disrespectful and checked out rather than checked in and creative, yet both parents were absent in either work or anything but parenting, we can find many of numbing activities to keep us from dealing with our stuff.

Watching more TV, taking a substance that will alter our ability to be of clear mind, obsessions and addictions, gossiping and fear mongering are but choices that can be symptoms of a society so removed from one's own higher self. The symptoms can be diagnosed as a plethora of ailments that a pill may cure; symptoms such as high blood pressure, eating disorders, digestive issues ... a continuance of the cycle of Self non-awareness.

I choose kindness and love beginning with myself as really that's all I can control. Surrendering to this for myself and then others is a moment-by-moment choice of staying present and aware.
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Anne Naylor
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01:07 AM on 07/07/2012
Thank you very much for your comment. The beauty of this time is that no matter what is going on in the world, we can support our own choices for a happier, kinder and more fulfilling life.

I love your description of the moment-by-moment choice of staying present and aware.

Many blessings to you,
Anne