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Anne Vitiello
Anne Vitiello is a writer and communications professional who blogs about amicable divorce at Happily Whatever After. She is working on her first book, entitled "Starve, Rant, Loathe."

Anne is Director of Communications and Development for New Energy Events LLC, and also works as an independent mind-body fitness trainer, instructing clients in a self-designed workout called Boxing For Poets (Real fighters' technique, No hitting people!), which was awarded a 2009 Editor's Pick in Hudson Valley Magazine for "Best Thinking Person's Workout."

A first-generation New York Golden Glove Champion, she was awarded the title in 1995. Anne was a writer/editor for HBO online boxing for seven years, and currently takes on free lance assignments while raising her daughters.

Originally from rural Pennsylvania and a city-dweller of nearly 30 years, Anne lives in the Hudson Highlands of New York.

She holds an MFA in Theater Management from Columbia University, and has a lifelong ambition to be the owner/operator of either a goat farm, a launderette or both.

Entries by Anne Vitiello

When Losing Is Its Own Reward

(2) Comments | Posted March 24, 2014 | 6:10 PM

There was a boxer who, when faced with the likelihood of being knocked out, sold ad space on the soles of his shoes. Call it what you will, but I found that to be a move closer to brilliant than to defeatist.

Sometimes, in fact quite often,...

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Why DIY Speed-Dating Is the Best Way to Celebrate Valentine's Day

(2) Comments | Posted January 31, 2014 | 12:54 PM

The 14th of February.

Who's cringing? Hopeful? Excited?


Perhaps you have become a full-on cynic toward the whole thing at this point, done with the overpriced flowers and boring prix fixe menus, not impressed by creative alternatives?

Any and all the more reason to grab...

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Would You Reconnect With a Terminally Ill Ex?

(6) Comments | Posted September 18, 2013 | 12:00 AM

What if your former spouse texted to let you know that he or she was in the hospital, suffering horribly from cancer, with a 50-50 chance of surviving?

Stop with the cynical jokes. Think about it.

Your kids are distraught. They could be losing a parent. You may have...

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5 Alternative Ways to Love on Valentine's Day

(2) Comments | Posted February 13, 2013 | 7:10 AM

If you have a pulse and are not evil incarnate, chances are you deserve to experience love on Valentine's Day.

Maybe your primary relationship is healthy and secure, or you have another good reason to avoid over-priced roses and slabs of tiramisu. Perhaps you are single or in a...

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HuffPost Q&A: Emotional Fulfillment in Marriage?

(5) Comments | Posted January 22, 2013 | 10:09 AM

This week, HuffPost blogger Anne Vitiello, asked for your questions about marriage and divorce. Many of you responded with personal stories about dating during a separation, dealing with stepchildren and marital qualms. Below, Anne responded to one such question. You can submit advice questions to Anne at any...

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HuffPost Q&A: Anne Vitiello Answers YOUR Questions

(0) Comments | Posted January 2, 2013 | 10:51 AM

Novelist Catherine Aird is known for some pithy quotes. Having loved and lost, as well as lost fortunes, and homes, and under-acheived in the career sector, along with a passel of other mistakes, I can identify with one of her greatest lines:

"If you can't be a good example,...

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Sign of Peace From a Fighter's Spirit

(4) Comments | Posted December 28, 2012 | 1:30 PM

The no-man's land of the holidays, this nebulous margin between Christmas and New Year's, is an opportunity to exercise balance and reflection. The occasional hedonist in me wants to just fall back into the season and squeeze out every drop of lazy, peaceful deliciousness.

Loll by the fire, watch...

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Oh Come All Ye Grateful

(52) Comments | Posted November 21, 2012 | 7:46 AM

The G-Spot is a pernicious myth. The clitoris is a mini penis. Women don't care about orgasms, just having sex is enough -- and lots of cuddling. The vagina is insensitive. Women who don't experience vaginal orgasms are sexually deficient. Women who fake orgasms are rotten liars. Penetrative sex has...

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My Personal Storm Surge

(11) Comments | Posted November 1, 2012 | 7:15 PM

He didn't mean any harm. In fact he was here to help. And he was right. It did look like an abstract sculpture after the wind got up under it, flipped it over and twirled it around in a sort of freaky tornado dance.

Losing the car shelter...

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7 Habits of Happy Lovers

(6) Comments | Posted October 16, 2012 | 2:24 PM

Dead ahead lies the most crucial part of the year for relationships. From late October through mid-February, lovers will navigate a minefield that starts out innocently enough with cozy autumn evenings and Halloween fun, but then swerves to the jagged hillocks of family holidays and seasonal parties, culminating with a...

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Mothers Who Were Children of Divorce

(162) Comments | Posted May 12, 2012 | 1:14 AM

During my childhood in the 1960's and 1970's, divorce was neither utterly taboo nor fully accepted. But when the neighbor's Mom died of cancer, their Dad's new wife was the first and only divorcee (the word practically vibrated, a scandalous whisper) I had ever met. Nobody blamed a widower for...

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Return of the Undead First Loves

(826) Comments | Posted March 1, 2012 | 11:30 AM

The first time he called, it was to offer condolences on my Father's death. Turned out his mom had gone too young as well. We commiserated. Talked about life. Our kids, our spouses. Dear old friends. Nothing more.

But there it was. The Voice. The voice of home, of...

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The Divorced And The Holidays: A Guide For Married People

(48) Comments | Posted December 13, 2011 | 9:15 PM

I was sitting among a circle of the earnest, at an Omega Institute retreat weekend. It was the first of a total of 4 nights (non consecutive) that I had taken for myself, away from home, during a 12-year marriage (Not that I hadn't been away overnight on other occasions,...

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When Crisis Deepens the Divide

(34) Comments | Posted September 11, 2011 | 5:08 PM

An ordinary morning was made unforgettable. The memories are animated View-Master images.

The whistling scream and impact of the planes, setting off dozens of echoing car alarms. The crowd's outcries, then sickening quiet as the cloud darkened the day, roiling against our windows. The realization that the people were still...

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Spring Forward, And Do Look Back

(1) Comments | Posted April 11, 2011 | 10:11 AM

"The rain is washing away all the snow," I said into the back of my daughter's head, grateful for the steady drenching that granted me another day's reprieve on outdoor chores.

Her quiet response: "Does that mean the snakes are coming?"


Last year's winter-into-spring storms brought The Night...

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My Christmas Present to Humanity

(4) Comments | Posted December 15, 2010 | 8:45 PM

According to Scientific American, the experience of Schadenfreude activates the same pleasure center of the brain as does a good meal.

None of us is above it. No matter how personally evolved you are, you've got one too: That dirty, grubbing, little Id beastie, deep down inside,...

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Hold on to Gratitude, Let Go of the Rest

(1) Comments | Posted November 29, 2010 | 7:14 PM

Oh these Achilles moments.

It's best to start with the admission that I am not Immune to the "Smallness." Because my thesis is that of the courageously Loving Divorce. My self-assigned practice is to take the High Road; a conscious choice of Friendship with my Former. And...

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