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Happy (Un)Anniversary to Me

(578) Comments | Posted July 16, 2013 | 12:41 PM

Six years ago today I had a picture perfect wedding in Ann Arbor, Michigan. The weather was a mild 75 degrees, sunny and breezy, and my nearest and dearest were there to celebrate the beginning of a lifetime of wedded bliss. It was exactly how I dreamed it would be.

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Slow Days, Fast Years

(3) Comments | Posted May 24, 2013 | 7:15 PM

One of my favorite quotes about parenthood is "the days go slow, but the years go fast."

When my son was an infant, the days would drag on and on. I was (and still am, to a certain extent) a nervous parent -- constantly second-guessing whether I was doing what...

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I'm Not A Single Mom

(29) Comments | Posted March 19, 2013 | 1:07 AM

When my husband and I first separated, one of the first things I said to him is, "I don't want to be a single mom. This isn't what I signed up for!" Still, for a long time after our split, I referred to myself that way. At the time, I...

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The Sting Of Cupid's Arrow

(27) Comments | Posted February 14, 2013 | 1:40 AM

I know Valentine's Day is a silly greeting card holiday that shouldn't really matter to me -- and yet, it does. As a single woman, all the hearts and flowers can be a painful reminder of what I don't have. As a divorced woman, they can be an even more...

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Hanukkah & Christmas: Can We Celebrate Both?

(6) Comments | Posted December 20, 2012 | 1:00 PM

For parents of different faiths, December often brings holiday challenges. For divorced parents with joint custody, these challenges can be amplified.

Before we married, my ex-husband and I decided we would have a Jewish home. He grew up in a secular family who celebrated Christmas with no religious significance, so...

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An Embarrassment of Riches

(2) Comments | Posted November 12, 2012 | 5:00 PM

Last year, I wrote about my experience as a divorced mom during Hurricane Irene and detailed how my bitterness toward my ex turned to envy and then, finally, to gratitude. Despite more than a year of emotional progress since my divorce, things started out much the same this...

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Letting Go of the Need to Forgive

(94) Comments | Posted October 3, 2012 | 1:35 PM

The Jewish holiday of Yom Kippur always gives me the opportunity to reflect and think about those I may have wronged in the past year and those who may have wronged me. Last year at this time, I was consumed with thoughts about my ex-husband and his girlfriend. So many...

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Evolutions in Co-Parenting

(276) Comments | Posted August 6, 2012 | 2:30 AM

My ex-husband and I had only been separated for five months when we signed up our 21-month-old son for his first music class. The class took place early on Saturday mornings, and due to our custody arrangement -- alternate visitation on the weekends -- that meant we would take turns...

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Connecticut

(1251) Comments | Posted July 25, 2012 | 3:45 AM

The first ultrasound came back inconclusive. I knew something wasn't right when the technician quickly left the room and came back with the doctor.

"We can't hear a heartbeat," he said matter-of-factly. "It's either too early or you have miscarried. We'll do another test in 10 days."

He said it...

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I Want My Daddy (UPDATE)

(630) Comments | Posted May 3, 2012 | 7:40 PM

My three year old's daddy phase is driving me crazy. My married friends tell me their kids went through the same thing, but when my son asks for his daddy it, it feels so loaded. It's as if he is somehow telling me in his limited vocabulary that I'm not...

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Precipice

(4) Comments | Posted March 8, 2012 | 5:29 PM

My eyelids felt like thick clay as I squinted through the windshield, mesmerized by the bright Portuguese highway. We had just landed in Faro after a long overnight flight and an early morning layover in Lisbon.

"Put on some music," he said. "We've gotta sing if we're gonna stay...

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Binging on Bitterness

(16) Comments | Posted December 29, 2011 | 4:25 PM

The past month has been one long binge. With the joys and stresses of the holidays and the promise of starting over on January 1st, December can lead even the best of us down a path of overindulgence.

All the diligence I had done over the past...

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Addendum

(52) Comments | Posted November 23, 2011 | 2:30 AM

It has been over a month since I posted "Yom Kippur and the Gift of Forgiveness." I wanted time to reflect on this post before I wrote again. It was a huge step for me to try to forgive my ex and his mistress and I needed to...

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Yom Kippur and the Gift of Forgiveness

(3) Comments | Posted October 6, 2011 | 2:15 PM

Yom Kippur has meant different things to me throughout my life, but while in the process of getting a divorce, the acts of atonement and forgiveness have taken on new significance.

Like most Jewish kids, Yom Kippur was the one holiday I dreaded. Growing up, the holiest...

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Please Unfriend My Husband

(38) Comments | Posted October 4, 2011 | 5:50 PM

My husband was never that into Facebook. He reluctantly signed on and, even then, didn't want to friend too many people. He's a very friendly person, but is also very private. He had little interest in corresponding with people he had barely spoken with in high school, let alone since....

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Homes Sweet Homes

(30) Comments | Posted September 20, 2011 | 7:00 PM

"When I think of home, I think of a place with love overflowing."
- "Home" from The Wiz

Last summer, my then-husband and I spent many Sunday afternoons looking at apartments. We were hoping to buy a two- or three-bedroom with a yard someday. Though...

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Weathering the Storm

(6) Comments | Posted September 1, 2011 | 12:23 PM

After my husband and I separated, I chose to stay in "our place" with ambitious plans to make it my own. When a few plants and Ikea throw pillows didn't do the trick, a talented and generous friend donated his time and creativity to give my apartment a new look....

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Blackout

(13) Comments | Posted August 22, 2011 | 12:44 PM

I was at an audition in Fort Greene when the lights flickered for a moment and then went out. I had been waiting for three hours to do a two-minute monologue from Othello and was next in line.

It was about 100 degrees outside and not...

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