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The Best of Days, the Worst of Days


It was a day of personal schizophrenia for me.

I woke up on the west coast with news of President Obama's selection of Sonia Sotomayor as the next associate justice of the U.S. Supreme court. My heart swelled with such pride. Over the years, I've had occasion to meet Judge Sotomayor and watched her ascent in judicial circles with such pride.

Perhaps my veneration and personal belief in Judge Sotomayor come from the fact that she and I have a similar "pedigree" of sorts. We're both of Puerto Rican descent, from public housing projects in the Bronx. We both went to Princeton, she went to Yale Law School. I was only wait-listed at Yale, and opted to go to Stanford Law School instead.

Over the years, I watched from afar as she broke one glass ceiling after another. And today felt like the culmination of not just one remarkable woman's career, but of the sacrifices of generations of immigrant parents who struggled to give their kids a chance at achieving the pinnacle of the American dream. "Que dios me la bendiga" — may god bless her — my grandmother would have said today on Judge Sotomayor's behalf. And grandma was always right.

Then three hours later, my mood worsened. As one glass ceiling was being shattered and as America was overcoming centuries of discrimination against women and Latinos, one other ceiling was being reinforced with concrete and steel over the heads of gay and lesbian couples in California.

As proud as I was to be a lawyer in the morning, I was disgusted at my profession this afternoon. How could any judge — or any lawyer— not understand what Prop. 8 was really about? What is the role of the judiciary if it is not to protect the minority from the whims of the majority? I sat in the courtroom that day when Prop. 8 was argued, as I watched judges and lawyers struggle in legal speak as they tried to rationalize a decision to take away people’s rights. Was Proposition 8 an amendment or a revision to the state constitution? The first case that granted us full civil rights was a case of first impression. This second case that took away our new-found rights wasn't a case of first impression. The people — the homophobic majority — has spoken. I guess I just have to lump my civil rights. The majority speaks.

In the afternoon, I went back to the clips of Judge Sotomayor talking of her personal triumph, and hearing President Obama speak of the importance of having a Supreme Court justice speak with empathy for the powerless. While the ACLU does not officially endorse or oppose U.S. Supreme Court candidates, I have never been personally prouder of any appointment.

After watching the evening clips, I asked my media office to check and see if President Obama said anything about Prop. 8 or if a written White House statement was issued to the thousands of lesbians and gays in California who were relegated to second class citizens. Hope springs eternal.

The answer from my press office:

"Obama has not said anything about Prop 8 today. When asked for reaction at the White House press briefing today at 3:48 p.m., Press Secretary Robert Gibbs said:

'The issues involved are ones that, ah, you know where the president stands.'"

"Brilla con su ausencia," my grandmother would say when one of her 12 grandkids didn't show up for her birthday. "He shines in his absence."

President Obama's empathy for lesbian and gay Californians shines in its absence today — my grandma would tell him.

May Judge Sotomayor's deep empathy rub off on all Americans.

It was a day of personal schizophrenia for me. I woke up on the west coast with news of President Obama's selection of Sonia Sotomayor as the next associate justice of the U.S. Supreme court. My ...
It was a day of personal schizophrenia for me. I woke up on the west coast with news of President Obama's selection of Sonia Sotomayor as the next associate justice of the U.S. Supreme court. My ...
 
 
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06:17 PM on 05/31/2009
Sonia Sotomayor is not the wonderful progressive civil libertarian everybody seems to think she is. I'm on The Bazelon Center for Mental Health Law's email list, and they sent me a PDF detailing some of her past cases. One was the case of a woman with Down's Syndrome who the police took from her home and forced into a mental institution, where she was forcibly drugged. Sotomayor ruled that what they did to her was "not unconstitutional". After reading that, I understood that Sotomayor is completely worthless to me--as a Supreme Court judge, she is not going to protect my rights.
06:44 PM on 05/29/2009
“What is the role of the judiciary if it is not to protect the minority from the whims of the majority?â€

Um, while that sounds good, I don’t know that that is the role of the judiciary in this country. A jury is called upon to see justice done, but a judge is called upon to see the law fairly applied.

If the law is not fair, it is up to the legislature–or in the case of California–the people themselves to address the issue.

If a law is inconsistent with other laws, including that supreme law of any district: the constitution, then a judge may overturn the lesser law.

But I think your premise here is not valid, and it is a concern to me and my support of the ACLU that you should hold it.

In the case of california, the legal ruling turned upon a technicality of local constitutional law, and ruled, fairly, that the people’s will should be enforced. They also ruled in favor of gay and lesbian couples to retain the full rights of marriage, even if they are denied the name.

I’m not saying I like it; I hope the people of California change their minds.

But I think the legal process worked quite well in this instance, and I hope the ACLU understands that in our democracy, ‘good’ results are not just the desired outcome, but the fair application of justice and the impartial functioning of our legal system.
01:25 PM on 05/30/2009
The majority of the people voted against fair housing and passed a constitutional amendment for that purpose. In that case, it was the role of the court to strike it down, which they did. One job of the court to strike down laws that infringe upon equal protection -- and the "separate but equal" analysis of the California Court will prove as illusory as when it was used to justify racial discrimination.
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05:48 PM on 05/29/2009
Please hang in there, Anthony. Just look at the attitudes of the youngest voters as contrasted with older ones. The trend is clearly on the side of marriage equality.
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03:54 PM on 05/27/2009
So many of these self-proclaimed "Christians" forget that their lord and savior preached tolerance.
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03:12 PM on 05/27/2009
…Continued from previous post.


A mature woman showed up alone, remarkable in her normality. Her sign was hastily crafted but powerful: "I am oppressed!" I shall never forget her; what a beauty!

Some yahoos in a truck flipped a U-turn and smoked their tires less than a meter from where I was; another threw water on me--not just on the group, but on me. I knew I stood out in my lady-like attire, so I stood proudly in front. It ruined my sign and shocked some of the freshman, but I just wiped off my sunglasses and continued to stand until dark with the rainbow colors of my signs dripping like tears onto the boulevard.

As I left, I blasted Melissa Etheridge's protest song: "Giant" for them. They erupted into raucous cheers as the “lady†showed them that she was queerer and tougher than she looked in a pink sweater.

My mom asked me what had kept me out so late. After my answer, the startling confusion on her face was priceless. "Protesting what?" she asked.
"Prop 8," I said.
"Oh, right--I heard that today," she replied.

I told her to cancel the plans we made for the weekend and that I was going to Fresno. http://www.meetinthemiddle4equality.com/
Hope to see you there!
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03:06 PM on 05/27/2009
I recently moved "home" to CA; I've been through this in MI to where I had migrated before I lost my job. My step mother, her daughter, and my father all voted for Prop 8, knowing full and well what they were doing. My step father and my own mother didn't agree that such a thing should ever be voted on. They abstained. Her reasoning when I questioned: "If it passes, it'll be in the courts the next day." She actually doesn’t understand why that hurts me.

I found a protest nearby my work. My sign read: Gay Rights = Human Rights. A journalist began to focus on me as I made it: in business attire, and, at a whopping 32, I was the oldest in the crowd. When I quietly displayed my sign first, she asked to interview me. I spoke freely about the personal impact this decision had on me: a single lesbian trying to start over.

We marched to the nearest intersection; there were 30 of us at most. 2 squad cars showed up for 15 minutes with no apparent reason for their presence: we stood peacefully on the corner. Many honked in support; less gave us the finger or shouted the usual slurs and the tried cry of "It's Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve!"

…Continued.
01:10 PM on 05/27/2009
The Court stated that there was no wording in the proposition showing intent to nullify existing marriages. Gays & Lesbians are free to marry, just as everyone else. Just not to members of the same sex. The issue is not one of civil rights. The issue is that a marriage has historically been defined & is defined pursuant to Federal law as a UNION BETWEEN A MAN & A WOMAN. You are free to be with whom you want to be. You are not free to change the definition which the majority finds acceptable. Hysterics only serve to cause others to dig in.

The CA Supreme Cort stated that pursuant to California law, a civil union has the legal rights & responsibilities or marriage.
07:49 PM on 05/27/2009
I was going to argue this but I am tired of the totally illogical arguments on here...

I WANT TO BE FREE TO MARRY THE PERSON I LOVE-NOT THE ONE YOU THINK I SHOULD!!!!!
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09:30 PM on 05/27/2009
And I want to make sure you have the same rights to love and marriage that I do as a straight woman! TruthJusticeForAll will fall behind the times quickly with that point of view! EQUALITY IS PROGRESSIVE, AND WILL CONTINUE TO MOVE US FORWARD AS A NATION!
01:08 PM on 05/27/2009
Let's be clear:

Gay people want a new right, not the same rights as straight people. Namely to marry the same sex.

Gays have the very same rights to marry as straights -- that is the opposite sex -- gays want a new right to marry the same sex --- straights DO NOT have this right!
01:28 PM on 05/27/2009
Your post is not clear and makes no sense.

Try again.
07:47 PM on 05/27/2009
uhmm no- we want the right to marry whoever we choose... Not a new right, a very old one. The same way interracial couples had the right to marry someone of their own race rather than someone from a different race but, wanted to marry the person they loved.

Big difference
12:33 PM on 05/27/2009
I was a little worried when the White House talking points sought to reassure people that Sotomayor agrees "with her more conservative nominees far more frequently than she disagrees with them." But I trust your assessment and hope she will make a fine justice.

As to the California Supreme Court, there was a time when it would have stood firm -- such as when they overturned the ban on interracial marriage (1948) or struck down an initiative that amended the constitution to repeal affirmative housing (1966), Now, on one hand, the Court stated that Prop 8 only eliminates the word "marriage," in all other respects the state still has an obligation to ensure equality between same-sex unions and traditional married couples. But they preserved existing marriages, in part, because marriage affected substantial rights. You can't have it both ways, and separate cannot be equal. Eventually, the opinion will go the way of Plessy. But for now the justices still seem to have the fate of the Bird court in the back of their minds.
01:13 PM on 05/27/2009
Interracial marriages & access to housing are matters of civil rights. Changing marriage form a union between a man & a woman to anything else is not a matter of civil rights.
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12:24 PM on 05/27/2009
I only have one concern about Judge Sotomayor which I think also should be nagging at you in the back of your mind, Mr. Romero, and that is what her stance will be on the issues of war crimes and constitutional civil rights. I am very proud to be a member of the ACLU because of the excellent work you have done, and I hope she will not be a Trojan Horse for Obama on these issues.
11:16 AM on 05/27/2009
I'm a white male and I've decided to come out of the closet.
12:46 PM on 05/27/2009
As a white male, you don't have to.
12:54 PM on 05/27/2009
Yes I do! It's the only way someone of my race and gender can obtain victim status.