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Facebook Rehab: Congratulations Mark, I'm Leaving

Posted: 05/20/2012 4:34 pm

Facebook is everywhere. Thanks to smartphones, Facebook is on the train, in shopping malls, in bars and restaurants, in everyday passing conversation, in multiple languages, in class, meetings, seminars, and even present during oral defenses for our MA dissertations. And now, it's on Wall Street.

It seems impossible to have a coffee, a dinner, a drink without someone supplementing the conversation with intermittent Facebook 'checking' or referring to it one way or another. My 'non-smart' phone and I are unable to combat such noise. Quite frankly, I have better things to do with my time then watch someone post a picture of our meal, scroll through their news feed and update their status to announce 'what a great time we're having.' Speak for yourself. The bonus is when I 'get' to view their ex-boyfriend's photos, as if I would find that more interesting than the dinner menu.

Yet I cannot judge too harshly, I was an addict too, an addict of Facebook. I can only be thankful I never purchased a smartphone. If I had, I wouldn't be writing this. I would be sitting in bed, scrolling through my FB news feed.

Just this year, Facebook has become a mover and shaker on Wall Street. As someone not overly thrilled with Wall Street, nor a fan of people making a ton of money for the sake of making a ton of money, I was happy to celebrate their success by vanquishing my allegiance. Call it an early wedding present for Mark -- one less user to worry about.

Though I am aware that Mark has given a chunk of his wealth to charity, Facebook appearing on Wall Street still leaves me with a dissonance.

However, the decision to delete my Facebook account did not originate from my disgust for cooperate greed. Instead, I left the social media because it was consuming my personal life. Nearly four years of pictures, videos, and witty (and not so witty) status updates are now gone (or at least archived in a "deleted content" file server earmarked for the CIA and FBI).

I found it rather symbiotic that my personal reservations were well timed to accompany Facebook's debut on Wall Street.

My only reason for joining Facebook was my international move to Asia. Ironically this move was due to me slowly going bankrupt in Chicago in 2008 -- underpaid, under-insured and slowing being buried in debt. The financial wizardry of Wall Street execs drove me to escape to international lands for a better paying job. For these reasons, it is difficult to find a soft spot for anyone joining the royal court of Goldman Sachs, no matter what their motive.

However, back in 2008, I had no idea I was feeding the same monster I was attempting to escape. Ironically, for much of the last few years, my expat status was the motive behind my Facebook loyalty. I remained a daily user, citing: 'keeping in touch with people back home.
I was a believer. I regularly sipped the Kool-Aid.

However, over the course of the spring I had a trial 'deactivation' of Facebook to focus on my MA dissertation. No longer was I spending precious time over status updates to impress or entice certain 'friends.' No longer was I endlessly searching on other peoples' profiles just to enter into a time-sucking dialog about what they had for dinner or why they supported Republicans.

And, when it came to privacy issues, I couldn't stop thinking about who was out there. I was friends with over 300 people, 200 of these 'friends' were not even people I would consider beyond a close acquaintances. Quite a few of them I didn't even like that much. Most of them barely knew me. Yet these were the people with whom I was 'friends' and shared my thoughts and musings.

What took me most off guard were my 'friends'' reaction to my retreat into non-Facebook land. Many applauded my actions, citing they 'wish they were strong enough to do it' and many others seemed honestly upset about it. All the sudden my retreat began to mirror a type of boundary-creating problem that alcoholics and drug users experience during rehab. Apparently, I am in Facebook rehab.

As Mr. Zuckerberg enjoys his Wall Street campaign and wedding nuptials, I am disappearing into the social media shadows. As an activity, it dangerously toes a line of ridiculous social behavior. Moreover, I'm not sure I want to align myself with a company joining the gang down at Wall Street, especially while many of its users are still struggling to pay their mortgage, taxes and find employment. However, I'm sure Mark has the best intentions, at least I hope so.

 

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Jock4uni
Fiscally conservative and socially progressive.
04:38 PM on 06/04/2012
Hello again, April Scalchert:

Lucky for me, I didn’t join facebook. I was an early user of, now mostly defunct, MySpace from 2005 to until its demise in 2010. Thanks to its purchase by none other than the maestro of Junk TV & Web News (save Wall Street Journal), Rupert Murdoch! Rupert turned this simple communication tool among friends, local and long-distance, into god-knows all sorts experiments, and many established users could not keep-up with all the changes and revisions that were being forced on them (myself included!), whether the users liked it or not,

I'm sure, facebook would have a similar fate in a few years, as it also presently following a similar trajectory as MySpace did. I think Twitter will survive as an instant messaging tool which is much more compact, and allows concise messages that are only 140 characters long!

BTW your Twitter page (@ASalchert) isn’t presently working.

So, nice to know you studied the Univ. of Chicago, and are now finishing master's degree in English Literature at Uppsala Univ. in Sweden. Looking forward to seeing you in States soon, perhaps teaching ESL to children from various embassies located in Washington, DC :-)

@Jock4uni
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WishfulThinkingRulesAll
Your micro-bio is empty
01:02 PM on 05/22/2012
I pop in on Facebook a few times a week, scan my sublist of feeds to see if anyone posted any interesting life updates, and then log off. I post about one status update for myself a year.

And get this, I count as an 'active user' to Facebook! Zuckerberg isn't going to make anything off me...
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thewho77
06:46 PM on 05/21/2012
Having people know your habits and thoughts is manna for criminals.
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thewho77
06:45 PM on 05/21/2012
I'm "Friends" with people you have never met, so they're not even an acquintance. That's strange. I spend about five minutes a month on Facebook. Investing in Facebook might be the next sub-prime mortgage fiasco.
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Pantsy
05:02 PM on 05/21/2012
maybe she needs to make better friends who arent rude. or not be 'friends' with 300 people, some she doesnt even like. (whats that about?)
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James F Barry
Interior Designer * Very Gay
01:28 PM on 05/21/2012
I'm staying until the next cool/hip site starts up or FB asks for money. Its not AOL, I don't need FB to log on to the web (for you young people back in the mists of time the 90's you needed to have a service to log on to the web)
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12:02 PM on 05/21/2012
Admittedly I'm not much of a consumer, social media or otherwise. Don't Facebook, Tweet or Tumbl. It is (slightly) entertaining to watch all my friends do it though, they seem to have lots of interesting pictures and updates of themselves. And the girls all seem to have that one pose down.

Skål, April and good luck on your MA...
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Logician Atheist Lefty
11:22 AM on 05/21/2012
Big Brother is watching - the more you share, the more they know. I don't use Facebook (never joined), I don't use Twitter (never joined) and I don't use Google anymore. These companies are tracking anything and everything you do online. Doesn't that make you a little uneasy? It should.
11:12 AM on 05/21/2012
I deleted my FB a couple of months ago. It is such a breath of fresh air. No more people concluding things from the four word status updates, no more worrying about who will see what, and I get invites from people either face-to-face, text, or phone calls. Which for some reason I feel is much better than anything FB could have offered me. Besides, this man gets to make money off the information that I choose to share? Why am I not making that money?
WishfulThinkingRulesAll
Your micro-bio is empty
01:04 PM on 05/22/2012
You could be like me a keep an account but not share anything on it. If my relatives decide to post pictures of their kids on Facebook rather than by e-mail, at least I will be able to see them.
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LJohns1216
Question Everything Republican
10:43 AM on 05/21/2012
Facebook and twitter are symptomatic of a societial shift to narcissism.

It coincides with our shift from "societal" capitalism to "greed" capitalist.

As a whole, unneccessary inventions which do more harm than good.
10:38 AM on 05/21/2012
Face time is better than Facebook. I am amazed every time I see someone ignore a human being right in front of them to give priority to their "electronic" friends.
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jeb50
Retired.
10:29 AM on 05/21/2012
If I want to communicate with someone a phone or e-mail work fine for me.
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gtobynj
If it's really funny, it's bound to offend someone
10:19 AM on 05/21/2012
I think I will go and check FaceBook. I haven't for a couple of days, so it will be nice to catch up with far flung friends and relatives. Thanks for the reminder.
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illegalneocon
10:09 AM on 05/21/2012
GUYS, DON'T be a follower. Just because a person don't like greedy corp.(she is broke, so envy is a better word) you will close your account. I use FB to comunicate with familly. Its a very good way to comunicate. If some one makes a ton of money in the process, good for them.
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10:27 AM on 05/21/2012
Communicating with family and sharing pictures and updates about activities has been PROVEN to cause IDENTITY THEFT, Robbers robbing your home while you are away, etc. So go ahead and "communicate" with everybody and you will end up screwed.
WishfulThinkingRulesAll
Your micro-bio is empty
01:05 PM on 05/22/2012
Or you go on a trip, then come back and post the photos.
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IsotelusMaximus
Under the Radar
10:05 AM on 05/21/2012
"The financial wizardry of Wall Street execs drove me to escape to international lands for a better paying job."

I would love to know why you think they targeted you, personally, and forced you to move to China.