People often ask how to make change easier in their own lives. They want to make a change, have tried it will varying degrees of success, but are still trying to figure out if there's some magic formula to it all.
Of course, I can't tell you a secret that will let you snap your fingers and make everything fall into place -- but through my research and in conversations with experts and individuals alike, I've come up with 9 principles of change that seem to be true of all people who are good at navigating the twists and turns of life. Read them and see which ones apply to you, and which ones you may want to try and use more fully!
I know -- and my team knows -- that these principles really work. Use them, and you'll be on the path to becoming a change optimist, one who understands that from even the most difficult change that something good will come. Need a bit more inspiration? Read some of the feedback from people who are putting these principles into action. These stories inspire me everyday. I believe in an individual's strength, commitment, willingness to embrace community and ability to take action. Start flexing that change muscle! I can't wait to hear about the results.
Principle 1: People who successfully navigate change have positive beliefs.
Your biggest need right now is to develop new beliefs: about yourself, about this change, and about life in general. Nothing will have a bigger impact on the way you move through change.
Principle 2: People who successfully navigate change know that change always brings something positive into their lives.
Every change has a gift associated with it. While it's natural to find change hard it's important to remember that there are two sides to every coin and that something positive will always come. This is by far the most important belief to have during the first thirty days of change.
Principle 3: People who successfully navigate change know they are resilient, strong, and capable of getting through anything.
You are much stronger, much smarter, and much more intuitive than you have ever been told. You are more resilient and more powerful. Once you truly know and believe this, you will be able to get through any change -- even the hardest one you can imagine.
Principle 4: People who successfully navigate change know that every challenging emotion they feel is not going to stop them and will guide them to positive emotions that help them feel better.
Negative emotions can stall us, making change harder, while the positive ones can help us move through a change in a simpler, quicker, and more conscious way.
Principle 5: People who successfully navigate change know that the quicker they accept the change, the less pain and hardship they will feel.
Let go of the idea of how life should be.
Principle 6: People who successfully navigate change use empowering questions and words, think better thoughts, and express their feelings.
At your most stuck point, if you can speak with different words, think a slightly better thought, and get in touch with how you are feeling, you can become unstuck in a matter of minutes.
Principle 7: People who successfully navigate change know they are connected to something bigger than themselves.
When everything around you is changing, look for the part of you that doesn't change. The part that is calm, centered and always there.
Principle 8: People who successfully navigate change are not alone; they surround themselves with people who can help, who have the right beliefs and skills. And they create an environment that supports their change.
One of our biggest flaws as human beings is that we keep thinking we are alone. Whatever the situation, there is always, always someone who can help.
Principle 9: People who successfully navigate change take action. They have a plan and know how to take care of themselves.
Actions come in many forms. Some are big and obvious; some are so small you may think they are irrelevant. But any good action you take is a choice to move forward.
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