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What Makes for a Great Memoir?

Posted: 05/16/11 02:14 PM ET

Are memoirs fact, fiction or a combination of both? It depends on how seriously you want to take them. Considering I can't always remember my exact words in a conversation I had yesterday, I find memoirs written with extensive dialogue that supposedly happened a decade ago a work of faux-fact, but it doesn't stop me from enjoying the tale.

Some might say my taste in memoirs and autobiographies range from the intense and demented (serial killers) to the cosmically abstract (reincarnation/spirit bodies). Regardless of what element I am experiencing in this voyeuristic way, I love memoirs. Why? Because they offer a rare opportunity to have an intimate look into the lives of interesting people and their experiences.

As documented in Ben Yagoda's book, Memoir: A History, published memoirs have increased 400 percent over the last four years and this statistic is what motivated Yagoda to trace autobiographies and memoirs back to the fifteenth century. What he found was fabulous facts intertwined with exaggerated selective memories. What makes them walk such a fine line depends on their purpose.

Why we love our memoirs:

  • They read like fiction which holds our creative attention
  • It focuses on a brief period of time or a series of events rather than a lifetime
  • We see the irony and meaning of the events as they unfold
  • The narrator does well to walk us through conflicts and flashbacks
  • We learn the impact of an interesting turn of events
  • We engage on a higher emotional level than if the story was being told about the author
  • We know the author survives the crisis and we want to learn how
  • Often includes the viewpoints of family members and friends to create a multi-dimensional account of the events


One of my favorite memoir is Laura Munson's New York Times best-seller, This Is Not The Story You Think It is...A Season of Unlikely Happiness. This book is quite simply fabulous. Laura's noble quest to become the source of her own happiness takes you by the hand and heart as it guides you through the steps to living a life without suffering. Her story pulls back the curtain on the only magic we ever need to know: how to make the shift from fear to love.

Other favorites include:
Shirley Maclaine's I'm Over All That and Other Confessions which shares her current point of view on everything from money, love and fame to what's going to happen on December 21, 2012. For me, reading it was like having an intimate dinner with a longtime friend.

Nancy Cooke DeHerrera's All You Need Is Love: An Eyewitness Account of When Spirituality Spread from the East to the West in which she tells the intimate details of her life, which include her friendship with the Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, founding father of Transcendental Meditation, and their time together in the Valley of the Saints with the Beatles, Mia Farrow, Mike Love, Donovan, and Paul Horn.

Rampuri's Autobiography of a Sadhu: A Journey into Mystic India, is Rampuri's true story of moving to India at age 18, meeting his Guru and having many spiritual adventures. Today he is a highly esteemed holy man who is head of the Naga Baba sadhu's. This autobiography is filled with true accounts of magic, miracles, ghosts, and lessons on Hindu gods, a real E-ticket ride through the holy land of India.

What have been your favorite memoirs? What autobiographies have you related to or learned the most from? I'd love to add yours to my reading list!

 
 
 
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donnyraindog
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06:06 PM on 05/18/2011
No mention of Frank Mc Court and Angelas Ashes? The success of mr . mc courts work in the 90s opened the flood gatesfor memoirs of junkies drunks housewifes and kids tooyoung to have lived a life much less write one.
05:16 PM on 05/17/2011
SIXTYFIVE ROSES: A SISTER'S MEMOIR

"Read this book; your life will never be the same." - Storycircle Network Review
"Staggering." - Hudson Reporter
"A gift to the world. I laughed and cried and couldn't put it down. It is so truthful, so real and has such complete integrity." - Miriam Greenspan, author of Healing Through the Dark Emotions: The Wisdom of Grief, Fear and Despair

www.sixtyfiverosesthebook.com
11:43 AM on 05/17/2011
The reasons we love memoir--great list! At the National Association of Memoir Writers, we often discuss these issues. In fact, Shirley Showalter was our guest last week at our free roundtable! Some of the memoirs on our list include Mary Karr's triology, Mark Matousek's Sex, Death, and Enlightenment, Tracy Seeley's My Ruby Slippers, and of course Frank McCourt's classic. I like to teach Black Dog of Fate and Testimony of Youth to illustrate war memoirs. -Linda Joy Myers
12:33 AM on 05/17/2011
I highly recommend "Letters From A Distant Shore", a mother's memoir from Marie Lawson Fiala.
It's the story of a family's medical crisis when their 13-year-old son suffers a massive brain hemorrhage. Keep the tissue box handy and prepare for the inspiring miracle that will touch your soul.
thebigbike
ran away to be a cowboy
09:49 PM on 05/16/2011
Eisely's "All the Strange Hours" (hhmmmm "strange" again wonder what that says about me?)
thebigbike
ran away to be a cowboy
09:47 PM on 05/16/2011
right now in the middle of Carl Sandburg's "Always the Young Strangers" about his youth days in Illinois before the turn of (19th-20th Century) totally unsentimental

also Loren Eisely's on what it took just to survive the Great Depression again, hardly sentimental but neither hiding the rough spots nor exaggerating them.
07:26 PM on 05/16/2011
Thanks to Marla Miller, I found this fun essay. I love the eclectic list you have put together, Arielle. May I add it to my list of lists? I have compiled lists from Mary Karr, Sue Silverman, and added my own top ten list. You can see all of them here: http://100memoirs.com/top-memoir-lists/

Will love to see the suggestions of your readers, also.
05:54 PM on 05/16/2011
I think my favorite memoir is The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls. It's told through the eyes of the sweet young girl she was, and you can feel that she deeply loves her parents, yet is awakening to the dysfunction in her family. I think anyone who struggles to make peace with their family of origin would be mesmerized by this book.

http://www.nancypeske.com