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My Most Important Job

Posted: 06/18/2012 4:04 pm

A few days ago, I went to my 10-year-old daughter's band concert. It was a great evening, and after the show a few parents told me they were surprised I'd made it, considering my schedule -- which got me thinking. To me, it was unfathomable that I could have something more important to do. This was my child -- I was supposed to be there. There was nothing more important I could do than be supportive as a dad.

Somewhere during the course of our national dialogue, our expectations for parents have lowered, particularly for fathers. Today, I want to challenge every father to step up. If we want strong schools and strong communities, we need more dads involved.

Young people know how important it is for dads to be involved in their lives. As I travel the country and talk with students, some of them tell me that their lives would be totally different if their father was around.

The statistics on this front are staggering. Almost 24 million children -- one in three -- are likely growing up without their father involved in their lives. Those statistics are even higher if you look at the numbers inside our communities of color. That absence puts much too great a burden on our strong moms and teachers. Everyone is trying to do their part, but when dad is not around, we are all playing a man down on the team.

We know that increasing parent involvement, particularly the involvement of fathers, is key to improving schools and communities across the country. As we work to drive down drop-out rates and increase graduation and college completion rates, fathers have an important role to play.

Research shows that children do better in school and are less likely to drop out when fathers are involved. Engaged parents can strengthen communities, mentor and tutor students, and demonstrate through their actions how much they value their children's education. Great teachers and principals make a huge difference, but they can't do it by themselves. At the Education Department, we are investing more in parental engagement. We are re-doubling our efforts -- and asking Congress to double the budget for parent engagement programs to about $280 million from about $135 million -- in order to get more dads and parents engaged. We're looking at programs that are already making a difference and scaling them up to help improve more communities.

These efforts at the Department of Education are part of a larger project underway through the president's Fatherhood and Mentoring Initiative to help dads connect to their families and to raise awareness about responsible fatherhood. Through this Initiative, the president is lifting up positive examples of fathers and father figures in local communities.

These "Fatherhood Heroes" are connecting with local, community-based institutions like barber shops through the Fatherhood Buzz Barbershop Tour to help fathers get the tools and information they need to participate in the lives of their families.

As the president has said, "Fathers are our first teachers and coaches. They're our mentors and role models. They set examples of success and push us to succeed ourselves -- encouraging us when we're struggling; loving us even when we disappoint them; standing by us when no one else will. And when fathers are absent, when they abandon the responsibilities to their children, we know the damage that that does to our families."

Fathers: we must be there for our kids. Instead of lowering expectations, let's raise them.

 

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A few days ago, I went to my 10-year-old daughter's band concert. It was a great evening, and after the show a few parents told me they were surprised I'd made it, considering my schedule -- which got...
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John Badalament
11:57 PM on 06/27/2012
I took this video of Sec. Duncan delivering this brief speech to Fatherhood leaders at the White House Champions of Change event two weeks ago...
09:49 PM on 06/24/2012
You head a department that shouldn't exist.
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07:47 PM on 06/24/2012
6/24/12
7:47pm
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We can't force fathers to support their children.

What we can do is make sure every child has access to a computer at school, at least. I think that's what should be happening in the classroom to get the students interested and motivated.
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allwarisbad
07:42 PM on 06/24/2012
O's cabinet does phaat at lot :)
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rabiddog6708
This Dog's bite is Worse Than his Bark
07:01 PM on 06/24/2012
The American Dream is over and both parents have to work to get by, which is why families are suffering. And neither party is going to do anything to help change things.
10:14 PM on 06/24/2012
The American Dream is only over for those who don't believe in it.
ubrew12
that crazy uncle from Amarcord
05:50 PM on 06/24/2012
"Today, I want to challenge every father to step up."
Yeah, that'll do it. This nations GDP has tripled since 1973, but the average working person's salary hasn't moved a centavo. Germans work a 35 hr workweek. Americans work longer than anyone else on the planet, 45 to 60 hrs/week, and Duncan would like to see that increase, as would most Republicans. And if all of this depressing news causes fathers to miss their children's events, then lets pile on the fathers for being the demoralized, working-class stooges we know they are. They just need to get right with Jesus.

This nations annual subsidy to JP Morgan is $14 billion. That's the lowered borrowing cost they incur from bondholders because they are officially 'too big to fail'. So, they can afford to be generous and they are, with their salaries.

Until this system is fixed, don't challenge fathers to prioritize themselves. They're putting food on the table, and getting their noses shoved in it both at work and at home.
05:29 PM on 06/24/2012
Perhaps we could invest millions of dollars into Standardized Testing for fathers.
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TexasTreader
Fluffy, the yard dog
01:52 PM on 06/24/2012
People who excuse the father from their family are more likely to vote democrat.
ubrew12
that crazy uncle from Amarcord
05:44 PM on 06/24/2012
There's just no excuse for fathers.
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Mark MacDonald
Pass the Scotch
01:52 PM on 06/24/2012
Exactly how do we get 'fathers' involved in the lives of their children when so many of them are described as 'my baby's daddy'? The decline in American education has coincided precisely with the increase of single parent families in our nation, but people will not suggest a cause and effect relationship because they are afraid to offend somebody. Good for you for having a pair Arne
01:40 PM on 06/24/2012
If you're as good a father as you are Sec. of Ed. you might want to consider putting some money away for the kids' therapy bills.

(The good news is you're only the third bad hire I think of when deciding whether to send President Obama $19 or more than $19.)
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10:48 AM on 06/24/2012
You've lost all credibility with me, Arne. I don't look favorably on people who try to dismantle the public school system, something which will eventually lead to Congressional lack of funding/refusal to fund private education for the masses, widespread illiteracy and third world status. Anything else I might say would only get me in trouble.
10:22 AM on 06/24/2012
Education is but only one of the casualties of single parent households
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rothomaha
The Truth will out
09:35 AM on 06/24/2012
Earth to Arne - first of all, the 24 million fathers you mention are not reading this blog; second, and far more important, absentee fatherhood derives almost exclusively from the failure of our social structure and is not likely to be remedied by a Sunday morning blog. While I entirely concur with your conclusion regarding the importance of fatherhood(with three grown boys of my own), I can assure you that the domestic court system does little to nothing to facilitate contact between father and son, instead treating children as objects of exchange, valuing them more in terms of dollars of child support than as young humans in need of nurture. More egregious still, the courts do absolutely nothing to ensure that those child support dollars are spent for "child support", and far too often they go for maternal whims. With the deck stacked this way, it should be no wonder to you, Arne, that fathers disappear into the woodwork. I'd suggest you focus on fixing some REAL problems, like keeping the Kochs out of the henhouse, shutting down useless and mercenary for-profit schools and the like, instead of wading into social issues about which you appear to know nothing!
08:43 AM on 06/24/2012
VERY well said. And I didn't know that the Obama administration was actively investing in this issue. One more reason to be fired up and do everything we can to see the good work continued in 2013!
Mike Block
Mikeology (mycology)- the study of Fun Guy (fungi)
11:58 AM on 06/21/2012
Thank you Secretary Duncan! I've tried so hard to be a presence in my childrens' lives. I know it's been a boon to their development. My folks got divorced when I was 6, and I can't imagine how it would affect my kids if that happened. My wife and I provide tremendous support for them. She's been a Girl Scout troop leader for 3 years. I've helped my son's soccer coaches and went to every game. My girl is in the Talented and Gifted program at her school. Despite being 4 days away from being put in the lower grade (her b-day is 12/26 and the cutoff is 1/1) she tested in the 98 percentile.

I had a client tell me before they were born that I would be an amazing dad. I've aspired to that and like to think I've achieved it. The only regret I have is that at some point this will end. I love being a father and my heart will break when they go off into the world on their own.

Tax churches, bring the troops home, let the banks fail and vote Mike Block in 2016!

Excelsior!