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An Open Letter to Gay Republicans

Posted: 01/10/12 07:44 PM ET

Dear gay Republicans,

Rick Santorum's surge and near-win in Iowa should be a wake-up call: your party hates you.

Let's put economic and other issues aside for a moment; we can have a spirited debate about the backward GOP approach to taxes, the environment, and foreign policy another time. I don't understand how you can look beyond the fact that a major portion of your party's fundamental beliefs are that you are not equal.

This isn't a minor issue within your party. The Republican Party platform calls for amending the United States Constitution to discriminate against you. Party officials actually want to use our country's foundational document, which grants and extends rights and freedoms to people, to limit yours. But that's only the tip of the iceberg.

Santorum's come-from-behind, surprise second-place finish is creating quite a mess in the primary. Not only does he have a long history of anti-gay remarks, but his campaign is centered around coded homophobia. When he is asked a question about most issues, he brings it back to the family. Even the poor economy he manages to blame on the breakdown of the "traditional family." And when he talks about needing to return to our "traditional family," he's speaking to fellow homophobes about how scary us gays are. Because he doesn't actually care about families; if he did, he'd support adoptions by LGBT couples, marriage rights for same-sex couples who already have children, and all manner of legal rights to parents of children in LGBT relationships that are not now afforded them, including hospital visitation rights, access to survivors benefits for social security, and a host of other necessary protections for the family. No, when he says "family," he means straight families, and all of his supporters know that.

Your party has, as one of its major leading presidential candidates, a person who doesn't think you should be able to serve openly in the military, who doesn't believe that you can create a loving family, who thinks that your committed relationships are destroying the moral fabric of America. Your party has thrown you in the deviant pile. Your party has labeled you a sexual predator. Your party is afraid of you and does not incorporate your voice or believe in your dignity.

This fact isn't a small debate within your party. It is not some misguided homophobes who are simply unaware of the LGBT community and all its accomplishments, struggles, and contributions, speaking out of turn and out of step with the platform. This is your party's platform. They don't like you, they don't want you, and they want to strip you of your rights and make you and your core personhood illegal, and Santorum exemplifies it. Even though he will almost certainly never be president, your party elevates him to the highest levels. I'm sorry that this has to be pointed out so bluntly.

And sadly, even so-called "moderates" like Romney have been forced to mimic Santorum on all LGBT issues in order to increase their electability. So when you vote for these guys and actively try to put them in power, you are hurting yourself, you are hurting me, you're hurting every loving LGBT family, and, most importantly, you're hurting America. Hate is not a family value. Hate is not an American value. Hate should not be a Republican value, but it is.

As a gay man, I humbly ask that you withdraw your support from the Republican Party unless and until the homophobic party platform is demonstrably and fully remediated. Bullies cannot serve the people of the United States of America, uphold the Constitution, or embrace you.

Sincerely,
Asher Huey

 

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Dear gay Republicans, Rick Santorum's surge and near-win in Iowa should be a wake-up call: your party hates you. Let's put economic and other issues aside for a moment; we can have a spirited deba...
Dear gay Republicans, Rick Santorum's surge and near-win in Iowa should be a wake-up call: your party hates you. Let's put economic and other issues aside for a moment; we can have a spirited deba...
 
 
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Joe Villanova
average east coast bearish man
07:38 AM on 01/26/2012
Thank you.
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EsterGoldberg
The International Glamour Puss of All Media
02:48 PM on 01/22/2012
AMEN
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MissTake1989
Equal means equal, hypocrites.
04:19 PM on 01/13/2012
Q-Why does anyone except the top 1% vote for the GOP?

A- Feminists, PETA and similarly extreme elements of the left are successfully caricatured by the right until enough people who agree with basic Democratic principles distance themselves from them.

If the left would just distance itself from these elements and concentrate on a message of basic fairness for everyone, it would trade 2% of the electorate for an additional 20%.
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Anym
Obama is GoldmanSachs
05:08 PM on 01/21/2012
Wow.

SO the problem isn't Democrats ties to Wall St., or certain Democrats obstruction of Good Legislation for their corporate pay masters benefit.
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MissTake1989
Equal means equal, hypocrites.
06:15 PM on 01/21/2012
GIven the GOP's unending quest to bring back robber baron capitalism?

No.
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Curtis inSF
Gay Progressive Agnostic Graphic Designer
02:30 PM on 01/26/2012
Yeah those rotten feminists. Equal pay for equal work? How could you not get behind wanting to eject them from the Democratic party, their demands are so extreme?
03:14 AM on 01/13/2012
The problem with social conservatives and economic liberals is that they don't believe that people will do the right thing all on their very own. I am a Republican Party Precinct Chair because I believe in individual liberty. I don't believe in forced charity and I don't believe that who you can marry should be dictated to you by the state. So why don't you Crats come over and join me in the Republican Party and help me change the damn plank!
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Curtis inSF
Gay Progressive Agnostic Graphic Designer
02:34 PM on 01/26/2012
Because I know my history and I know that a system that relies exclusively on voluntary charity as a social safety net left millions of Americans starving, without health care and living in abhorrent conditions of extreme poverty. History is clear: we do not do the right thing simply because we should, there is not a shred of evidence to suggest this has ever happened int he history of humanity once we moved beyond small insular tribes.
04:26 PM on 01/26/2012
because you are obviously not doing a great job of convincing the rest of your party that. Why would I join a party who can't stop talking about how I'm not equal and that I'm comparable to beastiality? I commend you for believing it's our choice, but you are still part of a bigger group (by choice) that wants to take my liberties away. Maybe you should join a 3rd party group because it seems that your beliefs don't match up to theirs.
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02:03 AM on 01/13/2012
Here's how I could see this actually working:
Gay Republicans create a splinter party that shares the Republican party's economic and political platform but drops the social aspects. With sufficient support for this new third party, the Republican party's ability to successfully get members elected will be crippled. This would force the main Republican party to acknowledge the concerns of that group of their base. They amend their platform as a party, and gay republicans can go back to it knowing that any republicans who continue to campaign on an anti gay platform don't have mainstream support from their party.
03:16 AM on 01/13/2012
I believe that this splinter group is called Libertarian.
03:15 PM on 01/13/2012
I don't think so. I believe most gays would generally be in favor of government protecting their minority status against persecution in the private sector. Libertarians tend to feel the private sector should be allowed to discriminate all they want.
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Chris Marshall 3
12:46 AM on 01/22/2012
Log Cabin Republicans? I, myself, am a Green and proud of it!
04:58 PM on 01/12/2012
Urging gay Republicans and gay-friendly moderate Republicans to leave the party over these issue is precisely the wrong thing to do if we want to see the GOP move in the right direction on these issues. From outside the party we can no longer call and work for reform.

I will presume that the author hadn't thought of that, rather than cynically jump to the conclusion that making the GOP even more radically out of the mainstream on GLBT issues so as to hinder its political prospects is his main objective.
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01:56 AM on 01/13/2012
Actually, he probably did think of that. I wouldn't be surprised if that was the thought process going on in the heads of most of these gay republicans he speaks of. But I'm not sure it can really work. I doubt you could get Santorum to even admit they exist, and that kind of thing would interfere with that plan.
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Curtis inSF
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02:36 PM on 01/26/2012
what exactly has 30 years of Log Cabin republican activism accomplished? The GOP is more extreme in it's antipathy towards Gays than at any point in it's history.
04:11 PM on 01/12/2012
Rick Santorum fell flat on his face in New Hampshire. Mitt Romney, who flip-flops so much that we don't know what his position on same-sex marriage is, and Ron Paul, who is a libertarian who has said "sure" to same-sex marriage and that "any association that's voluntary" should be permissible in a free society also had strong showings in both Iowa and New Hampshire. Identity politics does not sway me. Also, we shouldn't put economic issues aside when our unemployment rate nears 10% and our national debt equals our entire economy.
01:59 PM on 01/12/2012
You lost me at, "Let's put economic and other issues aside for a moment." When did identity politics become the trump card for political party for affiliation? Personally, I can't really base my politics on a singular issue. Maybe you can. Is it material? Yes. Is it a sufficient condition necessitating membership in a certain political party? No.
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yourmuse
Perspective pries your once-weighty eyes
02:28 PM on 01/13/2012
I understand what you're saying, but for a party's major candidates to say "we reject you and your right to equality," is substantial enough IMO.
04:09 PM on 01/13/2012
Definitely substantial, but imagine if I was a rich catholic gay Cuban-American male veteran anti-choicer with substantial holdings in big businesses with a distrust of big government and market regulations and anti-immigration. This letter tells me that, despite my Republican tendencies, I should deny my other beliefs and immutable identities to promote my individual rights as a gay man, or I'd be shooting myself in the foot. Meanwhile, being gay is one of my many identities as an individual. Would Pro-Choicers accuse me of shooting myself in the foot if I went Democrat? So which part of my identity and belief system prevails? Do I have to choose? Is one more important? Gay>Catholic>Cuban>Anti-Choice?

I took a class called Sexism and Power in college. I learned about feminism by reading Betty Friedan's Feminine Mystique. I loved it; I immediately identified as a feminist. As the class went on, we read bell hooks, Catherine MacKinnon, and a variety of Multicultural Feminist literature, and I realized I've been looking at feminism from a rich white woman's perspective! But what if I was a poor disabled black woman? How does feminism change for me? What this highlighted for me, with respect to gay rights, is the multifaceted nature of identity. So who's right - Betty Friedan or Angela Davis? Similarly - Andrew Sullivan or Michael Warner? Is there a right or wrong as this article implies? Feminism changes for every woman. Why can't gay rights change for everyone?
01:23 PM on 01/12/2012
San Diego's conservative Republican mayor was strongly against marriage equality... UNTIL his lesbian daughter must have had a heart-to-heart talk with him. Here is the link to his VERY EMOTIONAL speech where he recanted his former views. THIS should be watched by ALL who would deny these fundamental and constitutionally guaranteed rights to the citizens of any country on this planet.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SnTwrnKb61Q

This was all over the Internet immediately following its posting, but the message is timeless and vital to securing our rights and communicating the unfairness of DOMA and in ensuring that Marriage Equality becomes the law of the land. PLEASE forward this link to ANY politician who opposes granting the GLBT community our basic rights as citizens.
11:27 AM on 01/12/2012
Last I checked Barak Obama doesn't support gay marraige either . . . biggotry and homophobia exist in both parties. That fact aside, wouldn't it be nice if the Republican party whole-heartedly supported marriage and other civil rights for the LGBT community? That's what I'm fighting for within the Republican party, and I'm doing it by supporting pro-gay, conservative candidates at the local, state and national level. That is the only winning strategy to gain nationally recognized civil rights for our community. And once we succeed, the vacillating Democratic party will finally be able to openly support gay civil rights as well. It's a win-win!
03:29 PM on 01/12/2012
Fighting within the Republican party? Its a losing battle. LMAO.
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practiceempathy
Tolerance need not yield to willful ignorance.
03:41 PM on 01/12/2012
How can you be proud to be a member of a party that hates you?

They DO hate you.

I simply do not understand.

Willing to compromise your self-respect to join a hateful movement causes me to question your character.

What on Earth do you have to be proud of?
05:57 PM on 01/12/2012
Tell that to my U.S. Senator, Lisa Murkowski, a republican, who supports gay rights.
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gaydood
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09:56 AM on 01/12/2012
Get Educated About Homosexuality
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PSQSx3OCrXQ&feature=related

VOTE OUT THE GOPEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!
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MemphisHopJack
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09:47 AM on 01/12/2012
Most of the gay Republicans I know are well off financially. They are insulated from the
discriminatory
nature of the party line. (Kind of like a rich alcoholic-- they have enough money to never hit bottom and therefore seek treatment).
A wealthy gay Republican is not particularly concerned about the benefits that marriage would bring. They can circumvent some of those obstacles with enough money. They are comfortable, no one bothers or discriminates against them and they fly under the radar and are more interested in the other issues the Republicans represent.
This is not my opinion-- this is what several gay Republican friends tell me when I ask them why they are Republican.
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02:13 AM on 01/13/2012
Sounds like they're over-privileged. Just because they won't benefit doesn't mean they shouldn't care. I'm not even gay, but this issue matters to a lot of people, and the vitriol from the right concerning the issue are actively hurting kids trying to come to terms with the many problems of growing up. People commit suicide over taunts and abuse. The continued efforts to justify anti gay-marriage laws just vindicates the taunts in the minds of those who cast them.
08:57 AM on 01/12/2012
I am all for inclusion and hoping to get a seat at the table. But let's be realistic, they do not want you in their club. Wake up and smell the coffee.
08:52 AM on 01/17/2012
social issues pale in comparison to owning a business and being responsible for them. They should support the party b/c without it the course alternative will be much worse. Progressives are often anti-Semitic and history would prove to be pretty anti-gay. Many young gay men are hanged in Iran for being gay, or women stoned for flirting, women have no rights. But in a democracy with equal rights we will get to the point where republicans will support this group. Many many I know already do...things take time, but it will happen. But turning our country more socialist or communist won't be better for a gay person either. lawyers love the idea as there is a fortune awaiting in all of the divorce trials that eventually come from impending divorces!
08:13 AM on 01/12/2012
thanks Asher very well said...but they (gay Republicans) so deep in the party they can't see their way out....what they will say well someone has to be in their to help them to change which there is some truth to that but they can't seem to get in deep enough into the party to make that change. so when they say we need to have gay people in the Republican party ask them how close are they to the canadiates and if they can't answer it then they are not making changes....its as simple as that
12:43 AM on 01/12/2012
There is a difference between being a Gay Republican and agreeing with all the party's ideals. Same as being Catholic and eating beef on Friday. Just because the majority of GOP candidates are against equal marriage, etc. doesn't mean we should put a hold on our fiscal, economical, and governing ideals. We should be able to change the social ideas from the inside out. Not all republicans hate the LGBT community, though they will sell us out for a vote. That is the same with most any politician. The President does not seal the deal. If more Gay Republicans were not afraid to show their true colors many stances would change in the positions of GOP candidates and the entirety of the Republican party.
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CheapTrick
Them or Us.
10:31 AM on 01/12/2012
Ok but after a couple decades of openly gay people in the republican party trying the "change the party from within," you've accomplished nothing. Nothing at all.

They just take your vote for granted (it is), and then tell you to go lay down in the ditch and keep quiet until the next election.

No, not all GOP candidates hate the gay community. But VIRTUALLY all of them do. And pretty much all the ones who stand a chance at being elected are. Fred Karger doesn't count. He's a joke candidate.

If you really want to change the republican party... Just don't vote. You don't have to change your party affiliation or economic positions. Just send them the message that you refuse to vote for them until they stop using you as bait. Stop letting them take your vote for granted until they focus on the economic issues you support.

They said they would focus on jobs from day one... What they did, however is do nothing but go for the gay community, immigrants and women. Stop enabling them.
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practiceempathy
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03:51 PM on 01/12/2012
That's what they are doing. They are empowering the enemy. The relationship is totally codependent.
06:12 PM on 01/12/2012
so what about the Log Cabin Republicans getting DADT thrown out?? Seems the gay-loving Democrats sure did a lot to get rid of DADT & DOMA.... > _