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Peaceful Revolution: EU: Don't Force Women to Stay Home!

Posted: 3/10/10

The European Union Commission has proposed a new directive, to be voted on in March, that would make maternity leave compulsory for the first six weeks after a woman gives birth. You read that correctly -- compulsory. As in, women would be forced to stay home, regardless of their own wishes, if they have children.

Beyond the obvious affront on personal free will, the problems with this proposal are so numerous and egregious it's making our heads spin. Firstly, Europe as a whole already suffers from low female labor participation rates; continent-wide, only six out of ten women work. This is a major problem for the region, as it turns out women have been the key factor driving economic growth worldwide in recent years ("women have contributed more to global GDP growth than have either new technology or the new giants, China and India," according to a pre-mancession article in The Economist). Stigmatizing women by telling employers outright that women will not, by law, be as committed to the workplace as men is a foolish and self-defeating move.

Potential economic impact aside, what really riles us up is the huge step backwards the proposition would entail in social and cultural terms. By mandating that women take maternity leave, and saying absolutely nothing about fathers, the EU would send a continent-wide message that being a parent is primarily a woman's responsibility. Some individuals happen to believe this; that's their opinion and they're entitled to it. But this viewpoint and the mandatory maternity leave proposal violate the EU's own official goals, which state that women and men should have the same opportunities to combine their work, personal, and family lives. Not only would the mandate push women back into an antiquated role of homemaker and caretaker that many of us have struggled, for centuries!, to free ourselves from, it would signal to the citizens of the European Union, and to the world at large, that women belong at home with their babies, and that work, for childbearing women, comes second. Whether or not you would personally make the choice to stay home for the first weeks or months or even years of your child's life is one thing: feel free to do as you please. But forcing everyone to do this is a sign that, from the top down, society has reached a verdict on parenthood, and that verdict places women firmly in the role of primary caregiver.

Not only does this possible mandate have a potentially disastrous effect on women, but on men as well! For the past couple of decades reform has been slowly but surely brewing regarding fatherhood. Official policy has not always caught up with social norms. The view of the "modern father" of the twenty-first century is not the suit-clad man who returns home from work late at night; he is the Baby Björn touting playground regular who sees fatherhood as a hands-on job. Sweden has provided paternity leave for fathers for decades. The rest of Europe has, in recent years, been catching up. Each day of paternity leave given to fathers is not just a day won in the life of a family, but a huge achievement in the direction of a cultural paradigm shift- one where shared, even equal, parenting is the norm. The damage the EU mandate, which completely ignores fatherhood and sends the message that the care of children is only a mother's right as well as responsibility, may have on the view of parenting can't be overstated.

To put it simply: the EU proposition sends a message that is at odds with all the progress recent years have shown about cultural views of parenthood.

Don't get us wrong, parental leave is a wonderful thing. It gives parents the opportunity to bond with their babies. It gives families options. But mandating that all women take leave for the first six weeks is preposterous! What if the woman is the sole breadwinner in the family? What if she has post-partum depression? What if the couple prefers that the husband be the primary caretaker during the first six weeks? What if she can't breastfeed? (Breastfeeding seems to be at the core of those arguments that support women staying home rather than men with young children. But not all women choose to breastfeed and some cannot, and some choose to pump so other caregivers can feed their baby breast milk So don't use breastfeeding as an argument for why men are not as qualified as women to take care of babies. We're not buying it.)

Sweden, which already guarantees mothers and fathers 18 months of parental leave to be split between the parents as they see fit, has slammed the proposal. In an op-ed, Sweden's Minister of EU Affairs, Birgitta Ohlsson, writes "On a personal level, if the proposal were to come into force it would prevent me from working. As a mother-to-be I would have had to turn down my new job as Swedish Minster for EU Affairs." If the proposal passes, it threatens not only to put Ohlsson out of a job, but also to compromise Sweden's uniquely egalitarian parental leave policies as a whole. Don't bring bad decisions down on countries that already have better policies of their own.

Hey EU Commission: scrap the proposal! And write a new one that guarantees a certain number of weeks of parental leave for women as well as men -- but don't force anyone to take it. That would truly be taking a step in the right direction.

A Peaceful Revolution is a blog about innovative ideas to strengthen America's families through public policies, business practices, and cultural change. Done in collaboration with MomsRising.org, read a new post here each week.

 
 
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04:58 AM on 03/13/2010
" What if the woman is the sole breadwinne­r in the family? " Maternity leave is paid, so I don't understand this argument.
03:53 AM on 03/12/2010
Love the blog! Keep up the good work!

This is what the British newspaper "The Guardian" reports on this:

http://www­.guardian.­co.uk/uk/2­010/feb/24­/eu-plans-­maternity-­leave-incr­ease

I can't really say how it is reported in all the countries in the EU, since my language skills are somewhat limited, but I find it very interestin­g to see how it is being angled in the UK, not a word about the compulsory part!

This is what this blog is about! These ladies are NOT against parental leave, and if you have read any of the other blogs this ought to be pretty clear!

I would like to quote a fellow commentato­r, dcoverley: "The proposal should apply to both parents, to work out as they see fit. I see many references to unscrupulo­us employers. How about laws that apply consequenc­es directly with their unscrupulo­usness?"

Give parents the right to choose what is best for their family. And put the restrictio­ns on the companies instead! It all comes down to creating a climate where it is more than OK, even encouraged­, to take parental leave. The complex issue of equality is not solved over night, but I think forcing someone to stay at home is a step in the wrong direction.
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07:52 AM on 03/12/2010
Now, there you go...you said even better than I!
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dcoverley
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07:53 AM on 03/12/2010
*it*
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06:18 PM on 03/11/2010
Wait a minute, you WANT to have to do work while raising a baby?!
02:59 AM on 03/12/2010
No, not have to do work. But not have to stay at home either!

I WANT to be able to choose what is best for my family myself!
05:51 PM on 03/11/2010
Honestly, I can't believe this. Can I testify to them about how I was banging my head against the walls (figurativ­ely) after being at home for 8 days with a newborn? I took six weeks off, unpaid leave, & I didn't like the vast majority of that time. I love my work & I missed it. Luckily we had flexible workplaces & my husband ultimately took his parental leave while I went back to work; he has since cut back to part-time work & become a stay-at-ho­me-dad. I was happier at work, he was happier at home, & this policy leaves no room for situations like ours. I have enjoyed being a working mom from the day I went back to meetings at 10 days postpartum to now. I exclusivel­y breastfed my son by pumping (& feeding when home) for a year.

Not every mother wants to be home full-time & this policy is assuming that all do! I'm assuming that the motivation is to avoid women being pressured to come back earlier. In fact, this is taking power away from women to make their own choices about what works for them & their families. There are many issues in the US with maternity leave, things such as it generally being unpaid leave and that the limits, for some women, aren't as long as they'd like to have with their infants. I agree that these are issues. To force the other direction is incorrect.
04:09 PM on 03/11/2010
Are you kidding? Most of us in America would love to have 6 weeks maternity leave for ALL women. MOST women - at least EVERY one I have known -- needed time to physically HEAL after childbirth­. And what about all the hormonal swings, engorged breasts, bleeding, and all the other wonderful post partum effects. Also to downplay the importance of maternal bonding in those early weeks is ignorant. The baby has been inside mom for 9 months and there is already a huge connection - that gets built upon in those first weeks. This is why after baby is born, they already turn their heads when they hear mom's voice and are attached to the smells of mom. Sure Dad, Grandma, Nanny, etc can be involved - but you can't say it's the same as the mother/bab­y bond.
03:34 PM on 03/11/2010
Astri, judging by your name you could be German like me. Here in Germany, women earn a quarter less than men doing exactly the same job. So instead of complainin­g about "forced" maternity leave, you might want to complain about that one.

Besides, all of my friends who already have children would loved to have been able to stay at home for six weeks. So stop complainin­g and worry about the real issues instead.
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08:37 AM on 03/11/2010
“maternity leave compulsory for the first six weeks after a woman gives birth.”
Are you sure this isn’t being done to stop unscrupulo­us employers pressurisi­ng new mothers into working? How about a law that defined a set number of days. Which could then be claimed equally, or in any percentage deemed equitable to the two new parents. Damn. I see further down, that the Swedes have already thought of this. But perhaps this is where we’re going wrong. By failing to scour the world for the best ideas in any given sphere, and introducin­g those
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09:01 AM on 03/11/2010
I like how you think
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08:00 AM on 03/11/2010
What a daft complaint! I agree with many of the comments that here in America we would love to have family friendly legislatio­n like this. Six weeks sounds like an appropriat­e time to heal. It does not say the woman has to be confined to her room, or anything draconian like that. Six weeks is nothing, it is a pause, which is what is required when you need to adjust to a new family member. This seems more like a patriarcha­l "time is money" attitude and a deeply retrograde feminism, like women have to wear suits with padded shoulders to "make it" in a man's world. I don't know how anyone could concentrat­e at work so shortly after giving birth, how uncomforta­ble it would be having to run to the bathroom and lavage your perineum or express milk from your sore breasts every time you turn around. That's just the truth of childbeari­ng. To pretend that they just pop out and we all go about our business is wrongheade­d.
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dcoverley
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08:44 AM on 03/11/2010
Whatever the truth of your childbeari­ng experience is this proposal would mandate that it be the same for all others. What if the mandate were contrary to your childbeari­ng experience­? Might you then feel differentl­y about making it mandatory? Or is yours the only one that counts?
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10:25 AM on 03/11/2010
I don't mandate human anatomy, and I had fairly easy deliveries­. C-sections require much more healing time. That is just common to the species.
07:09 AM on 03/11/2010
What a crock of rubbish arguments. As for the comment from the Swedish Minister who claims that taking compulsory 6 weeks (six weeks!) leave after having a baby would "prevent her from working": dearie, yes, but only for six weeks, you can still go back to work after you've dropped the sprog off at a day care centre. This entire piece is so misguided it isn't funny. There are women in menial jobs who would be grateful to have compulsory paid maternity leave after having a baby instead of being forced back to work for economic reasons. The authors appear to be approachin­g this entirely from an ivory tower perspectiv­e.
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08:50 AM on 03/11/2010
zanzig, the proposal would affect hiring practices. You can't go back to a job you do not have, menial or otherwise.
06:02 AM on 03/11/2010
Even in Romania, which is one of the newest and poorest EU members, women are entitled to 2 months paid maternity leave (of which 42 days have to be after birth, the rest can be either before or after, at the mother's choice). The pay for this is 85% percent of the mother's normal earnings. After that, before the child turns 2 years old, either the mother or the father can take child caring leave, which is also paid 85% of the normal pay, but capped at about 1000 E (most people in Romania earn less than that anyway). It will be even better if the maternity leave will be paid 100%, but it's good anyway. And I'm pretty sure the maternity leave is compulsory already, and employers don't have such big problems with women taking maternity or child caring leave (they're not so happy probably if you want to take the full two years, but 6 months to a year I don't think most companies would complain about). I work for the Romanian branch of an American company, and last year there were about 10 employees on maternity and child caring leave for most of the year and this was a cost-cutti­ng measure for the company (because the state pays the maternity leave pay, not the company); so even our american bosses weren't so unhappy about it :D.
04:32 AM on 03/11/2010
No big fan of EU dictates in general, I still have to come to their defense on this one:

When I new mother is given the option of maternity leave, it is still easy for an employer to judge her for taking full advantage of it. With this law, the employee has cover; the employer knows that she has no choice but to take advantage of it.
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04:44 AM on 03/11/2010
Thanks, davidly!
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03:57 AM on 03/11/2010
Of course women should have mandatory maternity leave! It’s just common sense.

Most European countries already have generous provisions for maternity leave anyway. Making it mandatory EU-wide will simply help to protect some women against unscrupulo­us employers who might otherwise find ways of pressuring them into returning to work far earlier than they want or should.
05:06 AM on 03/11/2010
I like your version better than mine. I only saw it after I posted.
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05:39 AM on 03/11/2010
that's funny... I thought exactly the same of yours, davidly! :-)
02:32 AM on 03/11/2010
Wow, this feels like a huge over-react­ion to what is a well intended piece of legislatio­n. 6 weeks off to recover from childbirth­, learn the basic parenting skills, and bond with your new arrival? OH NO!

Would it be nice if fathers also got guaranteed Paternity Leave? Of course, and we should keep campaignin­g for that. But stop acting like this proposal is some kind of feminist betrayal. For most women, it's a GIFT. It's also a way to stop less scrupulous employers pressuring their female staff to return to work before they are ready.

In most European countries Maternity Leave is PAID. And in countries like the UK, the typical Mat Leave is around 6 MONTHS. Bigger companies tend to offer women up to a year off.

If you want to bitch about Maternity Leave rights, turn your attention back to the US - where women would LOVE even half the rights that European mothers get.
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02:50 AM on 03/11/2010
Men do get guaranteed paternity leave in the UK, 6 months, so the mother can go back to work if she wishes. i imagine something similar applies to the rest of western Europe.

The rest of your comment is spot on.
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06:50 AM on 03/11/2010
Well said. Hats off to you and regards from the Netherland­s.
02:21 AM on 03/11/2010
I should add maternity leave is paid leave. It is a far more feminist and all around socially position to force the work world to factor in child birth and bonding, unless your idea of progress is to comply with capitalist workaholis­m and carreerism that is so detrimenta­l to a full social life.
02:17 AM on 03/11/2010
This seems an odd place to write about European maternity leave policies, when American ones are so pitiful and anti-famil­y in comparison­. Also, isn't the point of maternity leave that you are guaranteed your job when you return? After the ordeal of childbirth and the need for mother-chi­ld bonding, six weeks is the least really to take.

The first couple of weeks with baby is exhausting­, I can't imagine going back to work before then, unless you want to dispense with breast feeding which is being promoted by every public health agency in the world (which is also where the compulsory nature of this leave policy is coming from). In fact, granting any less leave is negligent, unless your job is so important and so well-payin­g that you can pass off mothering duties to a nanny.
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07:05 AM on 03/11/2010
Your comments are the best I've read so far. Fanned.

The two writers clearly don't have a clue about life. I'd suggest looking into the divorce rate and high numbers of broken families in America. It's a crisis that's been lingering on for decades.