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Entries by Margaret Paul, Ph.D. from 07/2012

Are You 'Nice' or Are You Loving?

| Posted 07.02.2012 | Healthy Living

Being nice often means being inauthentic. It can be a form of control -- attempting to control how the other person feels about you or how they respond to you.

Resolving Relationship Problems by Letting Go of Problem-Solving

| Posted 07.09.2012 | Healthy Living

"We never seem to be able to solve any problems," Kaylee told me in a phone session. "Every time we sit down to solve a problem, we end up fighting."

How to Tell if It's Real Love

| Posted 07.18.2012 | Healthy Living

We all have a wounded self -- our ego -- that we developed as we were growing up, to protect us from pain. Our wounded self becomes activated when we get scared -- scared of rejection, of engulfment, of being hurt.

If You Want to Lose Weight But You Aren't -- Why?

| Posted 07.24.2012 | Healthy Living

You can read every diet book and try every weight-loss drug and every new diet, but if you don't learn to manage your painful feelings in ways that don't cause even more pain, you will not lose weight or keep weight off.

Relationship Conflict: The Difference Between Withdrawing and Disengaging

| Posted 07.31.2012 | Healthy Living

"Isn't withdrawing from conflict just running away?" you might ask. Yes, it is. But there is a huge difference between withdrawing and disengaging. The difference is about your intention.