I turned to my Facebook author page to see how these rules are evolving and was surprised to find a nearly unanimous bias against disclosing any relationship info at all to your "friends" -- especially among those 30 or older.

If there's been a mainstay of high manners when it comes to the dearly departed, it is "speak no ill of them." But as the remembrances of Andy Rooney come pouring forth, there's been much debate about pointing out Rooney's various homophobic comments.

You're in a tricky spot right now, but it was your boss who made the misstep because he broke a simple Facebook rule: don't friend anyone who works for you, because it puts that person in a difficult position (as you're finding out).

Queery: "I was having dinner with some friends, and the subject of the Penn State scandal came up. One of the straight guests was on a rant about it and said, 'This is a perfect example of why gays shouldn't be parents.'"

Your parents think you're straight and are visiting for the holidays with a buddy -- not a boyfriend. Now, at the last minute, you'd like to change it up a little and come out to them.