Who are the men Esquire's talking about? What is it that we love about these women? Their factory-fresh "breasts"? Their naughty smiles? Are those things truly what men at their best love about women?

We long for the words "I love you" whether we are women or men. We long for the fulfillment and intimacy of relationships. But that "I love you," in order to be authentic, has to start with the person who is expressing that emotion.

The guys I know who are happily married have a story about how they met their wives. Most involve a moment when they knew that they needed to spend the rest of their lives with this particular woman in order to be happy.

So as much as it makes us uncomfortable, guys, we all have to look in the mirror and ask ourselves, "What is going on? Why do we love guns and violence so much?"