Conventional wisdom holds that women want chocolate, roses and fancy dinners on Valentine's Day. (We think it's more complex than that, of course.) But what about men? As editors of the new anthology, "Salaam, Love: American Muslim Men on Love, Sex & Intimacy," we decided to find out. We turned to the experts - our 22 insightful and courageous contributors.
Here's a sampling of the sweet, funny, and sometimes surprising desires they shared with us:
1. Seeing Women In Leadership Roles
"To enter a mosque that allows men and women to pray side-by-side, and allows women to give sermons and lead prayer."
2. The Quest For the Perfect Beard
"To grow a beard long enough to make ZZ Top jealous, without fear of being called a fundamentalist."
3. A More Active Role In the Home
"To be the perfect cook. I love making dinner for my wife Samira."
4. More Compassionate and Inclusive Communities
"An end to the shame culture. More spaces that welcome everyone and are an environment of love and inclusiveness."
5. To Be Seen As an Individual, Not a Symbol
"For people to know that Muslims pretty much desire what anyone else does. That though many of us find comfort in our faith, it does not immunize us from the human experience."
6. The Space to Be Vulnerable
"To not have to act tough all the time."
7. A Celebration Of the Diversity Of the Community
"More visible organized progressive Muslim groups that celebrate the diversity of the human experience."
8. Commitment and Affection
"For my wife to teach me Surahs, to be led instead of leading whether in prayer or lovemaking sometimes."
9. Involved Parenting
"To raise intelligent, self-reliant, kind-hearted children."
10. Flying Carpets
All 22 men we asked agreed on the need for more flying carpets. We concur!