We have a dish in my native Australia called Bubble and Squeak. It involves throwing leftovers into a frying pan, throwing in a couple of furiously whisked eggs and a generous pinch of salt. Then you hope for the best. Surprisingly, the result is usually quite flavorsome. The point of the dish is to avoid wasting quality produce by repurposing ingredients so they don't end up in the garbage bin. Similarly, while a discarded date may not be for you, it doesn't mean they can't play a role in your life.
Let's face it, unless you are Zsa Zsa Gabor or Larry King then you will probably only get married once or twice. And even Kim Kardashian can only have so many boyfriends. If you like a date but they just don't take your fancy, then why not stay in contact if they are open to it? There are plenty of ways discarded dates can add to your life, and you can potentially add to theirs.
Apart from being a highly rewarding hobby, dating is a great way to expand your social network. A discarded date may even introduce you to a friend down the track who is more to your taste. On the other hand, you may introduce them to the love of their life. This person potentially represents a Rolodex of contacts and a constellation of talents, so don't throw them on the social heap just because their nose doesn't crinkle in the precise way that gets your heart palpitating. Here are five ways to repurpose a non-potential partner:
- Add them to the hormonal soup at dinner parties and soirees. We've all been to gatherings where the testosterone to estrogen ratio is so askew that you feel like you may as well be chasing down beers on an oil rig or, in contrast, sipping Cosmopolitans on Cheerleader Island. The best soirees require a tiny bit of frisson between the opposite sexes to really fire up. Add your discarded dates to the mix to even out the hormone ratio.
It is also great dating karma to introduce discarded dates to friends they might be better suited for. Spring is on the way and it's an ideal time to go through your social closet. Just as you might give up a once cherished handbag to the local consignment shop, consider it a community service to set up ex-flings with your friends. Maybe they can do the same for you. Perhaps, take it one step further and host a Left Luggage dinner party and get everybody to bring an ex-date they can vouch for. There is almost a guarantee that the sparks will fly between at least one couple, maybe even you and someone else's repurposed ex would-be partner.
Babe Scott is the author of "Delicious Dating: The Single Girl's Guide to Decoding Men by Their Wining and Dining Styles," a new book that identifies the 10 Male Dining Types and explains the corollaries between men's culinary styles and their mating styles. This one-time magazine maven is a self-declared manthropologist and culinary Carrie Bradshaw. Visit her at BabeScott.com, and follow her online at Twitter.com/DeliciousDating. "Delicious Dating" is available at Amazon.com, bn.com and other online retailers.