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The Siesta Phone Call

Posted: 06/ 3/11 02:09 PM ET

Warning: Do not call Spanish homes between three and six in the afternoon! Let me explain the painful lesson I learn at the beginning of every summer.

Every summer, my wife Carmen finishes teaching Spanish at a New York City school and heads to her hometown in Spain with our two young sons for some rest and relaxation. I stay in New York City tied to the classic American rat race work responsibilities.

While summer separation presents plenty of challenges to a marriage, one of the cultural clashes my wife and I face is the siesta phone call.

In southern Spain it is normal for a family to eat lunch during the summer between two-thirty and four in the afternoon. After lunch, many Spaniards take a siesta, a nap lasting from fifteen minutes to a couple of hours at most, before heading back to work in the late afternoon.

My wife and her family are strict practitioners of the siesta. After the plates are cleared from the dining table, all family members head to take a siesta. Down come the heavy metal shutters over the windows, off go televisions, radios, computers and the dog is put outside on the patio. The noise of the traffic in the streets fades.

During this restful moment is generally when I make my mistake.

I arrive at my office pick up the phone and call Carmen to check on her and the boys before I get too caught up with work. The phone rings. And rings. And rings. Finally, I am greeted by a fumbling phone sound as someone on the other end reaches to pick-up the handset but struggles to get a clean grasp on it. I hear a voice, the voice of my wife's father. It is an anxious voice, the type of voice that I use when I pick up the phone when I receive an unexpected call in the middle of the night. "¿Sí? ¿Quién es (who is it)?" he utters.

On the other end of the line I answer with caffeinated, American accented Spanish, "Hola Fernando. Soy Bant, desde Nueva York! ¿Cómo estás (how are you)? ¿Puedo hablar con Carmen (can I speak to Carmen)?"

This is when I hear the change in his voice from anxious to slightly irritated. "Ar, um, hola Bant, sí, errr, es siesta. Un momento. Voy a llamar a Carmen. (I am going to call Carmen)" He drops the handset and walks down the hall to wake my wife.

Soon I hear my wife on the line. "Bant, is everything ok?" she asks in a concerned voice. I answer, "Absolutely, how are you? How are the kids?"

When my wife realizes that all is well and that I am just calling to chat she shifts from concerned to angry. "What are you doing? Do you know what time it is? It is siesta! This is time for sleep, not talk. You woke my father, my mother. DO NOT CALL DURING SIESTA!!! We'll talk later." I hear a click as she hangs up on me.

Not a great marital conversation, but cultural lesson learned. If calling a home in Southern Spain, especially in the hot summer months, do not call between three and six in the afternoon. Do not mess with sacred siesta.

And maybe we can learn from the siesta. There is something extremely refreshing about grabbing a nap, even for only fifteen minutes, resetting the mind before tackling the second half of the day. Could we ever incorporate an idea like siesta into the US working day? Could we set aside our five-hour energy drinks for a nap instead? If we can, I will learn the lesson from my siesta phone calls and make sure my phone is off the hook.

 
 
 
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straightuptalker
What ever happened to common sense?
06:15 AM on 06/07/2011
During my first visit to Italy in a small town, I discovered the "siesta" culture when I tried to go to the local bank. It was closed, and apparently everything closes down at certain hours, all employees, workers and farmers close up shop. A few businesses will alternate to keep essential services open.

The main meal takes place around noon, followed by a leisurely nap and return to work around 3pm or later. There's no thought given to the almighty dollar as in the U.S. Life is slower and their priority is to enjoy it, unlike the hustle and bustle here to make a buck.

I learned to enjoy their afternoon meal which always included pasta, veges, a meat dish, homemade bread and wine, and then off for the siesta. Around 7pm after all shops and businesses close for the night, they partake of the original panini, more homemade bread and wine. What a life!
garystartswithg
el sueno de la razon produce republicans
01:26 AM on 06/15/2011
don't tell anyone but i usually thoroughly enjoy a beer or wine with lunch -- it makes the curmudgeons i work with much more tolerable. our culture seems hell bent on sucking all the enjoyment out of life -- its up to you to rebel.
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Captai
Get out while you still can!!
09:38 AM on 06/04/2011
No way. Puritanism runs too deep.
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Romeover
Civilization is for weaklings.
07:01 AM on 06/04/2011
Having done both physical and mental work in my time, I can testify that mental work is far more exhausting. A siesta does wonders for the brain. When I'm too tired to think, I take a nap.
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lonesometx
Don't detain me, bro
06:22 AM on 06/04/2011
US business is still deeply mired in Theory X management.

Until that changes it'll never happen.
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Romeover
Civilization is for weaklings.
06:57 AM on 06/04/2011
Thanks for the reference. I'd never heard of Theory X (or Y) before.
02:40 AM on 06/04/2011
Spaniards live longer , are more efficient and work harder then most.
garystartswithg
el sueno de la razon produce republicans
01:34 AM on 06/15/2011
i grew up in a mixed immigrant communtiy and learned from all of them. what i learned from spaniards was unconditional everything. you can grow a third eye and they will love you for it. you work hard and you play harder and you enjoy everything. just thinking about a simple plate of olives and sardines with a glass of wine -- god thats good.
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sillylittleme
humble cosmos shaker
12:34 AM on 06/04/2011
In the 90s, I worked for a software firm. Around 4 in the afternoon I'd go to a colleague's office who had a couch and a penchant for soft classical music and curl up for a nap. It always refreshed me. I had a boss who liked to end the day at around 7 PM with a little recap meeting that could last up to 2 hours. I was always grateful for the brain break.
guajiro
posted 5 minutes ago
08:41 PM on 06/03/2011
I remember a study done a couple of years ago where it was found that CEO's of large corporations here in the states don't arrive at work until after 9:00 a.m and frequently leave right after lunch. Seems those guys already have siesta written into their benefits.
05:34 PM on 06/03/2011
It will never happen in America - but it would be great!
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And no stinking badges
04:48 PM on 06/03/2011
Forget the siesta, i would gladly just take the vacation time with pay that congress gets.
T-Haight
What was wrong with federalism?
04:20 PM on 06/03/2011
Lovely idea. How, exactly, do you propose this?

This is usually the spot at which it devolves into capitalists/conservatives stating that private businesses should have the freedom to (but no obligation), social scientists hoping for a sea-change in national attitudes toward work, and anti-capitalists/socialists/liberals trying to pass a law mandating that everyone get time off.

I've never heard of enteprenuer Bant Breen before. With deep, decisive, and earth-shaking polemics like this, it's no wonder.
07:18 AM on 06/07/2011
Hi T-Haight,

You seem not to know Breen, he is one of the best known international figures in the world of new media and advertising, 2011 Advertising Hall of Fame nation-wide...etc. Controversial maybe, silly sure not! Just run a google and you will see him in action...

:-)
garystartswithg
el sueno de la razon produce republicans
01:44 AM on 06/15/2011
old dogs don't like learning new tricks -- crank up the victrola if you want quality music. imho this county's downfall has been forgetting the "for ourselves and our posterity" part of the constitution. stick "for my suburban home and my 401k" in there and you have a lot more accurate picture of the average american.
04:08 PM on 06/03/2011
Just curious, how many times would you have to make that mistake to learn to never do it again?! Once for me. That said, the idea of a siesta/afternoon nap is excellent. I do it whenever I'm able.
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HeadAches
I'm here, getting into your head giving you...
03:49 PM on 06/03/2011
No napping needed....

What is needed, is for Americans to change their diet. The breakfast and lunch consumed in this country is nothing but worthless junk which of course is going to make you feel exhausted because you have had nothing of nutritional value.
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darquelourd
You Get What You Play For
03:22 PM on 06/03/2011
it should be a 24/7 economy, Bant, which WOULD seem to imply we could work other than Monday- Friday 9-5. For some reason, however, most companies still seem straightjacketed by the old 9 to 5.

Also, Bant, if I may, I suggest we introduce drinking alcohol into the working day like the old tradesmen guilds of yore did. I remember taking a History class on the Middle Ages and being surprised that the typical "tradesman's" day included mid-morning and late afternoon ale or wine breaks. Plus your employer usually provided an on site communal lunch for everyone.
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Carl Caroli
Give peace a chance
03:05 PM on 06/03/2011
We've had a "beat them til they drop" mentality since the colonial days. Can't cut the mustard? You're fired!
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Bigredhunk
02:59 PM on 06/03/2011
It'd be great if we could learn to slow down a bit here. Not sure it could ever happen though. Our corporate masters have drilled productivity into us, and it's embedded deep in our culture.

I studied in Mexico in college, and we did that there too. It was quite a paradigm shift. Different (more whole meal-type, less processed) food. Breakfast at 8. Huge lunch at 2, followed by a nap. A little work or school to follow. Small dinner at 9. Bed a little later. Rinse, repeat. Most of us were anxious about changing our lifestyles. We all ended up loving it. We lived more. There was a lot less tv. You felt more alive and less "plugged in." Everyone ate more, walked more, relaxed more, lost weight. Good times.
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RacerX
E pluribus unum
03:52 PM on 06/03/2011
The facts are productivity would increase with a siesta:
http://www.businessweek.com/magazine/content/06_48/b4011101.htm

The offset to the 9-5 hours that this would cause could be used to create synch up time with offshore resource teams which better supports a 7x24 production cycle. We did this within my division in a very large corporation with great success. We had many more out of the box type productivity ideas but despite our prior successes the C-level folks were more interested in cost reduction than creating happier more productive workers...
05:36 PM on 06/03/2011
you sold me!