Let's face it. There is one person in your life whom you count on more than anyone -- more than your mother and maybe even more than your husband or your best friend. This person is, of course, your nanny. She has a tremendous amount of power in your life. Not only does she watch your precious children, but she has the unique ability to set your life into a tailspin in a heartbeat. One day your kids love her and your life is on autopilot, and the next day she tells you that she has been unhappy and she is leaving in two weeks. Anyone out there been in this situation? It's a moment that can send you into a panic, a panic attack, a rage, or even a momentary meltdown.
Here's what is most likely running through your mind:
- My kids love her. How will I explain this to them?
OK, let's rewind and reconsider how to think about this:
- Your kids will love another nanny. You can explain to them that as attached as they get to their nannies, they only stay in their lives for a temporary period of time. This is the nature of the beast. You, on the other hand, are a stable fixture in their lives. This may be hard to digest, but it is the truth. As much as we try to make the nannies a part of the family, they really are not.
What to do if and (more likely) when you find yourself abandoned by your nanny:
- Resist your impulse to beg her to stay. Let her go. Nothing good will come of keeping an unhappy nanny in your home.
Good luck and yes, you will get through it. You are in good and plentiful company. This is an experience that many of us in the mother's club have experienced. We thought it was the end of the world, literally, but we are all alive and well, and here to tell the story.
How have you handled nanny breakups? Please share your stories.
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