I remember the first time I ever "colored" my hair. It was 1969--a year when the world was filled with rebellion. I spritzed on a little Sun-In while soaking up the sun in my Brooklyn backyard listening to Credence Clearwater Revival. In a matter of hours, my dark blond hair with natural golden highlights turned a vibrant shade of orange to match the Bain de Soleil Gelee' everybody seemed to use back then (without SPF of course). My mother helped fix it with a little of her "only your hair dresser knows for sure" home coloring kit from Clairol, and it gradually grew out.
Despite the failed first attempt... I was hooked.
Highlighting has been a part of my life since my twenties. But when the grays started sneaking in--just before hitting 50--I thought it might be time to rethink my routine, assuming I would switch over to single process to cover them, just like most other women I knew did. I was trying to figure out a newer, simpler paradigm for the other areas of my life since turning 50, and wanted to figure this one out, too. Was this the moment I was waiting for to proudly and publicly acknowledge my foray into my 50s? Should I now wear my graying hair like a badge of honor, courage, bravado and attitude? I was confused.
Only one name came to my mind when I decided to check in with someone who could give me an honest assessment, and an overview of my options--Frederic Fekkai, the superstar of hair care. The leader in women's hair care since the late 80s, Frederic opened his first salon in New York, which was an immediate success. Now, salons are worldwide, and his products have an international following.
There are degrees of gray, Frederic explained. We start out with a few gray hairs. More come in and we get up to about 20 percent, then 30 percent, and eventually our hair is over 50 percent gray. That's the natural progression of gray hair (for most women). Once your hair is over 50 percent gray, Frederic said we could consider the following options:
Frederic's least favorite choice is the "single process" route. Very often women who do this create a single block of color, with very little contrast (especially if it's too dark or too light) and this can age you, draining your face. Even if your hair is dark brown or black--which shows up the gray much more than blond hair does--he encourages us to run the highlights and lowlights right through the brown and gray hair, creating a beautiful mix of natural colors. It's a more modern, fresh look and, he thinks very sexy, because it's an interesting way to embrace your hair, and your age, without going completely gray.
But, letting your hair go gray is an option that women should consider, too. If you've already been coloring your graying hair, it might take a little longer to get to where you want it to be, but this might be the most bold way to embrace--and proudly show off--your age. Think of Helen Mirren and Jamie Lee Curtis as great examples of women who have let their gray go, and look fabulous.
Whatever route you take, there are certain things you can do to keep your color--even natural gray hair--looking great:
Hair gloss--a silicone-based product that restores shine and adds polish to the surface of the hair--is often used after coloring the hair. Glosses are especially helpful in helping gray hair look more vibrant.
What did I choose? I'm staying with what I've been doing: combining my dark blonde hair, with the new gray, and some highlights to help blend it all together. Who knows? Maybe some day I'll go gray all the way. But, I'm not there just yet. Right now, it's the perfect compromise between walking proudly and fearlessly into my new life as an "after 50" woman.. and... holding on to that little piece of my former self.
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But, my sister's hair is very gray. She got a fabulous short haircut, very stylish and complimentary to her features. Most women love her new look. Even strangers come and talk to her and tell her how much they admire her style and courage.
But most men don't seem to like it. She tells me that she has noticed that men look at her a lot less. Also, they think she looks much older.
Interesting!
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But graying on women is entirely different per woman. Some look great and the way their hair comes in with it makes all the difference, some...not so much...At least in my non essential male opinion.
I was feeling overweight and my hair was a mess. My grey roots showed more than ever. I had to get to New York. Just because I lived in a place where people cared more about hunting season than an inch of roots didn’t mean that I could let myself go. I told my friend Emma. Kat, she said. Maybe this is the time to let the grey grow out and be yourself. You’re kiddin’, I said. It’s so not the time to be myself. I’m competing with French women, and French women have French manicures, perfectly styled hair and never ever show their roots....
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Aging is an artificial construct. Once you've decided that, you can re-construct your DNA, and redefine what, for you, "aging" represents.
Now, can I still do the no "poo" thing? How will that effect the color? Probably not, right?
I have recently let my hair grow to a little longer than shoulder length with some nice layering. I've found that shampooing less and not styling it every day gives me more body and shine.With shorter hair, I was washing or wetting it and blow-drying every day.
P.S. Still feel invisible. It's not fair.
Best,
Barbara