My husband shops for fun. He'll spend hours on the Internet, perusing different sites from Zappos to HauteLook to Orvis in search of the perfect kahki pants. Or, he'll swing over to Bloomingdale's on a Saturday afternoon to see what's on sale, lingering a little longer at Armani.
Me? After I turned 50, I was so confused about what I should or shouldn't wear that I preferred unloading the dishwasher -- my least favorite household chore -- to buying clothes. Shopping, for me, was intimidating and time-consuming. And I usually got hungry, tired, and grumpy, which meant that I ended up buying either the wrong things or stuff I didn't need. On the flip side, though, I love style and I love to look good. It's a dilemma.
I thought about paying my husband an hourly fee to shop for me -- but that option became unnecessary when I decided to write The Best of Everything After 50. While doing research for the book, I had the great opportunity to interview Diane von Furstenberg, Ginny Hilfiger, and a few other fashion-forward experts who gave me guidelines (no rules, please!) on what to wear and to avoid once I turned 50. Here's their master list of "must haves":
I now have all these pieces, which I mix and match, depending on the occasion, for different looks. By adding a few key accessories, like a cool necklace, big ring, scarf, perfect shoes, or a bag, and I'm ready to rock and roll. My two favorite purchases were the Merona dress from Target (which costs $39.99) and the cropped black leather motorcycle jacket from Saks (it costs a tad more than the Target dress, but given how often I wear it, it was oh-so-worth it!) I wear it with the jeans, pants, dresses, and pencil skirt . . . year round. The leather should be buttery and thin so you can wear it in lieu of a black jacket or cardigan. Check out this short video showing the different ways I can wear the Merona dress and Target cardigans:
What's the best overall style advice for women over fifty? We don't want strict rules, but there are some pretty good guidelines to help achieve a polished, confidence-boosting look:
Having a basic wardrobe is essential, but there's a world of fantastic fashion out there, and your personal style should be your guide. Pick a look that reinforces your confidence and sexiness, put it on, and then go out and live your life. Don't worry about what you look like; we did too much of that in our younger -- and more insecure -- years. Now, we should enjoy ourselves and not waste time overthinking every fashion choice.
Best advice? Forget rules and just wear what makes you feel good about . . . you.
For more tips on living your best life after 50, check out The Best of Everything After 50: The Experts' Guide to Style, Sex, Health, Money and More . . . and stay tuned for news about my new book!
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