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From Anger to Action: Why Women Must Get Mad

Posted: 06/13/11 01:00 AM ET

There is a scene in Network, a movie made over 35 years ago, that is part of the collective consciousness of most baby boomers. Howard Beale, the character who appears to be going mad right before the very eyes of a live TV audience (predating the era of reality television) is really just conveying what everyone else was feeling at the time but were afraid, unmotivated, or too complacent to say on their own.

I don't have to tell you things are bad. Everybody knows things are bad.Things have got to change. But first, you've gotta get mad! You've got to say, 'I'm as mad as hell, and I'm not going to take this anymore!' Then we'll figure out what to do about the depression and the inflation and the oil crisis. But first get up out of your chairs, open the window, stick your head out, and yell, and say it: "I'M AS MAD AS HELL, AND I'M NOT GOING TO TAKE THIS ANYMORE!"


While Russia doesn't seem to be a looming threat any longer, most of what Howard is ranting and raving about in this scene continues to plague us. But there's more... so much more... and it's time to get mad.

Let's start with jobs.

There aren't any, and as a recent article here on the Huffington Post shows, many of the reliable industries (such as manufacturing) are drying up.

Even worse, companies are putting more into capital improvements than in people. An article in the New York Times reports that more companies are investing in equipment, not workers. "I want to have as few people touching our products as possible," said Dan Mishek, managing director of Vista Technologies, a Minnesota-based firm. "Everything should be as automated as it can be. We just can't afford to compete with countries like China on labor costs, especially when workers are getting even more expensive."

And yet, our government continues to offer tax incentives to subsidize capital investments, not the creation of jobs, and the training of workers. Why? Capital has gotten much cheaper relative to labor costs. Workers lose, companies win, government sits back and watches.

A new study from the Labor Department's Bureau of Labor Statistics shows that the Great Recession that technically ended in 2009 has doubled the time it takes before the average unemployed person either finds a job or gives up looking for one.

Another report, also from the Bureau of Labor Statistics, states that of all the new post-recession jobs that have been created, 90% of them have gone to men. Why? Because employers still believe that men are the main breadwinners in the families, and that a job should be given to an unemployed man before an equally qualified unemployed woman. It isn't a stated policy, of course, but this antiquated thinking prevails.

In terms of salaries, women still continue to earn approximately 77 cents for every dollar a man earns, across a wide spectrum of industries. And since single women head more households than ever before, it's not just women who suffer, but children, as well. This helps perpetuate a continuous cycle of poverty, unemployment, despondency, and dependence on government assistance.

Alarmingly, a smaller percentage of women hold senior level management jobs or board positions, relative to men, and the percentage is dropping, according to a recent Grant-Thornton study.

If a woman is fortunate enough to have a job, there are relatively few satisfactory childcare options available. On top of that, women continue to be penalized if they choose to take time off to raise children, often due to a lack of sufficient childcare options, when they try to return to the workforce.

Are you mad yet? No?

How about the fact that our government has just entered into a third war instead of following up on pre-election promises to bring our troops home? Just as important, funds are being used to support these wars instead of putting them where they are needed the most: creating jobs; figuring out how to offer affordable health care; rebuilding our infrastructure; and preparing our children to be leaders and strong participants in a new world order where other countries, such as China, are becoming ever more powerful.

What about the daily violence against women and children around the world, including right here in our own country? And the fact that both major political parties use women as political pawns, especially when debating the future of our own reproductive health and rights?

But, there's more: The chemicals that pollute our air, water and food. The assault on the environment and many of the animals that inhabit our earth. The dumbing down of America by the proliferation of mindless TV at the expense of quality programming.

I started a discussion about this on Facebook and Twitter and one person left this comment:

Everyone has to get mad at a government that is hell bent on an agenda that erodes our way of life. There will be more publicity today about Sarah Palin's emails than soldiers wounded or killed in Afghanistan.

Another Facebook friend wrote:

How can we collectively get together and express our dissatisfaction and offer ideas for change, with a concrete plan?

Women, this is a call to action. We have to stand up and say "We're as mad as hell as we're not going to take it anymore!" Demand jobs, equal pay, health care, the right to choose what we do with our own bodies, greater representation in government, and more leadership positions in the private sector. We're not asking for a lot. We're only asking for what every human being deserves.

Turn your anger into action:

  • Go to the 'One Million Pissed-Off Women' page on Facebook and get motivated
  • Start a grassroots campaign for positive change
  • Read and be informed about the issues that are affecting us the most
  • Sit down and have a cup of tea with someone who is on the other end of the political spectrum so you can start to understand each other, and build consensus
  • Seek out politicians who share your worldview and anger, and support them
    • Run for political office
  • Blog, write articles, get others motivated
  • Fight for your rights as a woman, as a worker, and as a mother
  • If you're unemployed, keep trying to get a job or start your own company (women are the driving force behind the growth of micro-enterprises)
    • Get connected to like-minded women on Facebook and websites
  • Show our children that change is possible


A few months ago, I wrote an article here on the Huffington Post -- "Feminism: A Moral Compass for Change?" -- that included this simple statement:

To embrace feminism is to embrace this fundamental truth: every human being has rights.

We have the right to get angry, and the power to take action. Be brave, be bold, and get mad as hell.

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There is a scene in Network, a movie made over 35 years ago, that is part of the collective consciousness of most baby boomers. Howard Beale, the character who appears to be going mad right before the...
There is a scene in Network, a movie made over 35 years ago, that is part of the collective consciousness of most baby boomers. Howard Beale, the character who appears to be going mad right before the...
 
 
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11:01 AM on 06/15/2011
I have been mad as hell for a very long time, but I must admit, I've been too overwhelmed to do anything about it. I am already drowning in my own personal issues and haven't had the strength to fight on a much bigger scale. Don't get me wrong, I want to, but I struggle to get out of my "uncomfortable" comfort zone. I am sorry to say, that I've also given in to the concept of "It will never change no matter what we do or say"!!! Well, I want to do or say something now, because I am tired of it all……so tired. I am going to share this article, I am going to work my way down your list of ways to get involved….one at a time….even though it will be difficult for me to do. I must stop being afraid to speak up…..I MUST STOP BEING AFRAID TO SPEAK UP!!!!! Thank you Barbara, for opening my eyes every day on Facebook. You don't know that I'm listening, but I am!! I may be slow coming out of my box, but I am coming!!! And you know what?? I "AM" MAD AS HELL….AND I DON'T BELIEVE I'M GOING TO TAKE IT ANYMORE!!!!
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Barbara Hannah Grufferma
author, The Best of Everything After 50
12:02 PM on 06/15/2011
I cannot thank you enough -- just don't know HOW to thank you enough -- for writing what you wrote. I understand, we all understand, how you feel, what you are going through. We are all there. We all struggle with our own lives, and there just aren't enough hours in the day. I know, I know. But, let this be our legacy -- that -- once again -- we stood up, and screamed at the top of our lungs that no, we are not, we are NOT, WE ARE NOT GOING TO TAKE THIS ANYMORE . . . for us, for our daughters, for our granddaughters, for all the women of the world who will come after us.

Thank you, dear, dear wonderful "The Girl". And thank you for letting me have the honor and privilege of being your first HuffPost "fan".
12:56 PM on 06/15/2011
Barbara….it's me, Georgie!! I had to sign up again because I couldn't remember what info I used before…apparently I couldn't use Georgie again…lol. Anyway, I lamented whether I should speak up and be honest, but the truth just came out. I am not proud of being silent most of my life, but I figure better late than never. You inspire me every day…you, and all our other fabulous lady friends on FB. I am committing to making changes in my life…baby steps, but I will go forward and fight…for all of us. I promise!!! Thank you for being there!!!
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Cathy Meyer
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02:15 PM on 06/20/2011
I was going to leave a comment but, you've said it all. I can't remember the last time I was not angry or overwhelmed or afraid. I have so many personal issues to contend with that there isn't enough time in the day for me to stand up and yell anything.

The problem? The personal issues I contend with are due to the injustices in our legal and political system. If I don't speak up, stomp our feet and make some noise I'm guilty of passing down to the next generation of women the same issues I deal with daily.

For so long I've been just "getting by" and accepting that, that is my lot in life. That has to change. I may struggle but I don't have to struggle in silence any longer.
09:28 AM on 06/15/2011
Only 54 comments? Come on ladies, where are you?
05:24 PM on 06/14/2011
Come on ladies, why only 48 comments?
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divorcedpauline
02:14 PM on 06/14/2011
I have a Masters degree yet, make only a $45 k annual salary (which I admit I'm lucky to have in this day and age), one-third of which goes to childcare. I get zero child support from my rich yet unemployed ex-husband and had to pay my own legal fees this past year-and-a-half when he sued me for a million things, one of which was to try to force me to pay for part of my son's private school, when I only make $45 k!! I'm mad that there is so little support for single moms, that there is no "village" to help us raise our children, that there are no limits in court for litigious rich people, that CEOs are raking in the dough while laying off workers. I'm mad that many people, even with health insurance, cannot afford to get sick. I'm mad that the people who run this country are motivated by narcissism instead of a belief in democracy...I could go on and on. Great, great article. I "liked"your Pissed-Off Women page.
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D. A. Wolf
Founder, Daily Plate of Crazy
03:07 PM on 06/14/2011
I am astonished that this article has generated so few comments (as yet), but heartened at the number of times it has been shared.

Like Pauline, I have great credentials and experience, and live a "real life" filled with stresses that most simply don't believe - the result of a complex and baffling family court system, the physical, logistical, and financial costs of single parenting for a decade, layoff in my 40s, a miserable job market, age discrimination, and the lack of decent (dare I say it - "universal") health care.

A "moderate" optimist nonetheless, I believe that women are the answer, that we must continue to get back up over and over again, that if we can only gather our strength and our voices to move this country in a direction that is more compassionate and humanistic. Other countries do it; I don't expect we'll do it overnight. One million pissed off women is however, a great start!

I only hope we'll add one million pissed off men as well. This is our future, and that of our children. So why aren't we doing more? Are women simply exhausted from doing it all - or a disproportionate amount of slogging through and raising families?

This is a wonderful article. A rallying cry. So why aren't more women as mad as hell? As mad as they are scared - about money and the future?
05:19 PM on 06/14/2011
Great post, fave!
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Barbara Hannah Grufferma
author, The Best of Everything After 50
12:08 PM on 06/15/2011
Dear D.A. . . . thank you for being such a strong supporter of me, of women, of justice . . . always.
I still can't figure out why there aren't more comments, but I think it just needs to be seen, be more visible. I'll work to get it out there in other media . . .
All best, as always,
Barbara
05:18 PM on 06/14/2011
Fave!
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Siara
Obama 2012
08:00 AM on 06/14/2011
I wish I could "like" this a hundred times. We are seriously on the verge of losing the right to control our bodies. If a Republican president gets elected and puts another conservative on the Supreme Court, that's it for women's rights. This issue is being intentionally obscured by the Republicans who work up a lot of hysteria about Obama's economic plans are failing.
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Barbara Hannah Grufferma
author, The Best of Everything After 50
09:13 AM on 06/14/2011
You can start by sharing this and asking others to share it and on and on. Get the message out.

I want to point out -- as this is extremely important to me, and to the overall message -- it has less to do with your political leanings and more to do with just making decisions that are right and just. We are all human, we are all equal.

Thank you so much for reading, and commenting,
Barbara
05:22 PM on 06/14/2011
fave!
05:22 PM on 06/14/2011
Fave! The only way I can share this is by commenting as much as I can.
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06:31 AM on 06/14/2011
Another comment..

Women have to stop letting men silence them by disrupting their conversations. Men will join a discussion among women but they will usually try, successfully, to disrupt the direction of the discussion. Women will then stop talking positively among themselves and expend all their energy fighting the men. And the men have won, because now they are framing the debate and women are reacting to male though rather then engaging in constructive female sharing of thought.

Women need to recognize these efforts to shut down their discussions for what it is and hold their ground.
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FeralForever
I'm watching you...so play nice
09:43 AM on 06/14/2011
So true. It's a bit of a different spin, but here's a classic example of how men typically don't take women seriously in a group setting...Three women are sitting together in a club conversing, and a man walks up to them and asks, "are you girls alone?"
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06:23 AM on 06/14/2011
Women have to connect with other women to obtain anything. They have to stop listening to criticism from men. They will be viciously attacked no matter what they do any time they stand up for themselves. They must stop being dependent on male approval. They must love the success of other women, and stand up for other women when they are attacked by men. they must value the approval of other women.

Until they do these things men will rule as men stick together and practice an effective divide and conquer strategy to keep women in their place. And women keep falling for it, as they crave male approval and undervalue female approval.
01:38 AM on 06/14/2011
I am mad at this article. I am mad that feminist use distorted statistics to make their points. I am mad feminist try and blame all males for the behavior of some males in regards to domestic violence. I am mad that the only thing these women care about are issues that affect women as if the rest of humanities issues were some how irrelevant unless a women was getting some direct benefits.

I am sick of these gender baiting sexist arguments that have nothing to do with equality. Men's worlds don't guarantee board room positions or higher salaries. Life is not fair and men accept that while feminist label it discrimination and whine to no end. Men should be mad as hell because they put up with this complaining for decades and no matter how equal things get or how hard a man's life is there is always another feminist with a sob story pretending like all males are enjoying luxurious lives of privilege.

Does this article mention that young women on average get paid more than young men do ? No because it's dishonest tripe from a man hating feminist who will keep selling this agenda until every boy's first words are "I am sorry I was born a male". How about dealing with the fact that 20% more women will get their BA's than men. You see when women are not victims she does not care, and for that men should wise up and worry about themselves.
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Siara
Obama 2012
08:03 AM on 06/14/2011
The statistics aren't distorted Ed. The big distortion that's going around these days is the ridiculous theory that giving tax breaks to the rich will "save the economy" so we must choose between the GOP agenda and starve.
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beadingchef
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05:50 PM on 06/13/2011
I do not know what has happened to the women of this country. Is it really ok that 25 years later we still get paid less then men? Is it ok that our reproductive rights are again being threatened? Is it ok that or children are getting a sad excuse for an education? Is it ok that 14 million children will go to bed hungry, and that 31% of all women will be abused this year? I vote, I have ben a mender of NOW for ears and I don't know how to get the message across anymore, personally I am frustrated with all o the apathy. There are more women in college then men, when will they stand up?
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as promised
Educ yourself re David Barton & his followers
06:16 PM on 06/13/2011
Probably what is most sad (and perhaps ironic) is that we are living in a time when "connectin­g" and organizing has never been easier....­. (as I had posted elsewhere).
I can't bear to think that all the advances that had/have been made are being so taken for granted! Does this silver-platter instant-entertainment generation even recognize what is being systematically stripped away from us? We should be clawing for dear life and YES! mad as hell.

Maybe we need a reality show?? Every week we vote on which right to give up, would that get people's attention??
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Barbara Hannah Grufferma
author, The Best of Everything After 50
07:37 PM on 06/13/2011
Everything you just wrote . . . was perfectly stated. That's what I was feeling when I sat down at my computer to write this article. How can it be that we are STILL having to talk about these things? How can it be? Why aren't we out in the streets protesting? We are (as a group) apathetic, and waiting for someone else to take the lead or take a stand. What kind of message is that for our daughters, and other young women?
I'm encouraged, though, by the hundreds of "likes" and "shares" on FB and Twitter of this post, which tells me that there are other like-minded women (and men) out there. The key, though, is not letting this post slip down in the lineup, when other posts get published, only to have it fade away from sight, and thought. We have to keep it going . . .
Please keep sharing this and bugging the heck out of everyone to join in.
Barbara
09:02 AM on 06/15/2011
Personally, I think that there are not enough people willing to engage in these discussions, and therefore it is just a small number (relatively) of people who are trying to get real change accomplished. I marvel that in my suburban town, the number of friends I have that are active and passionate about these issues can be counted on one hand. Everyone else is too busy with life. Its a shame, because the legislators are not too busy with life, they are busy taking our rights away...

As for that yahoo that made that comment up above about women being sexist and whining....he clearly missed the point of the whole article. As for the education piece, it does not surprise me that women have more degrees now - we need them to PROVE ourselves even more than men do. A study I saw this week is even talking about how overweight men make more than women, and a woman to make the most $$ needs to be thin. There are barriers at every turn. I'm pretty sure the dudes have the old boys network to get them through. Women need to band together and mentor each other, and create a new movement.
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03:33 PM on 06/13/2011
Yes and more yes.
02:43 PM on 06/13/2011
I love Howard Beale, lol.
02:17 PM on 06/13/2011
"I'M AS M@D AS HE//, AND I'M NOT GOING TO TAKE THIS ANYMORE!" Lol, I love Howard Beale!
02:08 PM on 06/13/2011
There are only 16 comments and 1 pending. Come on ladies, where are you?
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Barbara Hannah Grufferma
author, The Best of Everything After 50
07:39 PM on 06/13/2011
I, too, want to know where the comments are, the ideas, the encouragement.
Hundreds of people shared and "liked" this article, which probably means that thousands have seen it . . . but why only a few comments?
But, I am encouraged . . . and very hopeful.
All best,
Barbara
01:56 PM on 06/13/2011
Thank you Barbara!
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Barbara Hannah Grufferma
author, The Best of Everything After 50
02:05 PM on 06/13/2011
We all have to do everything we can to get this message out and get everyone -- men AND women - mad . . . really really mad. Start by sharing this article with everyone, and attach your own personal message to it, asking them to Re-tween and re-share to their own friends. It's a start . . and a good one!!!!
02:11 PM on 06/13/2011
I agree!
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01:36 PM on 06/13/2011
It's nice to see OMPOW getting the press. Join us, Ladies!! (And gents who support the ladies!)
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Barbara Hannah Grufferma
author, The Best of Everything After 50
02:06 PM on 06/13/2011
Yes, I am always so inspired by this group! Join Facebook and "like" the One Million Pissed Off Women page . . .