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Barbara J. Nelson

Barbara J. Nelson

Posted: May 13, 2009 04:41 PM

I Am Like a Free Person of Color in a Slave State


On March 5, 2009 the California Supreme Court heard arguments on whether Proposition 8, a constitutional amendment to ban same sex marriage, is valid. The Court has 90 days to decide whether to allow or forbid same sex marriage. On November 5, 2008 37% of the 17.3 million voters in California supported an initiative that would change the constitution to make marriage exclusively available between one man and one woman. In contrast, 26% voted to keep same sex marriage legal and 37% of the electorate did not vote at all.

In the almost three months the Supreme Court has been contemplating its response five more states--beyond Massachusetts--have legalized same sex marriage: Connecticut, Iowa, Maine, New Hampshire, and Vermont.

For the combatants on both sides, those in favor and those opposed to same sex marriage, Proposition 8 is a test of how human rights policy is made in California, because on May 15, 2008 the Supreme Court of California had ruled that same sex marriage was legal in California.

Specifically the Court held that given the legal rights available to gays and lesbians in California, to deny us the right to marry was a harmful and discriminatory distinction.
The oral arguments heard by the Supreme Court on March 5th produced three lines of discussion, one of which may create a distinction in human rights law not seen in the
United States since the days of slavery.

The first argument was that the Justices were concerned that people like me, married when the Supreme Court said that same sex marriage was legal, need to be able to
rely on their highest court, its jurisdiction and reasoning. Coverage of the oral arguments suggests that the Court will uphold our marriages.

If the newspapers in Los Angeles, Sacramento and San Francisco are right, the Court may create, by analogy, a legal class like free people of color in a slave state, that is, gay and lesbian people who married under the full protection of the law in the window when same sex marriage was legal and who retain their marriage rights, while other gays and lesbians now are unable to marry and may not be able to do so in the future. John Hope Franklin, the great historian of the African American experience who died at 94 last month, wrote in his first book, The Free Negro in North Carolina, 1790‐1860, "that free Negroes in a slave society must be carefully regulated lest their very presence serve to overturn the system. p.10." If any gay and lesbian adults can marry, it is hard to argue why all of us cannot marry.

The second line of discussion was a query made by Associate Justice Ming W. Chin wondering if the state might eliminate the word "marriage" and give all California citizens the right to, say, "civil union". This is an interesting option, one that is consistent with law across America. Only state authority makes a couple married. If you are married in a religious ceremony without having a government-issued marriage license, you are NOT legally married. Maybe only religions should be in the marriage business, and the state of California can be in the civil union business. Everyone is treated equally.

The third, and major, direction of questions was the concern by several justices that policy should be made by the people, even though how policy is made by the people is exactly the question at hand.

The justices need to consider hard what it means to keep the same-sex marriages they made legal while forbidding future ones.

For the gay and lesbian Californians who married between May 15 and November 5, 2008, the months since November have been full of uncertainty and anger.

For me, it is like being a free person of color in a slave state. I have rights and responsibilities no longer available to other lesbian and gay Californians. I am marginally privileged, and perpetually anxious that my legal status will be taken away.

With the future of same sex marriage at risk, I fear that our marriage license, which both of us keep close at hand in case of emergencies, will not be socially sufficient to establish our marriage in crucial situations-refinancing a mortgage, buying life insurance, having marital rights if one us were hospitalized. In that way our marriage license is like manumission papers for freed slaves living below the Mason-Dixon Line before the civil war. Some slave wrangler could take them away, and it would be very hard for any freeman or freewoman to enforce his or her legal status.

Please understand, I do not equate being gay or lesbian in America in 2009 with being a slave. To do so would be to make a hideously unfair comparison. In his last speech in California, in March of 1968, the Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. spoke of slavery in words that have all but disappeared from our national discussion. He spoke in a pained and loving voice of the excruciating cruelty and humiliation of 400 years of chattel slavery.

However, it does honor the horrible experiences of slaves to look at the legal architecture that kept them in bondage, and see what might be learned about treating groups unequally.

Hence I make an analogy rather than assert equivalence between being a free person of color in a slave state and being a lesbian married in California who may lose her marital status. Slaves could not marry legally. Free persons of color in the South could marry legally, but again they always had to prove they were both free and married. And if the worst happened, and they were unable to prove their freedom, they could be returned to slavery with few opportunities to prove their freedom or marriage in courts that, once they were deemed chattel, would not allow them to bring a case.

What will happen to my wife and me if the California Supreme Court invalidates our marriage? What will our recourse be if the courts do not protect us? How would you feel if your marriage were summarily invalidated?

Gay and lesbian marriage is just like contemporary marriage between a man and a woman. Oh yes it is. It is squarely within the historic trends for marriage. It is egalitarian, with equal rights and responsibilities for both parties. It is between two adults, knowing that polygamy is in practice virtually never fair or equal for all parties. It is based on companionship, rather than economic transfers or required procreation. In democracies, those earlier forms of marriage have been waning, legally and culturally, for more than 150 years.

I want for every gay and lesbian adult to be able to marry. I don't want to be like a free person of color in a slave state, and I don't want to go back to being a nonperson, a status like a slave who cannot marry. And if you think you should unmarry us, think again. Think what it would mean for the hope and practice of equal treatment.

All the research shows that no Southern electorate would have voted to desegregate its schools in 1954. Yet without Brown v. Board of Education we might not have gone on the great and difficult American journey that brought us a president of African American heritage.

So I say either marriage is for all or marriage is for none. I'd rather be married than be in a civil union, but I would rather be in a universally required civil union than have marriage be discriminatorily available only to opposite sex couples.

On March 5, 2009 the California Supreme Court heard arguments on whether Proposition 8, a constitutional amendment to ban same sex marriage, is valid. The Court has 90 days to decide whether to all...
On March 5, 2009 the California Supreme Court heard arguments on whether Proposition 8, a constitutional amendment to ban same sex marriage, is valid. The Court has 90 days to decide whether to all...
 
 
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11:26 AM on 05/27/2009
I find it ridiculous that mainstream America is glued to their television sets for shows like The Bachelor or Rock of Love, where halfwits “fall in love... Read More” and trample one another for the chance to marry their “soulmate,” who they were lucky enough to find on broadcasted TV, just in time for the conveniently scheduled marriage proposal at the end of the television season, but gay and lesbian people who are lucky enough to find true love have to fight for the opportunity to be able to share in the same rights awarded to (and in some cases, abused by) straight people. It should not be an argument of religion, but support of equal civil liberties – something that the stepping stones of this country were (supposedly) built upon. If America can not support equality for all individuals within our own country, how can we promote ourselves as a country that is fighting for worldwide justice? All people, regardless of how they look, who they love, what they believe, should be awarded the same rights as the person next to them. Period. And when that happens, I will stop judging people for watching those crappy aforementioned TV shows.
07:40 PM on 05/26/2009
Look, can't we all get behind equal rights? If the use of the analogy between rights for people of color and rights for gay people is troubling, step away from it, exhale, exhale again, and consider the larger point the analogy serves.

As a nation, as a free country, how free are any of us if we aren't all protected equally under the law? Come on now, this is the thing about America, isn't it? We are a nation built on the backs of enslaved men, women, and children, which has evolved to collectively elect president an American man of African descent. We evolve. We progress.

The violence of our shared history is so unspeakable that it continues in the form of people rearing up and baring their teeth at an oppressed demographic of people, NOT the injustice brought to the light by said oppressed demographic of people. This makes me frustrated. I know that if Dr. King where alive, he would be reminding us that We Shall Overcome Someday. And that's a big, collective We.

But whoops, I am echoing Dr. Nelson's analogy. I think her argument is brave. I think she is incredible (Ok, full disclosure, she and her wife are my cousins).

It's hard to talk about this stuff without our hackles up, but I hope that all of the conversations born of it lead to equal rights for all Americans.
10:59 AM on 05/27/2009
The real fact of the matter has nothing to do with religion and all of the perpetuated stumbling blocks that are thrown down daily against LGBT civil liberties. The real fact of the matter is that people are attempting to treat and keep others as second class citizens. We cannot have an honest dialogue about gay rights or any measure of civil liberties if we do not also speak about class, about the essence and true scope of of freedom and about the real human need to truthfully express who we each are.

We shall be free as a people and as a human race, when we come to the collective conclusion that we will never thrive as a civilization so long as some are drowned out while others are permitted to thrive. We put up far too many walls in our world - walls built upon the concept of permission, walls built upon the idea that a small circle of people have the right to legislate in areas of our life where they do not belong. I've never voted against my heterosexual neighbor's right to start a family, so why should she then have the right to vote against my own personal aspirations?

We fight for our rights to marry, to express our relationships publically not as an afront to threaten the definition of marriage for others, but rather because the essence of our relationships have continuously been threatened institutional prejudice.

Thank you for tuning me into your thoughts
07:14 PM on 05/26/2009
Regardless of how people choose to conceive of the situation, there is now, post supreme court decision, a curiously limited cohort of legally married couples who live in a legally sanctioned, but for the time being fixed group that can't be joined by any others in exactly the same circumstances, How sad. I am optimistic enough to believe that at some point this will be rectified and all, not just in California, but in the entire country, will be able to marry regardless of sexual orientation. How great will be the cost, however, until that comes to pass?
02:46 PM on 05/26/2009
Well the CA Supreme Court ruled today and Barbara Nelson was prescient in her analysis - the Court upheld Prop 8 banning same sex marriage in California but upholding the marriages for some 18,000 same sex couples married between the time the court ruled they had a constitutional right and the passage of the proposition. We now have precisely the two tier system of marriage that Dr. Nelson was concerned about.
02:42 PM on 05/26/2009
The CA Supreme Court ruled as Prof Nelson predicted. Past same sex marriages are legal, future ones are illegal. At least California kept the same sex marriages it formerly allowed. But what about the other gays and lesbians who live in California and want to be married there? Allowing past gay marriages to remain legal shows that the reasoning of the court about the validity of gay marriage still stands. The court did not protect minorities, one of its major jobs. In the future this ruling will be an embarrassment for the Court
02:23 PM on 05/26/2009
Barbara Nelson offers a thoughtful and reasoned plea for fairness and equality in our society that will help to strengthen our commitments to one another and our communities.
08:30 PM on 05/24/2009
What a lucid, eloquent statement. Thank you so much Dr. Nelson for sharing this with this site. If we didn't already agree with your sentiments, you'd certainly cause us to give the issue another look. We find your analogy completely rational and not at all incendiary. Sorry that it is stirring up some resentment - perhaps that's inevitable.
07:54 PM on 05/21/2009
The Supreme Court of CA is facing a momentous decision. In May 2008, it concluded that all the laws passed giving lesbians and gays civil and human rights were so extensive that to deny them marriage was discriminatory. The laws that the Court considered were passed by the elected legislators of CA. Now the Court must decide whether a process of conversation, consideration, and mutual learning-legislation-should be overridden by an up or down vote of minority of the CA electorate. One of the major jobs of courts is to protect minority rights. My family, which like many others includes people as black as polished ebony and as white as creamy alabaster and everything in between, cares deeply whether the court creates two tiers of marriage for gays and lesbians. The last time such a marriage system was legal in the US was in the slave-holding South, when a few freed slaves could marry but their brothers and sisters-literally their brothers and sisters-- could not.
12:58 AM on 05/20/2009
I support gay marriage and I appreciate that there are legal parallels to the current gay marriage deliberation in the history of civil rights law. There are, however, better ways, less offensive and less divisive ways, to illustrate that point. For you--as a most likely affluent, white, tenured university professor--to compare yourself and your situation to that of African American former slave in the mid-1800s is asinine.
05:23 PM on 05/19/2009
It's this part that compels me most: "If the newspapers in Los Angeles, Sacramento and San Francisco are right, the Court may create, by analogy, a legal class like free people of color in a slave state, that is, gay and lesbian people who married under the full protection of the law in the window when same sex marriage was legal and who retain their marriage rights, while other gays and lesbians now are unable to marry and may not be able to do so in the future."

It's a legal analogy, not a racial one that Dr. Nelson makes, and it is astute.
03:01 PM on 05/19/2009
Thank you, Dr. Nelson, for your eloquent and important post. As the parent of a gay child, this issue is of the utmost personal importance to me and my family. I want ALL my children to have the same rights, gay or straight. As an American citizen, the conundrum for me is: why is this issue even an issue? Equal rights for all. Isn't this the American way? I cannot comprehend the argument that same-sex marriage threatens opposite-sex marriage. But I can understand that denying equal rights to any group threatens the rights of all of us.
10:37 AM on 05/19/2009
I am an African American, heterosexual male, physician, and priest in the Episcopal Church, USA. I write in response to and solidarity with my dear friend Barbara J Nelson, author of the May 13, 2009 Huffington Post editorial, “I Am Like a Free Person of Color in a Slave State.” In the interest of full disclosure, I acknowledge that I co-officiated at Barbara’s wedding.

It is my hope that I can prevail upon fellow African Americans in particular to imagine the gravity and validity of Barbara’s analogy. “Listen with the ear of your heart,” and through the lens of our collective experience, to the weight of oppression, isolation, and alienation that is too often justified by proof-text readings and outright misrepresentations of Holy Scripture. Try to imagine how our ancestors must have felt when their full humanity was denied and our beloved Scripture was employed as an instrument to justify that very denial.

I implore you to look past Barbara’s race and try to imagine instead the plight of all of our gay and lesbian brothers and sisters of color—including one of my siblings, a lesbian woman—as they remain in a bondage beyond slavery.

Even if one rejects Barbara’s analogy, we must surely recognize that the dynamics of racism, sexism, heterosexism, anti-Semitism, social class stigmatism and the like are inextricably intertwined and share much in common. The knot of oppression cannot be untied for one alone or just a few.

The Rev Dr Ronald David
08:45 PM on 05/18/2009
This is an extremely important essay for the Justices of the CA Supreme Court, and all a citizens of California, and it is important to read the text carefully. The author of the essay specifically states that she is making an analogy about the legal status created; she is NOT asserting equivalence of experience. The history of free people of color in the South is one that shows that the whole legal (as well as moral) system of slavery was wrong. If the laws around slavery could make exceptions and give rights to a few members of a discriminated against group, those exceptions show that the whole premise of slavery and discrimination by race was wrong. The legal analogy is that if some gays and lesbians can marry, it makes no legal sense why all gays and lesbians cannot marry. The law often develops by analogy, and the analogy in this essay points out what historic precedent the California Supreme Court would be following if they support gay marriage in one instance and not in another. One would hope they would think twice before doing so.
04:28 PM on 05/18/2009
Thanks to the writer of this editorial. It takes COURAGE to find connections between different kinds of oppression while also giving each historical experience its own individual respect. Let's not lose the bigger message, if some gays and lesbians in California can be married why can't all gays and lesbians be legally married. Bravo. Go Girl.
09:23 PM on 05/14/2009
Ms. Nelson, I appreciate the unfortunate legal limbo in which you and your gay brothers and sisters are trapped in. However, you are NOT like a free "colored person in a slave state."

As a real "colored person," I can tell you, you are not. You do not exist in a world where you are discriminated against in all manners of public accommodation. Frankly, unless you tell someone you are gay (or act in a manner which telegraphs your sexual orientation) you are not restricted from public transporation, housing, employment, education, medical or legal services. Gays have not dealt with Jim Crow laws. You hobnob with high society, eat at their tables, and at worst, decorate their homes. You've never been relegated to second-class schools, ridden the back of the bus, or had to buy your lunch from the alleyway window at the back of the restaurant.

To reiterate, unlike someone faced with racial discrimination, you can walk the streets unidentified and unstigmatized. Unlike black, Asian, Hispanic or Native Americans, whose racial or ethnic identity clearly visible, gay people pass unnoticed under most people's radar -- unless you show or tell them "Yup, I'm Gay."

So please do not lump yourselves in with us. Do you deserve the right to forge a state-sanctioned union with your partner? Yes. But you for damn sure cannot and should not compare yourselves with "colored people" nor with slaves.