Revenge Cheating, Artificial Sweeteners And Depression

03/31/2008 05:12 am ET | Updated Nov 17, 2011
  • Dr. Belisa Vranich Clinical Psychologist; Author, 'Breathe: 14 days to Oxygenating, Recharging, and Fueling Your Body & Brain'; Advisory Board Member, The Hope & Grace Initiative

Dear Dr. Belisa,

I'm puzzled by this media frenzy about Patterson and his wife cheating on each other simultaneously. Simultaneously? Come on now, isn't that like being separated? --Ester, 48

Dear Ester,

Yes, and it's also similar to an open marriage. It all depends whether they were sleeping with each other at the time and what they told each other when they were having sex with others. Seems to me like Patterson decided that the public would be more accepting of "bilateral infidelity" than of his having an agreement with his wife that they would stay married while having relationships with other people. Hmm.

Dear Doc,

I have a friend that stopped eating artificial sweeteners and reports that she is not depressed anymore. Is this possible? --Lori, 34

Dear Lori,

I'm not a big fan of artificial sweeteners at all. They have very mixed reviews, with some studies reporting that they cause ailments such as migraines and, yes, depression. Here is one of the most recent articles I have read on the subject.

Dear Doc,

I'm back on the dating scene. My friends keep trying to take me to bars. Do women really meet men they want to marry in bars? --Back In The Game, 31

Dear BITG,

You can meet women at bars, but you cut out a good chunk of the female population who doesn't drink. If you find you can't meet a mate at your local watering hole, try for places where you might find someone with common interests - the gym, volunteering, taking a class. As an added benefit you get the pleasure of hearing them over the music and seeing them in good lighting.