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Dr. Ben Michaelis is a clinical psychologist in full-time private practice in Manhattan. Dr. Michaelis writes and speaks regularly about mental health, creativity, spirituality and motivation. He is the author of numerous popular and scholarly articles and is a regular contributor to The Huffington Post. Dr. Michaelis is a frequent guest on nationally syndicated TV shows such as, NBC's The Today Show, The Hallmark Channel's Home & Family, and MSNBC's Your Business. Dr. Michaelis is the author of Your Next Big Thing: 10 Small Steps to Get Moving and Get Happy.


Entries by Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

Spring Cleaning: It's Not Just for Closets Anymore

(0) Comments | Posted March 20, 2015 | 3:00 PM

3 Tips For De-Cluttering Your Mind To Get A Fresh Start This Spring


Many people accumulate more stuff in their homes while spending more time indoors during the winter. If you look around you may notice gifts that you received but didn't really...

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The 3 Best Apps for Keeping Your New Year's Resolutions

(0) Comments | Posted January 6, 2015 | 10:13 AM


Good news/bad news here.

First the good news: You want to be a better person.

Research out of the University of Scranton (yes, that Scranton) indicates that nearly half of all Americans make New Year's resolutions aimed at improving...

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Are You Afraid to Be Alone? Good News: You're Not

(0) Comments | Posted October 8, 2014 | 11:53 AM


POP QUIZ: When you find that you are alone, for example, when you are stopped in traffic, waiting on a elevator or a friend, or you are in the bathroom, what is the first thing you do?

You check your cell phone....

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What the Robin Williams Tragedy Means for You

(1) Comments | Posted August 19, 2014 | 1:23 PM

I don't make it a habit to comment on mental health issues of people I don't know, and I didn't know Robin Williams personally. As professional working in this area, I respect the limitations of not truly understanding someone who I only see from a distance. However, I am making...

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The 7 Best Books for Getting Over a Breakup

(8) Comments | Posted June 23, 2014 | 4:53 PM

A friend recently asked me to recommend some books to help her friend get over a breakup. To both of our surprises, I couldn't give her any suggestions because, well, I didn't have any.

I'm a clinical psychologist in full-time private practice in New York City. People often...

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The 3 Things Every College Graduate Should Know

(0) Comments | Posted May 14, 2014 | 4:30 PM

At this time of year, as many people exchange their well-worn student IDs for brand new alumni discount cards, they are being bombarded with information -- from credit card offers, to (hopefully) job offers, to advice from authority figures -- irrespective of their actual authority or right to dispense worldly...

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How Is Being a Good Boss Just Like Being a Good Parent?

(0) Comments | Posted May 5, 2014 | 1:01 PM

"I can't take it anymore. Whenever we're in meetings, she deliberately tries to make me look stupid. I've got to get out of there."

You may have heard the phrase, "People don't leave their jobs, they leave their bosses." In recent months, that expression has achieved a mantra-like status in...

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4 Signs That You Should Go to Therapy

(5) Comments | Posted April 14, 2014 | 8:40 AM

"If you only have a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail." -- Abraham Maslow

I believe in the power of therapy. With the right connection between a therapist and patient/client* amazing changes are possible. I have experienced this on both sides of the proverbial couch,...

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Why Long-Distance Relationships Never, Ever Work (Except When They Do)

(2) Comments | Posted February 5, 2014 | 5:34 PM

I have a confession to make, but I want you to keep it just between us, okay?

I love the movie Love Actually -- love it. Really I do. I know that this is not the most masculine thing to admit, but I'm okay with that because...

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The 6-Letter Word for LOVE (And the Only One That Matters)

(4) Comments | Posted January 27, 2014 | 11:06 AM

This time of year, when roses are marked up 7,000 percent, Hello Kittys with giant "I Love You"-embroidered hearts are jockeying for prime "impulse buy" position at Duane Reade, and Whitman's Samplers are pouring off of the shelves at Walgreen's, it's worth taking some time to consider where you are...

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The 3 Ways Martin Luther King Jr. Saved Your Soul

(1) Comments | Posted January 15, 2014 | 11:14 AM

If you are reading this, Martin Luther King Jr. saved your soul.

Martin Luther King Jr.'s legacy as a leader and civil rights crusader is only a small fraction of his gift to the world. His enduring contributions are far greater and wider reaching for our shared experience and personal...

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The 9 Best Books for Meaningful Change

(32) Comments | Posted December 26, 2013 | 2:01 PM


Yes, its that time again: New Year's is almost upon us. Regardless of where you stand on New Year's resolutions, the new calendar can serve as a helpful reminder about the only true constant in all of our lives: change.

Like it or not, we are all always...

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The Blessing of Blessing

(5) Comments | Posted November 25, 2013 | 1:07 PM

On a recent trip to Oklahoma to attend the Oklahoma Creativity Forum a new friend invited me to his home to have dinner with him and his wife.

Just before lifting his spoon to begin the soup course, my friend, Ken, paused, looked over at us...

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What Do You Do When Death Is a Relief?

(2) Comments | Posted November 12, 2013 | 10:02 AM

"She died this morning at 11 a.m."
"How are you feeling?"
"Sort of numb, I guess. It has been a long time coming."
"Yes, it has."
"I'll miss her and so will my boys."
We sat in silence for barely a moment when my patient...

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The 4 Letter Word That Leads You Astray (And What to Do About It)

(5) Comments | Posted October 12, 2013 | 9:38 AM

A recent clip that went viral featured Louis C.K. going on a rant about how he hates cell phones. I believe this video went viral not because we all hate cell phones but because Louis C.K. was saying something far more profound: that technology has the power to...

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Meditation, Purpose and the Happiness Police

(3) Comments | Posted September 10, 2013 | 1:06 PM

When they first enter my office, many of my clients express the desire for "happiness." This is understandable, given the tremendous recent emphasis on happiness in our society, but it is a mistake. Through my years of practice, I have come to appreciate that the endless pursuit of happiness results...

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What Is the 'Return' on Charity?

(7) Comments | Posted June 23, 2013 | 12:46 PM

We live in a cynical world.

In fact, as a longtime (and proud) resident of New York City, you might say that I live in a particularly jaded town -- the capital of both capitalism and cynicism.

In spite of these facts, I have come to believe that the key...

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Cheating on Your Inner Procrastinator

(0) Comments | Posted May 29, 2013 | 5:20 PM

Yeah, that's right: You're busted.

You're procrastinating. I know it. You know it. And I actually think your boss probably knows it too. Maybe she's even reading this post right now, trying to avoid working on your mid-year performance review (lucky you).

It's okay to procrastinate, as...

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If Everybody Likes You, You are Doing it Wrong

(60) Comments | Posted April 22, 2013 | 8:20 AM

"I want to do it but I'm afraid."
"What are you afraid of?"
"I'm afraid that people won't like me."
"And, that's it. I don't want people not to like me."
"Let me let you in on a little secret: If everybody likes you,...

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The Biggest Risk Is the One You Never Take

(9) Comments | Posted March 7, 2013 | 6:41 PM

Taking risks raises your anxiety level. It should and has to. No one wants to be rejected.

Whether you are expressing your romantic longings to the person you have pined over for months or you have put your soul and spirit into an audition for the role of your...

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