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Hug the Monster: 4 Secrets of Surviving the Recession

Posted: 03/03/09 09:18 AM ET

In the remote forests of Washington state near the Canadian border, where the air force teaches its aviators to survive in hostile environments, the instructors hate the sunshine. They like it cold, wet and miserable. Rough weather, they say, makes the best pilots and survivors. Adversity is the best teacher. Stripped of every comfort and left to their wits, the pilots are forced to think, adapt, and make a plan.

The same goes for the sinking economy. Survival means adapting quickly and forging new plans. Tough times also create opportunities for those who can change their attitudes and actions. For the past few years, I've explored the secrets of the world's most effective survivors and thrivers while researching and writing The Survivors Club. I met people slammed by life who managed to recover, repair and rebuild. Along the way, I spent some time at the air force's SERE school in Spokane, Washington, where survival specialists teach men and women how to survive, escape, resist and evade in extreme situations.

The basic lessons of survival school apply to all kinds of adversity, like vanishing jobs, foreclosed homes and disappearing 401(k)'s.

1. Situational Awareness. The military acronym is S/A and it means knowing what's going on around you and being able to act. Are you alert to threats to your survival and what's your plan and backup if everything goes to hell? In this tough economy, many of us don't have much S/A. We see the grim economic headlines but don't change our behavior. We refuse to open our 401 (k) mailings because we don't want to see the wreckage. S/A means facing reality. It means recognizing that as many as three million jobs will be lost in the next year - or 340 pink slips every hour. Nearly half of America's households are underfinanced for retirement. The average retirement account has lost a third of its value in the last year; collectively, some $2 trillion in retirement savings have been erased. Sure, many of us may realize this, but the air force guys know there's a big difference between awareness and action. It's not enough to notice your wing is on fire. You need a plan. When it comes to a crisis or emergency, experts say that as many as 80 percent of us freeze and fail to act. We wait for an authority figure to tell us what to do. If you want to survive, you to take action. Quickly.

2. Hug the Monster. It's pretty scary to watch your 401 (k) disappear. Worse is letting your fears run wild. Neuroscientists say that the fear of losing money can activate the same alarms in the brain that go off when we're attacked, unleashing neurochemicals that can wreak havoc on clear-thinking and decision-making. The Air Force calls this "analysis paralysis." What to do? Instructors tell trainees to hug the monster: grab hold of their fears, wrestle with them, and turn them into motivation. Grapple with your fears and they become more familiar to you. Soon, those fears can become your allies and help you survive and thrive.

3. Eat an Elephant One Bite at a Time. Survival is one big ornery animal, and if you try to swallow a 15,000-pound pachyderm in one gulp, two things can happen. You'll either give up or you'll get really bad indigestion. The key is to slow down. Take one small bite. Chew. Swallow. Then take another. Using different language and metaphors, nearly every survivor described the same method: Divide unwieldy challenges into achievable tasks. One goal at a time. One decision at a time. One action at a time. Before you know it, you can make real progress. The military acronym is STOP: Stop, think, observe, plan. Follow those steps in a financial crisis, and soon, you'll be moving deliberately in a better direction.

4. Know Yourself. In the end, experts say, the best survival kit is right between your ears. So use it. It also helps to know your Survivor IQ. How do you behave in a crisis? What are your strengths (and weaknesses)? Working with a team of personality testing experts, I developed the Recession Survival Quiz that gives you a glimpse of your Survivor Type and matches you with top business leaders who share your strengths. The free and fast quiz also points you to some of the best resources and guides on the Web for dealing with unemployment, credit and debt problems, and other financial challenges.

 

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In the remote forests of Washington state near the Canadian border, where the air force teaches its aviators to survive in hostile environments, the instructors hate the sunshine. They like it cold, w...
In the remote forests of Washington state near the Canadian border, where the air force teaches its aviators to survive in hostile environments, the instructors hate the sunshine. They like it cold, w...
 
 
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hypnotoad72
Real democracy = living wages.
03:09 PM on 03/14/2009
Isn't robbery a form of attack?
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Fein
Either everybody counts or nobody does.
01:21 PM on 03/08/2009
"This ain't no party! This ain't no disco!"
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MJinCanada
Safe from zombies until my 2nd cup of coffee
04:58 PM on 03/05/2009
Here's a rather interesting piece comparing the collapse of the USSR to the potential economic collapse of the USA. Some of the points it covers have already been mentioned by several commenters.

http://www.energybulletin.net/node/23259

If you're in the mood for post-apocalyptical entertainment, there's the scifi novel "Dies the Fire" by S.M. Stirling. In this novel, survival depends on keeping a level head, being loyal to friends, working cooperatively and having weird but useful hobbies.

If all else fails I know how to knit socks, starting with a raw fleece.
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CascadianPDX
01:28 PM on 03/08/2009
I also highly recommend "Dies The Fire"... good read.
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Artos
Down with Tyrants
11:08 AM on 03/05/2009
The biggest mistake that Americans made was getting to the point where we became too dependent on Corporations to do everything for us, They enjoyed that since it made them an awful lot of money. They encouraged us to be dependent on them. The more we became dependent on them the more of our independence we abdicated. We allowed them to set the pace for our lives until now we live frantically. As Thoreau said " We live lives of quiet Desperation." Remember the old union song about " owing our souls to the Company Store", Well that's what we did and because of that we are now where we are. The only way to get out of that rut is to harken back to the original ideas of what it was to be an American. To strive for individuality and to become resilient like our Pioneer forefathers. To tell the Corporations, "Don't Tread on Me.". We should take a lesson from the Amish as well and learn to work together on a neighbor level to help each other so that as communities we can be independent. A self sufficient community can survive free of Corporate domination.
09:50 AM on 03/05/2009
I retired "on time" and have a pension and health care as long as the state is solvent, but I also know that my working class background and Depression era parents prepared me for this kind of economic crash--be as creative and frugal and connected as possible. We now live in a time when Do-IT- Yourself is a hobby and marketing slogan and many things we cannot fix ourselves--most of our electronics. BUT, boomers will have to learn to sew and repair minor plumbing and mix cement and use the library and make cheap healthy meals, and stop the mad bar hopping and big cars and vacations and clothes and gizmos.

Does the experience of the Depression last only two generations? Will a more sustainable way of life emerge from this? Or will people splurge again when the stock market rises to 10,000 and they have a job? Forced Sustainability may be a contradiction in terms. Working class grandparents should be our role models.
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Artos
Down with Tyrants
10:58 AM on 03/05/2009
HumbleSage.
It is the nature of Humans to never learn from their mistakes. Give it a generation or two and they will repeat this whole thing. Look at the situation we are in in Iraq and Afghanistan. Did we learn anything from Vietnam or Korea, No. The only thing our Generals learned is that they didn't want to be saddled with the title of "Loser", so this time they aim to see to it that we spend an additional 10 years at it until we wear the enemy down or kill all of the civilians so that there is no more resistance. Then we can truly consider ourselves winners. That's the way the Army thinks. Even if we got out of Iraq tomorrow, You can bet your bottom dollar ten years from now they would get us into yet another debacle,
09:51 PM on 03/04/2009
The economic collapse in this country is a "collective trauma," similar in some ways to the terrorist attack of 9/11, in that it has shattered our collective illusions of grandiose invincibility. The shattering of such sheltering illusions exposes us to enormous anxiety. Psychologically, "hugging the monster " in this context means finding ways to live in that anxiety rather than trying to evade it in ways that are self-destructive. One way to live in the anxiety is to dialog with others who have similarly lost their reassuring illusions--others whom I call "siblings in the same darkness" (RD Stolorow, Trauma and Human Existence, Routledge, 2007).
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bighat
Truth as I see it
09:45 PM on 03/04/2009
The best investment one might make in these times is a garage. The kind that repairs cars. Pick a model or brand at first and then expand. Lease or purchase your land next to the big lots selling new cars. Word of mouth will spread.

Unlimited potential. If you know what you are doing you might get other investors that can build the parts you need cheaper than what the big 3 charge. They seem to be trying to make extra money on the parts.

Not easy but it can be done. Just need cooperation, a business plan and some startup capital. do not got to the bank. There are plenty of investor still around. Look for those that have financed IPOs
08:05 PM on 03/04/2009
The reason this is going to be super hard for Americans is that you've bought into the "American Dream". It always was and will for ever be--just that--a dream. Wake up American. As for fear--embracing it means expressing it. Best way I know how to express fear is to scream. Try it once in a while.
08:30 PM on 03/04/2009
You are right, and that's what's so scary. Americans will have to downsize every aspect of their lives to get to the other side of this crisis. You will get by with one vehicle. Walking and public tranportation will loom large in your life. There won't be many restaurant meals. You will be shopping at Aldis. You clothes will have to last longer, without regard to fashion. Your kids will be getting hand-me-downs from friends and family. If you can adapt to this new reality, you will do okay. If you cannot, you will be featured on the evening news surrounded by the carnage from your breakdown.
09:50 PM on 03/04/2009
Right on John. I hope many will read your response.
10:18 PM on 03/04/2009
Interesting John. What you're describing is essentially my childhood. We had one car that my father struggled to keep running. My mother sewed and patched our handed-down clothes. Eating out was rare and always had a celebratory feel. We had dinner around the kitchen table, watched TV or played board games in the living room. My father had a huge garden every summer and my grandmother put up pickles and preserves. Maybe it's just nostalgia, but if you're suggesting a return to those times, I admit, I'm having trouble seeing the downside.
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Lizaxyz
Just sit right back and you'll hear a tale...
04:47 PM on 03/04/2009
Another secret to recession survival: Plant a Victory Garden and get back to nature!
04:05 PM on 03/04/2009
It's not all bad news. Since we're near bottom, you may consider this crisis a buying opportunity for stocks. And as far as retirement savings, they'll bounce back eventually, maybe not up to their highest level, but they'll be higher than now, so hanging on and being patient may be the best policy there. Inaction is not always a bad thing.

Eating an elephant? What a gruesome analogy! I don't think so, whether it's small bites or big. Elephants have gotta live too!
leftcoastindy
Where did I put my MOJO
04:29 PM on 03/04/2009
Yea he should have said cow. I would think one would get a pretty good tummy ache if one tried to eat a cow in one bite.
05:14 PM on 03/04/2009
Statistically you're right on the money (excuse the pun). The market is probably undervalued at this point, and should see a correction at least to 7K to 7.5K initially which is probably where the lower confidence limit (CL >= .95) of the market is sitting. Great advice. Good thinking.
03:19 PM on 03/04/2009
I just have to say Thank You for this post and for everyone's comments. Although I must say it is telling that the comments on a post that is intended to be encouraging and offer some practical ideas and suggestions take up only one "page". Any other post that is picking someone apart, ranting, etc., we who come to Huff post know the drill, has pages and pages of comments full of critiques, debate, etc. And it reminds me once again how much easier it is to criticize and tear apart than it is to attempt to encourage, problem solve and engage in creative, collaborative brainstorming. Seeing your post reminds me of an idea I plan to suggest to Ariana Huffington. We'll see what comes from it.
My husband was laid off a few weeks ago and with an income that barely qualified us as middle class we are now in the thick of this recession. With unemployment benefits that will cjust barelyover our mortage and bills we are unable to afford Cobra benefits. Hopefully we will be able to get some catastrophic policy to hold us over til one of us can find a job with bennies-ie Health Coverage.
Thanks again to Ben and to the posters who were able to find some encouragement and hope to contribute. A breath of fresh air indeed.
03:14 PM on 03/04/2009
I couldn't agree more with situational analysis - If you don't know what is out there how can you react.

I just read a book called America In Focus: The Stunning View Through A Two-Way Mirror, Robert j. Burgess - excellent material for any decision maker. It is a portrait of our society as seen through thousands of focus group participants.

The author talks about a concept called MBC - management by chaos - reacting to crisis in an irrational manner. Companies have foregone actual research to understand their customers to jumping and reacting to the short term. So your profits are sinking - so your automatic response is layoff personnel - to save your bottom line. Wouldn't it make more sense to keep an economy viable by infusing money into it? The unemployed typically spend less.

This current situation was very predictive - if you read the book you will see what I mean as our outlook on life has been to get ahead no matter what the cost. Well now we are all paying.
03:09 PM on 03/04/2009
I do believe that most people are in survival mode, learning how to live with the scary demons of this recession. Readjusting lifestyles, expectations and dreams is a part of the new manual of our times. I have suffered financial losses and do not dare to assume that I will see ever their recovery in my Baby Boomer lifetime.

I have had the privilege of living in another country for many years, one where there was always less- yet the people remained in a state of Grace, never missing what that never had. They had close community ties, deep family connections and could find happiness in the simplest of things.

I must say with shame that being in American again has made those impressions fade to a blurr. I am worried about how low the stock market will fall (6000?) and if my new car warranty will be honored once GM lowers the final boom on Saab. Foolish, indeed, but I am hugging my monsters and they keep on biting back.
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02:48 PM on 03/04/2009
I'm not retiring for another 30 years. As far as I'm concerned, the stock market's on sale, and I'm buying more shares with the same money. Once the market's back up, it'll be worth more.

If I had less than ten years to retire, I would have changed my strategy, and I feel bad for those who weren't able to act quickly enough. But if you're more than 15 years away from your retirement, you may want to hold on to your IRA's and 401(k)'s. You may wind up reaping a HUGE benefit when the economy recovers.
02:29 PM on 03/04/2009
Don't focus on yourself, but on how to help others. The solution will be in groups. Find a commune to join, or start thinking about one. Work to change zoning laws, so multiple families can come together in an intentional community. Strength is in numbers. Alone we are weak.
12:37 PM on 03/05/2009
I totally agree. I am a youngish person, who is part of a really great community that started a tradition when my husband lost his job almost 10 years ago: We all get together every other Friday night and take turns cooking dinner for the group. It is a fabulous way to stay close to friends, and it is very economical. There are so many of us now that you only have to host about 3 times a year (fairly large numbers at those times, but still less expensive than fancy dinner out for 4), so you end up getting a great, home cooked meal once every 2 weeks that you mostly don't have to pay for.