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A Military Wife's Struggle With PTSD

Posted: 04/16/2012 12:53 pm

In 2006, Staff Sgt. David McCaulla, a truck commander and gunner with the Army National Guard, returned from Iraq to a wonderful homecoming. A few weeks later, the rush of excitement began to fade. "I thought we'd be happy," said Amanda, his wife. "It was far from that."

Post-deployment transition can be a rough road for the battle-worn. The almost abrupt switch from mission-oriented to family-oriented can affect a soldier on many levels. And in some cases, the husband, or wife, that was deployed may not be the same person who returns home. That's a notion David's wife, Amanda, is familiar with.

When Sgt. McCaulla returned from a second deployment, he was monstrously short tempered with their five children and had no sense of purposefulness. "He's just not who I married," said Amanda.

Sgt. McCaulla was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder. To make matters even more challenging, Amanda's worries weren't solely centered on his changing behavior. Just before his second deployment and subsequent diagnoses, Sgt. McCaulla's military pay became entangled in a series of delays that spun the family into financial distress. "We weren't getting half of what he was supposed to get," she said. "We just got so far under. We were grounded."

That was when Amanda called USA Cares. With donations from the American public, USA Cares was able to assist the McCaullas with $3472.87 in mortgage, auto and utility payments.

"I could never repay USA Cares for the impact they've had on my family and myself," Amanda said. "USA Cares gave me my sanity and my life back."

Today, David's pay is still delayed. The McCaullas lost their home and Amanda and their four youngest children live in a three bedroom trailer with her mother. David lives with his grandmother, which is 90-minute drive away. David still attends bi-monthly clinical PTSD treatment and therapy sessions.

But they haven't given up.

"I love my husband and I want him to get well," Amanda said. "He wants to get well. We had a very passionate marriage. We loved each other. He was everything I ever wanted and he still is."

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In 2006, Staff Sgt. David McCaulla, a truck commander and gunner with the Army National Guard, returned from Iraq to a wonderful homecoming. A few weeks later, the rush of excitement began to fade. "I...
In 2006, Staff Sgt. David McCaulla, a truck commander and gunner with the Army National Guard, returned from Iraq to a wonderful homecoming. A few weeks later, the rush of excitement began to fade. "I...
 
 
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03:26 PM on 04/16/2012
PTSD treatment for Veterans found ineffective.
Eli Lilly Zyprexa can cause diabetes.
I took Zyprexa Olanzapine a powerful Lilly schizophrenic drug for 4 years it was prescribed to me off-label for post traumatic stress disorder was ineffective costly and gave me diabetes.
*FIVE at FIVE*
The Zyprexa antipsychotic drug,whose side effects can include weight gain and diabetes, was sold to Veterans,children in foster care, elderly in nursing homes.
*Five at Five* was the Zyprexa sales rep slogan, meaning *5mg dispensed at 5pm would keep patients quiet*.
*Tell the truth don't be afraid*-- Daniel Haszard
FMI http://www.zyprexa-victims.com
02:08 PM on 04/16/2012
I struggled with PTSD and depression for years after returning from Iraq in 2005. I ran off friends and family, racked up enormous debt and crossed paths with the law. Five years later I was admitted into an inpatient treatment program in the Augusta, GA VA hospital. I spent nearly 8 months undergoing treatment there. While the symptoms are not entirely gone, they are well under control now. The VA unquestionably saved my life. It can be hard to navigate the bureaucracy there, especially when dealing with mental health issues, but help is available.

I am asking HuffPost and anyone who reads this to please let SGT McCaulla and any others you encounter know about these programs. The one I attended admitted veterans and active duty troops alike, and I understand that there are similar programs around the country. You don't have to live that way. You can find peace.
05:09 PM on 04/16/2012
Thank you so much for posting this. Too often we only focus on the negative, and forget that there really is hope for those with PTSD. People do get better. No treatment works for everyone, but we are developing new options all the time. - Robert McLay, http://atwarwithptsd.com
05:16 PM on 04/19/2012
What about people who have PTSD from things other than military combat? Are there programs for them? Please let there be. Please.