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Anthony Weiner's Wife, Huma Abedin, You Must Demand That He Goes Into Therapy Fast

Posted: 06/06/11 09:25 PM ET

Your husband, Anthony Weiner , took responsibility for his sexually "inappropriate" relationships with six young women today, but he still wouldn't commit to getting psychological help! That's nuts!

Huma -- I need to point out to you that while your New York Congressman husband confessed that he has a "weakness," and that his twitpic-ing photos of his erection was "a destructive thing to do," he still thinks that he can control himself, from now on. Don't you think that's more than a little unrealistic?

If he couldn't control himself for the past three years even after he married wonderful you, last July, then why does he think he can suddenly beat his demons on his own now? And Huma, why would you even trust him after learning what he has kept hidden from you all this time?

Huma -- your man has a serious feeling of inadequacy, according to psychotherapist, Dr. Gilda Carle, of Dr.Gilda.com. "This doesn't have anything to do with sex, it was about getting a sense of power," she explains. "Talking, Facebooking and tweeting with young, pretty women made him feel like a big shot."

Anthony Weiner's real problem was that he felt inadequate inside -- like the skinny, gawky, nerdy guy he once was , says Dr. Carle. "Then he got into a position of political power, and suddenly women were flocking all over him, but he still felt inadequate. Communicating with these other women though would give him a feeling of power, that boosted his self-esteem."

And then Huma, he got addicted to this high he was getting from flirting with the kind of women -- young and pretty -- that he never thought would pay any attention to him before he was a bigwig.

You -- you have to get him to actually dig into why he feels so negatively about himself or he will never overcome his addiction. And if he can't quit his urge to show off his genitals to strange women, then he can never have a truly loving relationship with you.

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Your husband, Anthony Weiner , took responsibility for his sexually "inappropriate" relationships with six young women today, but he still wouldn't commit to getting psychological help! That's nuts! ...
Your husband, Anthony Weiner , took responsibility for his sexually "inappropriate" relationships with six young women today, but he still wouldn't commit to getting psychological help! That's nuts! ...
 
 
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02:22 PM on 06/07/2011
This is not an illness. This is a weakness.
02:15 PM on 06/07/2011
This is a little weak. I don't think these were 'innappropriate' relationships compared to a lot of other ones out there, especially in recent politics! If Anthony engaged in child pornography sharing, now that would be something. But thousands of men do this kind of stuff online every day, and most of it's harmless. This has got to be embarrassing for his wife, but demanding psychological help for men who do this is just silly. Where's the wizard-alien from South Park when you need him?
12:24 PM on 06/07/2011
He should get in touch with Bill Clinton and John Edwards about what to do....
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msblynne
doesn't hate or fear science
01:48 PM on 06/07/2011
I despise it when partisans of either side pounce on the story of the day to try to suggest that one or the other party has exclusive rights to these types of scandals. Marcus8, this is for you. http://www.dkosopedia.com/wiki/Republican_Sex_Scandals
Billybladerunner
Is this thing on....
12:11 PM on 06/07/2011
Here we go....Some one claiming this is a curable sickness or weakness....making an excuse for him... He doesn't need therapy....he needs to loose his job and everything that goes along with it..

Only then will he learn his lesson ......A regular American would loose everything if this was done on company time or from a company computer or phone..The Congressman is a 24/7 employee of the people ...what he did was un becoming of a congressman...and showed poor judgment and restraint. How do we know this same Poor Judgment and restraint doesn't or didn't effect his work on the hill. The whole of the American people will be effected by his decision making which is clearly one of self gratification.
Kristen Terga
Move along.
12:02 PM on 06/07/2011
Why when someone gets caught does it ALWAYS have to be an addiction. Im a dem and as long as he wasnt doing this on my dime I could really care less. Giving his wife advice is rude BTW.
01:15 AM on 06/07/2011
Ah, Anthony. You weiner. You come off like a perpetually adolescent protagonist of a Philip Roth novel. You could be so much more. Dammit.
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12:50 AM on 06/07/2011
And why is it your business to give his wife advice?
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PatA
Pink is a 4 letter word
02:11 PM on 06/07/2011
ckdogs, F^F. Ms. Fuller has feelings of inadequacy and writing pompous judgmental posts makes her feel powerful. She has hopes of younger men flocking around her. Can she quit? Shaking head. I seriously doubt it. She needs to get into a rehabilitation program. And ASAP.

All we can do is keep her in our thoughts and prayers as she struggles to climb back up the slippery slope she is on.

Chin up, Bonnie!
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JohnDewey
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08:34 PM on 06/07/2011
I definitely laughed out loud. Fanned.
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Fez
Ignorance is no excuse for the law.
11:49 PM on 06/06/2011
This is where the "...for better or for worse..." part of the wedding vow is tested. I pity Huma Abedin and wish her well (and some privacy and respect) whatever decision she makes.
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THE GREAT PURIFIER
If you are going through hell, keep going.
11:28 PM on 06/06/2011
No, Bonnie. No therapy.

Resignation first. Who cares second.
11:10 PM on 06/06/2011
Why is it that matters involving sex are never about sex? Is nothing ever just about sex?
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Hunter3203
Beer is proof God loves us and wants us to b happy
12:46 AM on 06/07/2011
Well in this case there actually wasn't any sex. I agree that oral sex is sex(the Clinton defense), but you can't have sex if you never even actually meet the other person.
01:56 AM on 06/07/2011
I thought the Clinton defense was that oral sex wasn't sex.

At any rate, I was questioning the assumption that this was power-related instead of sexual. It's a common argument.
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01:28 PM on 06/07/2011
On one level, technically, you're quite correct, but on a more important level, I think, infidelity is in the heart.
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11:02 PM on 06/06/2011
You don't know anything about either of these people. You don't know that she's "wonderful," and you (and your quoted, supposed expert) don't know that he's got feelings of inadequacy. All you know is that he's got somewhat developed pectoral muscles, and (most likely) a penis, because those things are indicated in the photos.
11:28 PM on 06/06/2011
Thank you for this.

We really need to stop being so presumptuous about people and what allegedly ails them.
11:49 AM on 06/07/2011
I was thinking the same thing. Fanned and Faved.
11:00 PM on 06/06/2011
Both Anthony and Huma need therapy. Huma has been traveling all around the world while leaving Anthony all alone. What does Huma expect Anthony to do all alone in a big house while she is gone at a time when he need her the most? It takes two to tango, it takes two to split.
11:06 PM on 06/06/2011
So, what, every professional woman has to babysit her 46 year old husband? He soooo doesn't deserve her.
11:25 PM on 06/06/2011
Usually when one spouse gets counseling, the other spouse ends up having to go to counseling also; individually and as a couple, both. He should have married someone else who is not traveling so much. If they have to spend their time apart so much, why bother getting married.
11:53 AM on 06/07/2011
Really?!? Spending quality time with your husband is babysitting to you??? WOW, that says a lot about your idea of what a marriage is. If you are not going to be fully committed to the person and you want to run around the world. DONT GET MARRIED. Just date. What's big rush, the whole idea of marriage is to settle down with the person whom you want to spend the rest of your life with. Not just 1/2 of theyear with while the other half your off jetsetting.
11:32 PM on 06/06/2011
This is about lying and deceit.

If they wanted to have an open marriage (which I don't recommend) fine.

But why did he get married if he still wanted to fool around?
(Yes, I know the answer.)

If he married, fooled around, got caught, and tried to lie his way out of it....he is responsible for his own actions.

He could have told his wife he "needed" her, especially before they got married.
And she could have decided if she wanted to marry him and/or leave him alone with his "weiner" and temptation.

She is NOT the cause of his weakness.
10:29 PM on 06/06/2011
If Weiner wants to survive in Congress, he should act ashamed and publicly state that he will get therapy for his "problem." I suspect the therapy would help some of his other issues as well.
11:36 PM on 06/06/2011
These guys are too arrogant and entitled to admit they have a problem unless caught, never mind need therapy.

Therapy is for the little guys who do dirty, not the political supermen.

As far as I am concerned, he should go.
He is a liar, deceiver, and hypocrite.
But he is not my problem.
********If I had voted for him, I would vote him out in the next primaries.
10:23 PM on 06/06/2011
Suggesting therapy, fair enough; however, I really think the press should leave Huma out of this as much as possible. She has enough to deal with right now!
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11:29 PM on 06/06/2011
Oh, Whitney, you are soooooooooooooooooooooooo 20th Century.
02:32 PM on 06/07/2011
The press leave someone "Wronged" alone? This is so right for a Lifetime Movie of the Era, book, OWN TearJerker,etc., it writes itself. But she'll have help and probably use Hillary's ghost writer.