Candy Spelling: You Will Die Alone & Unloved Unless You Apologize to Tori Now!
Open Letter to Candy Spelling
Do you really, seriously want to nail the coffin shut on your relationship with your daughter Tori? Do you ever want to see, let alone hold your granddaughter, Stella, 1, or your grandson, Liam, 2, ever again?
If so, what are you doing woman? Why would you ever think that writing a contentious memo to your daughter, Tori Spelling, and sending it to TMZ to post publicly, would be a good idea?
Shouting out to the world 
that your daughter was supposedly trying to trick you into attending your granddaughter's first birthday party, only so she could capture you on film for her reality show, is a surefire way to guarantee that you won't be at your granddaughter's second or third birthday party, bat mitzvah or wedding either. Is that what you want?
You've never met little Stella. Now you truly will have to walk over broken glass if you want to.
And you know what Candy, you should.
Who cares at this point, if you can't see your grandkids without reality cameras filming away? If I were you, after all the bad feelings that have gone down between you and Tori, I would have accepted that birthday invite with grace and gratitude. You should have showed up with a giant smile and a bag full of Grandma Candy gifts.
Candy, no matter how old Tori is now you are the mother and that makes you the "grownup" in the relationship. And as the grownup, it's up to you to put aside hurt feelings, disappointments and everything else involved in this feud BEHIND YOU! It's up to you to extend the olive branch and keep on extending it.
Let me remind you: motherly love is supposed to be unconditional love. That means you love your child even if you don't agree with their decisions (i.e. to star in the reality show Tori and Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood, write a tell-all book about their childhood, divorce their first husband, and say unkind things about you).
All those things may be disappointing to you, but Tori is your only daughter. Stella and Liam are your grandchildren. Whether it seems like it at this point, I guarantee that Tori 
needs you and that she truly wants to be loved by her mother.
Daughters need their moms, moms need their daughters. You once told me that you really wanted a good relationship with Tori.
What in hell were you thinking when you described 36-year-old Tori as "middle-aged?" Factually, 36 isn't middle age. That was just a cheap, mean shot.
I'm not a shrink but that attempt to insult Tori just came across as an even more desperate attempt to get Tori's attention than the entire TMZ posting.
Candy — and this sounds a little morbid — what if something happened to you or Tori tomorrow? Would you want your cruel public memo to Tori to be the last words that she ever heard from her mother? Would you want that to be your legacy to Tori and her children? Or would you want Tori to be gone, and never have a chance to apologize and hug her again?
Now if this feud ultimately is about the hundreds of millions of dollars that you got from your husband, Aaron, and that Tori didn't get, why don't you do the right thing?
And here's what it is: give both your son, Randy, and Tori a decent chunk of that change. You don't need it — couldn't use it up in your lifetime. Share the largesse with the ones you should love.
Sure money doesn't equal love but whatever weird message Aaron sent by leaving almost everything to you and almost nothing to your kids has poisoned what clearly was already a difficult relationship with Tori.
And don't believe the money will spoil her. She's already proven she's hardworking, ambitious and inventive — she's built herself quite a little empire of her own. You should be kvelling with pride over her accomplishments and her character.
She's no layabout drinker or druggie. She's a diligent worker and loving mother.
Candy, I hope you take my advice in the spirit it is given — with sincerity from a daughter who lost her mother a year ago. Yes we had our ups and down too and could definitely drive each other to distraction at times, but we never let disagreements stand in the way of love.
I miss my mom every day now. I bet Tori misses having a mom too. As dumb as you've been Candy, with your public diss memo and more, you can still recover your relationship. It starts with an apology — publicly, if necessary. Just do it: Being Granny Candy will be worth it! And Tori, if your mom does the right thing — you must do it too! You won't be sorry!
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Bonnie Fuller's letter was perfect, everything written needed to be said, and also everyone who has expressed how Tori's mother is which is a poor excuse for a mother and grandmother. I have one bottom line to say about the whole thing----Some people are too selfish and self obsorbed to become a parent and Canyd Spelling is one of those people----I'm hope but doubt that it will ever change much if at all. I'd like to see her money go to her kids and her live like a common somewhere because she has more money than brains and heart.
Thank goodness Tori is her own person!
I too did not care about (Donna) Tori while she was young and acted spoiled but as she has matured she has mellowed and become very human to me.. Candy her mother is very sad to me rather than be the loving mother she could be she wants to compete with Tori and is not used to be the center of attention but Candy you were NOT the center of attention Aaron was and now Tori is.. She loves you she wants you in her life without her you Candy are boring your interviews are boring and I wouldn't buy your book based on those interviews. If Tori were my daughter I would be so proud of her accomplishments and yes she has made mistakes which she owns up too which is also a testament to you and the way she was raised. You however, will not bend her to your will with your actions as you have tried to do. Everything you are doing is such a ploy to manipulate the situation which might've worked with her when she was younger or when Aaron was around but now you are on your own. Any grandmother who can't/won't spend a couple hours with her grandchild is not the person I want to see. How self centered and selfish are you? GROW UP.
I agree wholeheartedly with your letter Bonnie. I was never a big fan of Tori Spelling before her reality show but since I am a mother of small children also I have found a new appreciation for Tori & now for Dean also. I am so in love with the way they love each other & those children, watching their show makes me want to be a better mother & wife. Tori is an inspiration. I don't know how she has all the energy to keep up with all of her jobs but her mother should be proud of her, her mother should GLOW with PRIDE when she speaks of her daughter. You were right, motherhood is "UNCONDITIONAL LOVE", Candy does not have to agree with Tori's decisions or even like them but she should LOVE her daughter no matter what. I have two daughters ages 7 & 4 and I don't think there is anything in this world or in your wildest imagination that could make me stop loving them or put conditions on them in order to have a relationship with me.
I really hope Candy heeds your warning & ends this feud once & for all. Tori does need a MOM & those children need a Grandma.
Candy is full of it in my opinion. If she wanted privacy she would not have written a public letter to tori. She would have emailed her privately and handled it privately. Candy comes across to me as someone who is dead set that she is right, and she isnt. And she thinks Tori owes her some how?
I know Tori loves her but i am starting to agree with Dean on this.
I am a fan of Tori Spelling.
I think the letter to Tori on TMZ was rediculous!
I also think that if this feud is about money then both of them are stupid.
Tori should feel fortunate that she received the money she did. Maybe Aaron Spelling wanted his children to learn how to make their own way in the world. Which is what Tori has learned to do. She does it very well.
It is very common for the spouse to get EVERYTHING when one passes away. Why would Tori expect huge sums of money when her Mother is still alive?
Now if Candy dies and doesn't leave her a chunk then she can bitch and moan.
Tori extended the invitation. Candy declined to show. If she did not want to be taped that should not have been a problem.
Has anyone else noticed that Dean's son ALWAYS has his face pixeled out when he is on the show. What would have been the big deal for Candy to request the same thing and not sign a release. At least she would have been there, she would have seen Liam and met Stella.
Candy has no right to act like this. NONE!
Hopefully the feud ends before another funeral. Then it is just to late.
I agree with you to a point. I also thought her dad might want them to learn how to support themselves but I also think he wouldn't want them to work so hard they put their health in danger like Tori did when she was pregnant. It's my opinion that he'd rather they receive the money then for it to go to a stranger; kind of keeping it in the family but some going to charity.
There is a way to write a will so that 1/2 of the deceased's money goes in trust for the beneficiaries; let's face it, there's more then enough for Candy to live on if she had 1/2.
Honestly, I doubt Candy will leave anything to Tori and if she does it will be a small specific amount so that Tori can't contest it. I'm not sure if Candy will leave anything to Tori's kids either even though she says she has trusts set up for them.
Candy can blow every dime of it too.
Your letter is accurate. Watching Tori's emotions about Candy; IMO she's truly upset by everything going on; either that or she's a damned good actress. I have to wonder if Candy even watches; since this seems like a game to her. I want to slap her. Uncle Danny is fine with being on camera; I love when he makes an appearance. He appears to love Tori & her kids; I'm sure he cherishes the time he spends with them. If Candy didn't want to be on camera, she didn't have to.
Candy's TMZ letter was horrible.Since Tori has not commented on anything Candy said, I have to wonder why she keeps insisting in insulting Tori in public. Is it to sell more books? What about Tori's feelings? Accusing her of killing her dad was low. I agree with everything you said that Tori is a successful woman; I have to think Aaron would be proud. I also think he'd accept her being on Tori & Dean as it is done well.
we can all speculate about Randy; I'm sure Candy is supporting him; yet Tori is working so hard (like her dad) supporting herself. I don't think Aaron would have wanted Tori to have to work so hard if he knew she was. Whoever advised him did not do a good job. 1/2 of the estate should have been put in trust for Tori & Randy. In the end, Candy is going to have to answer to her maker; &
Tori's books - I've read both and think they were written well. Tori always stated this was her version & that Candy's might be different. Tori remembers things fondly, the Hanson's cake, shells, mentions how like Candy she is with some things. Why does Candy focus on the few things that she does. IMO Tori has never said anything viscous about her.
It's my opinion that Tori's kids will be the ONLY GRANDCHILDREN she has. I doubt Randy is going to have kids. The fact that she is able to see them grow up in pictures as well as on Tori & Dean, she should be counting herself lucky because those of us that don't have a relationship with our mothers; well they don't see our kids. Period. There will come a day when Tori & Dean ends & you will not be as lucky to see your grandchildren growing up. What has been captured on the show, those of us watching have fallen in love with these kids; they are adorable. Heck, I want to be in their lives.
Tori - I'm sure your dad is VERY PROUD of you.
I love your letter it made me think about the relationship my husband has with his mother. My daughter is 3 months old and my mother in law has yet to see or call about her granddaughter. It's very sad that people on this earth can be so cold hearted to their own blood. I believe family is first and Tori is an awesome mother, she needs to worry about giving her children what her mother has not gave to her and stop been worried about her mother who clearly has a negativity to bring to her children and a lot of disappointment. Tori do not bring that same pain you hold in your heart to your children. All Candy will do is disappointed her Liam and Stella like she disappoints her daughter. She will need to answer to God one day and only God knows what she will say. Good Letter and I love you Tori and Dean and kids when I watch your show it reminds me of my story :) Keep up the good work can't wait to buy clothes from your line for my baby girl.
Evidently Candy Spelling never saw Mommy Dearest. Aside from that, she is missing the best years of her grandchildren's lives. How sad!!!
Very good article, Ms. Fuller. And right on the money. Whatever the private issues between the two are, Candy is the one who has been personally critical in the public forum. Most inappropriate. Based on her public comments and actions, I have little respect for her and think it's doubtful the two can repair the damage.
Well said Bonnie Fuller.
I hope Candy can pull her head out of her ass long enough to read it.
Ms. Fuller,
As I read the 2nd to the last paragraph of your blog, I burst into tears. I kept wondering through - out the blog, how did you have such insight to something like this and then I saw the part where you said you lost your mom a year ago and it hit me. I'm so sorry for your loss and I can relate too. I lost my mom last June and it was very sudden. Like you, we had our ups and downs. But I know she loved me and we got along so well the last 8-9 years. She became my best friend and I told her how lucky I felt to have her as my Mom just 2 months before she passed away.
I hope Candy Spelling can forgive herself for acting this way, swallow her pride, and just take the first step towards repairing this damage. If she doesn't - you're right she will die alone and that would be ashame.
I lost my mom in 02 and FORTUNATELY (there were a few rough patches) we were on good terms. When you lose a loved one in your family reality hits (not the reality show kind).
Just curious. I'm not really familiar with the feud between those two but I read that Tori has a brother. Is he in speaking terms with his mother? If not, maybe Ms Spelling should try a very deep introspection.
One child not talking to you,that happens.None of your adult offspring welcoming you in their life indicates you may be the one with a problem.
Candy has always had a close relationship with Randy. He seems to have often acted as a go between with mother and sister. Often sticking up for his parents..he claimed that both he and Tori received $800,000 when his father died which was the amount his father deemed appropriate many many years before his death and that Candy didn't adjust the amount to give Tori any less. He claimed Tori was using their fathers death for publicity sake.
So no Bonnie.. Candy will not die alone since she has her relationship with her son to see her through. With regrets more than likely a big fat yes..but alone..no.
Good grief.. they are both wrong, but this seems to be the only way they can communicate with one another.
Inviting your estranged mother to your daughters televised birthday party and using it as a two part finale is manipulative and completely not in any way the an acceptable forum for a grandmother to meet her grandchildren for the first time. If Tori was interested in reconciling vs tv ratings/drama she would have invited her mother over before the birthday and without it being filmed..see how things went and then invite her mother to the televised birthday party. But instead she did it for the sake of her show and not her relationship.
Seeing that she was used it as season finale fodder. a two parter no less.. Candy then retaliates by publicly decrying the ruse.
Both of them need to be shut up and grow up.
But in no way or form should Tori get a dime of her fathers money until her mother dies. She breezed her way to the point of bankruptcy on the money her father already provided her with 90210. Aaron decided to cut her out based on a series of actions and decisions she made. His money not hers. Now Candy's. If Candy wants to leave her some when she dies that is her right. It is also her right to leave it all to a charity. Who knows what she will do with her money.
I just buried my Mom today, so I agree with Bonnie. I hope Candy will be the adult and reach out to Tori before it's too late.
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