Lynn Spears, Billy Ray Cyrus, and Dina Lohan now look like Parents Of The Year compared to Octo-Mom Nadya Suleman. Those parents may see their offspring as mega money-making machines, but at least they didn't start plotting their children's career trajectories until AFTER
they were born.
Now, we are faced with a woman who I suspect may have planned on her children's bankability even before they were conceived. How else to explain how a single mother of already six young children, with no current means of employment, a recipient of food stamps and child disability payments, and no home of her own, could possibly expect to be providing for the eight new mouths to feed.
I can only imagine that she was counting on cashing in on her new brood with her own reality show to rival "Jon & Kate Plus 8," and her own slew of million dollar cover shoots to rival Brangelina's.
These babies have no other chance to be cared for unless they pay their own way. Suleman claims she is going back to school next fall to earn a master's degree in counseling, but I haven't heard of any million-dollar salaried counselors. And that's what you need, millions, to raise 14 children, especially when one is autistic and some of the new eight could have medical conditions that require special care.
Suleman's own mother has spoken out about her daughter's irresponsibility saying, "The truth is Nadya's not capable of raising 14 children. We're already all living in my humble three-bedroom home, and it's really pretty crowded."
The grandmother has already been paying the cost of food, clothing, and other expenses for the first six of Suleman's children. However, she is throwing up her hands at the prospect of taking care of the new eight.
Suleman apparently also did not tell her own mother that she was awarded $165,000 in a work settlement. Could that be because she may have spent the money on inflating her lips and undergoing other plastic surgery in an attempt to be an Angelina lookalike? I'm not a doctor, so I can only guess, but her face looks highly suspicious.
If she did spend the money that she never told her own mother about on plastic surgery, then it's another indication that this woman of this woman's self-centeredness. She has already publicly confessed to having multiple babies in order to fulfill her own neediness for family after being raised as an only child.
I believe she's also fulfilling a need to be an Angelina-like celebrity and to make her fame and fortune off her innocent children. It must be like a dream come true already to be interviewed by Ann Curry on the "Today" show since Ann is one of Jolie's favorite interviewers. Where is the California Department of Social Services? And where is lawyer and child advocate Gloria Allred when you need her? Gloria was all incensed when Michael Jackson dangled his youngest child over a balcony in Germany when he was an infant. Shouldn't Gloria be as upset about a woman deliberately conceiving eight mouths to feed when she can't feed them? Furthermore, aren't these babies being put at risk of serious neglect?
Think about it. How is Suleman just going to be able to feed eight babies all day, all night? How will she have time to hold each baby enough to give it a sense of being loved and cared for? As a mom of four myself, I know that every baby needs to be held a lot. Anybody who's had even twins knows it's incredibly exhausting and demanding just to take care of two, let alone eight.
Then, consider, how do you ever transport them to doctor's appointments, how do you get your other six children up and ready for school and help them with their homework? How do you bathe them all, and make sure that they don't hurt themselves? Every mother knows you
have to have eyes in the back of your head to ensure safety of a baby or young child. How does a single mom watch all eight, let alone 14?
Suleman has told Ann Curry on the "Today" show that she believes that her family, friends, and church will somehow help her out. Well, we already know her mother's feelings on that matter. Is she just as delusional about the others? Who does she expect to do the heavy-lifting of raising these children?
There is a famous case of quintuplets born in Canada during the 1930s--the Dionne quintuplets. At that time, quintuplets were a huge novelty. They were taken away from their low-income parents by the government of Canada, supposedly so they could be raised properly. Instead, they were treated throughout their childhood like a tourist attraction. And in fact, they were often on public view. When the girls grew up, they complained bitterly about their exploitation.
The Dionne Quintuplets
So, if there's a government intervention on the behalf of the octuplets, options for their care need to be weighed carefully. There are no easy solutions in this case. The octuplets could either become a celebrity attraction orchestrated by their mom, or would government intervention leave them any better off? Or would anyone adopt eight infants?
Pray for the safe future of these little octobabies!
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Watch Bonnie discussing the media's treatment of Nadya Suleman on CNN's "Reliable Sources":
A psychiatrist I spoke to said this: "Yes, I have had schizophrenic patients who obsess about having many babies. Unfortunately, once the baby is older than one or two, that baby no longer satisfies the mother and she wants another."
So many posters address her mother. I ask: why would her father support this insanity -- or dumb like a fox kind of behavior? After all, it is his home she lives in while showing off her belly for bucks and endangering further children?
What does the father gain from this situation?
Who is the donor for these babies?
What is the relationship between the family and the doctor?
Who paid for the two invitro fertilization,plastic surgery (certainly her resemblance to A. is highly suspicious under the circumstances) and graduate school, too?
And she is going to counsel others? Are we all mad?
Who is the donor of these babies?
Obviously, Mom is incompetent. In no way is she competent to care for the additional eight, Ad Litems should also be appointed to represent the existing six. A separate Ad Litem should be appointed for her. Clearly, she represents a threat to herself and others.
Any of those Ad Litems could stop her from future television, radio or book opportunities, and could also stop her from seeking future insiminations.
This is one sick woman. She should never have had one child, much less fourteen.
I completely agree with the mother of this woman who said anything frozen shouldn't be considered ALIVE.
I am pro-choice and this is a great example of WHY we should all be. Women who can not afford their child should have the option to terminate if they so choose within the first trimester and as soon as possible. I would never encourage an abortion but I would never stop one either.
The" Right to Life" bunch will surely give their time and money since Nadya has manufactured these tender Lives, after life, after life, after life, after life, after life, after life, after tender life.
Any Mother and Father knows the tender love and care ONE baby requires to flourish.
It may or may not be unfortunate for the children, only time will tell, but until there is evidence the children are somehow suffering due to lack of competent parenting, we should leave this mother alone.
She unfortunately appears to have emotionally romanticized having a huge family for her entire life. She will also soon discover the realities and overwhelming responsibities ahead of her.
As for the Angelina-like thing....I hope that was not her motivation. Angelina and Brad are millionaires, they have the financial independence to give numerous children a secure and wonderful life.
I am frustrated by this woman's irresponsible thinking, considering her own financial insecurity, and she is forcing others (her parents etc.) in the position of having to take on this enormous responsbility too, when they had no say in this decision. That's unfair.
Her neglect to consider, ignore, and take for granted, the position she was putting her parents in, gives me pause. It was a selfish decision, and indicates she is a selfish person. Selfishnees and good parenting do not go hand in hand. But...the point is, right now, it is no ones business but hers and her family's.
When a woman is asking the public to support the children she makes, then it is the public's right to interfere.
Sheesh!
Leave Nadya alone!
Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis
Liberal? No.
Conservative? No.
haha
Like it or not we live in a country where we the free CHOICE...thank God!
I feel sorry for Nadya's mother ,who she expects to be the 'live-in nanny', and for the 6 children she already had. The older children were obviously not enough of a 'media event' to keep their mother interested in their wellbeing.
One thing this story has done is point out the syndrome that exists in which unhappy, lonely women have babies as a solution to their problems. This isn't new! Just a horrible mutation of it. That doctor should also be helping to support these children. Shame on him. Maybe this story will help point out the trend. It is sickening.
$160k in disability payments from a riot in 1999? She already knows how to work the system...
She gave birth to them, SHE needs to figure out how to raise them. That's what good PARENTS do.
Bleeding hearts, please make your contributions directly to the people who will be financially supporting these kids : California Social Services
CSS needs your help more than a mom who can afford 6 IVF treatments, plastic surgery, and schooling for a master's degree.
Children are suffering here because of irresponsible adults.
And to think that she planned and plotted to break a baby-making record; it's simply sad.
I cannot imagine how these children will grow up, is she finally done or does she have a magic number in mind?
So now the guilt train starts with corporations and religous groups expected to pony up for the care and feeding of these innocent children so this woman can go to school and get her masters in counseling.
This is pathetic and I for one am very saddened.
I for one will be anxious to see which corporations fund her; as I will be sure not to purchase from them.