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Katy Perry: Get on a Plane & Stop Your Divorce From Russell Brand

Posted: 01/04/12 05:50 PM ET

Katy -- we hear that you're devastated by your divorce from Russell Brand. So you know what -- it's time to fight for your man

Just because Russell Brand filed for divorce on Dec. 30th doesn't mean that the death of your marriage has to be a done deal, Katy Perry.

Not if you still love Russell and want to be married to him. Katy -- it's time to get on a plane pronto from LA to London and go and fight for your marriage.

Maybe the two of you have been fighting long distance for months as your world tour has been going on. That's understandable. You are still newlyweds and the first year of marriage is hard enough WITHOUT being separated by enormous work commitments. And it's enough when the two people involved aren't both major stars with major egos and "handlers" to boot.

It's so easy to start fighting when you can't see each other and you're frustrated by the distance. Plus, it's so much easier to make up when you can see each other, talk in person and be able to be intimate. Separation is that enemy of a happy romance and marriage.

Listen Katy -- you've probably both been super stressed out. Russell is a recovering sex and drug addict -- and that's an ongoing stress. He NEEDS you. He married you because he was crazy about you and you were a shining light in his life. I bet you had tons of fun together and he liked the stability that your marriage offered him. But when you weren't there and you were partying at times without him, he probably felt like you weren't supporting him and his sobriety.

Katy -- you can be there for him again, if you decide to make that a priority and that doesn't mean that you have to put your enormously successful career on the back burner. You two just have to work together harder to coordinate your schedules and plan in time together. You can also have fun again. You can feel love and passion again. You don't need to just accept that because you've had some arguments that your marriage is over for good.

But Katy, you may have to take the first step. Don't be proud. Don't let your marriage slip away because Russell may have filed for divorce in anger.

Just look at Billy Ray Cyrus who filed for divorce from his wife Tish. He quietly withdrew that petition several months later and the couple reunited.

It even looks like Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver will reconcile despite the fact that he had a lengthy affair and out-of-wedlock son with the family's housekeeper, Mildred Baena.If they can make up, surely you and Russell can!  A source tell us at HollywoodLife.com that Arnold and Maria both still love each other and are working towards living together again. So that divorce petition will likely be withdrawn.

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12:31 PM on 01/06/2012
It appears that like most young "celebrities" they are not prepared for the compromise of married life....However if the reports of how she feels are true both Katy and Russell owe it to themselves to make an effort....They did take the giant step.
10:58 AM on 01/05/2012
Really? That is advice? Arnold would be delighted if his wife begged and fought too. It's shameful to read a woman suggest she "fight for her man."
Men are not peacocks we chase; he is just as capable to meet her half way. Gloria Steinem would be proud of you. Keep setting women back-: at .70cents on the dollar every woman is paid because she is NOT a man, women can't afford to be flying around saying, "love me please! Please take me back! It's me, it's not you!" pleeeease!
07:32 PM on 01/05/2012
so would it also be bad advice to tell russell to fight for her? if you don't think so then ur being a tad hypocritical.
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Susan1964
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09:39 AM on 01/06/2012
Since it was Brand who filed for divorce, yes, if Perry is so devastated SHE has to fight for her man. There's nothing sexist about this. If his mind is made up, she needs to change it. It would be the same if the situation was reversed. I'm not saying they belong together. I'm not saying either one of them is even capable of having a real relationship. I'm just saying that if you don't want any regrets in life you have to fight for what makes you happy, not just be resigned to sitting on another continent and letting life happen to you. Just making an effort sometimes is all you need to make a difference.
05:02 AM on 01/05/2012
I would not suggest they remain together. It requires two adults to have a relationship. Of the two, Russell is quite, quite "young". And that' s a professional observation. He doesn't have the emotional maturity to want Katy around except to play "mother" to him. One has only to know that his relationship with mom was, as he put it, "isolated", due to her illnesses which means he didn't get the stages of development children need from their mother. In other words, he's still a child, emotionally (like Bill Clinton).
For them to stay together would be unsatisfying and ultimate, disastrous.
Billk29
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07:59 AM on 01/05/2012
They both sound like children from what i've read. She has parent issues because of their religious bent and he has mother issues as well.
She became the wild child in her music to fight that off and Russel is the comedian.
She recently stated that she didn't want to have children yet because she likes drinking too much and he's a recovering alcoholic.
She tours a lot and he makes films and they do it in different countries much of the time.
I really can't see much future for a relationship like that and have to wonder if it was only lust to start with and when they both got more successful and living apart and the sex wasn't there that was the end.
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01:42 PM on 01/07/2012
For me the evidence is in their performances - take a few minutes and listen to Brand's wit and ability with words, and take a moment and look at what he wrote in homage to Amy Winehouse and Occupy Wall Street. The maturity that comes with fighting the demons of addiction and raising yourself from the bottom of life to the top is all there.

Now look at Katy Perry's output - "I want your peacock!", "California girls are just incredible!", "Baby you're a firework!", etc, etc, all displayed while dancing about in sugar-bun-boob shirts. She never saw any news or learned about the world because her parents decided she couldn't because of so called religiosity, she never heard a classical composer or a jazz tune. She only listened to gospel music and then as a teenager got launched into the bubble of stardom.

You really think between those two Katy is the mature one? Sorry, but your professional opinion just doesn't cut it.
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Lorraine Roe
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12:21 AM on 01/05/2012
Maybe she should hoof it over to an alanon meeting. That might help her cope with his sobriety.
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Alexandra Spinner
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08:04 PM on 01/06/2012
Perhaps she should "hoof it on over" to a therapist to figure WHY she picked this kind of guy?
A jerk is a jerk addicted or sober.
09:50 PM on 01/04/2012
I agree- these 2 should stay together- it makes the rest of the world a cleaner place.