Kim needs to face reality. Her marriage to Kris Humphries will be as disastrous as Jessica Simpson and Nick Lackey's if she turns it into yet another reality show! Here's why!
Kim and Kris, please listen to me. Let the names Nick Lachey and Jessica Simpson, Carmen Electra and Dave Navarro, Britney Spears and Kevin Federline, and Travis Barker and Shanna Moekler sink in. They all had reality shows -- most focusing on the early days of their marriage -- and guess what? Their marriages burned!
It's hard enough making it successfully through your first year of marriage, adopting to a new mate and their needs and quirks, WITHOUT being under the glare of intrusive reality TV cameras. Don't raise the stress bar by subjecting the life you're building together to the entire world to succeed.
I know that your sister Khloe and her husband Lamar have their own show and so far they appear to be doing fine, but why risk it?
Kim, you've already have one disaster marriage and had multiple breakups from a serious love, Reggie Bush, and you're 30 now. I'm sure you want your Kris to last. You don't want to end up with another relationship in tatters. Just because your family business is reality TV doesn't mean you have to put your own marriage under the microscope.
You've already said that Kris will be in the sixth season of Keeping Up With the Kardashians "a little bit." "He won't be the main focus of the show or anything, but the reality of my life is that he is in it," you told Us Weekly. "So yeah, he'll be on the show."
"A little bit," sounds fine Kim. I'm sure Kris is already used to your life on cameras, so he knows what the deal is. But don't go further than that. You need to keep your real "private" life private so the two of you can get used to married life like any non-showbiz couple.
Consider the other challenges you already have: you're most probably going to have a long distance marriage with your home base in LA and his in New Jersey; you've only been dating for six or seven months -- not a long time to really get to know each other; AND Kim, you have a BIG, intrusive family who you will probably have to push back on to give you privacy.
On the plus side, however, Kim, you're mature at 30, Kris is successful in his own right, and he's certainly going into the marriage with his eyes open. Plus he likes your family. " They're a great family and they're great to be around," Kris told Hollywoodlife.com exclusively.
"This is Kim's second marriage. She's making a marriage decision from a responsible place," says psychotherapist Dr. Robi Ludwig. "Despite only dating for six months, I believe she's making a good decision."
Now, the fact that you, Kim, are as busy with your career as Kris, a New Jersey Nets basketball player is with his, bodes well for your marriage according to relationship expert Cooper Lawrence, author of The Cult of Celebrity and radio-show host for The Scott & Todd Show on WPLJ. "She's very busy but I bet she'd get bored very quickly with a guy who's around all the time. And not every athlete is a cliche; if he's very in love with her, then there's no reason why he wouldn't be monogamous."
But Kim, you do have to keep your nosy, lovingly meddling family at bay if you want to seal this marriage deal forever. "Family is ALWAYS an issue in a marriage, and Kim's family is very competitive. She will have to walk a line and have boundaries," warns Cooper Lawrence.
And Kim, you need to draw camera boundaries too! "If Kris is used to being more private and you want to be in the public eye, it can cause problems," points out sex and relationship expert, Amy Levine. Do you hear that Kim and Kris? Don't make this marriage live entirely under the TV cameras if you want to make it last forever!
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