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Brenda Rothman
Bio: Brenda Rothman is a writer and public speaker with a background in health law and rhetoric. Brenda blogs about her child who is diagnosed with autism at Mama Be Good, She has written for The Thinking Person's Guide to Autism (published 2011) and The Thinking Person's Guide to Autism blog. Her essays have been featured by BlogHer and's blog. Brenda has been interviewed by Atlanta Parent magazine, The Lime magazine, and The Atlanta Journal-Constitution. She has advocated for autism support in front of legislators, professionals, and educators. She lives in Atlanta with her husband and son.

Entries by Brenda Rothman

Autism Deserves Better Responses From Adults

(4) Comments | Posted September 24, 2013 | 3:12 PM

With the news of Jaelen Edge's death, we hear yet another report of an autistic child being killed by a parent. We must recognize our own responsibilities as adults to keep our children safe.

An adult's response to an autistic child's upset is the single, most important factor...

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Worried About Special Interests of Autism and Your Child?

(3) Comments | Posted September 23, 2013 | 4:43 PM

All autistic individuals have interests, which they focus on with great depth and emotions. When we parents see our children developing their interests, we often get worried. It's the intensity. We are told that autistic children get "locked" in their own world. The very metaphor trips us up. It leads...

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Telling My Child About Autism

(12) Comments | Posted September 19, 2013 | 2:08 PM

I've been thinking a lot about how and when to tell my child about autism. Last month I wrote that I didn't want to tell my child yet. I didn't want to make autism sound like a disease. I didn't want to project any fears or prejudices on him. I...

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Should Parents Respond to or Ignore a Tantrum?

(5) Comments | Posted September 4, 2013 | 3:56 PM

I wrote a post recently about how time-outs and self-soothing have been debunked by science because of the harm they cause to the brain and psyche of children. There was some discussion around whether it matters if the behavior is a tantrum or a meltdown.

The thing is I've never...

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Temple Grandin's Mother Hurls Autism Into Child Pornography

(26) Comments | Posted August 19, 2013 | 10:16 AM

Temple Grandin's mother Eustacia Cutler has issued a disturbingly harmful judgment of autism and autistic men in her article in the Daily Beast. Her article deals a serious blow to the push for more educated, informed opinions about autism and autistic people.

She starts with the archaic...

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Struggling With Perfectionist Parenting

(2) Comments | Posted June 11, 2013 | 8:17 AM

Yesterday morning, we went to the eye doctor's to drop off Jack's glasses. I'm finally getting those lenses replaced. They were scratched when Jack decided to turn them into an antenna for a VW bug. Naturally, the lenses had to go on the floor. Under the wheels. And slide along...

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The Secret Shame Of Motherhood

(59) Comments | Posted June 6, 2013 | 6:31 PM

I am terrible about going to doctors. I'm not afraid of them -- I just don't go. This week, I had to. Jack had strep throat that took two antibiotics to get rid of; I have a sore throat and I don't want him to get strep again. My regular...

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What It Also Means to Raise an Autistic Child

(12) Comments | Posted April 9, 2013 | 5:40 PM

One parent recently wrote here on The Huffington Post about her experience of raising a child with autism. I wanted to hug her and say, "I know that feeling." I wanted to tell her that I once felt like that, too. All parents, families and autistic people have...

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My Child Will Miss Out: Parenting and Disabilities

(4) Comments | Posted March 5, 2013 | 4:07 PM

When we parents worry about our children with disabilities, like autism, we often experience a sense of loss, a bittersweet realization that our child will miss out on what they consider a "normal" childhood experiences. I felt the same thing. I wanted to understand why I felt this to be...

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That Basketball Video Gone Viral -- What's Wrong With It?

(21) Comments | Posted February 27, 2013 | 5:50 PM

There's a basketball video going around featuring a developmentally disabled student included for the last game of the season. What could possibly be wrong with that? As a parent of an autistic child, I have to be wary. Why? Society marks people for being different. Society decides what...

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Autism Is Not a Parenting Fail

(46) Comments | Posted February 22, 2013 | 10:20 AM

When my child was younger, everything seemed so hard. He didn't hold a bottle, sit up, walk or talk on the pediatrician's timeline. We did physical therapy, occupational therapy and speech therapy. I asked every provider I could, "Why does he repeat phrases?" "Why does he like playing with doors,...

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Where Do We Find Support for Parenting Pain?

(1) Comments | Posted January 7, 2013 | 3:26 PM

When I first experienced depression, I was going through infertility. It was something intensely private and personal, so I had a difficult time sharing it with people in my life. I joined an online forum with other women experiencing infertility and found compassion and support. I shared my story anonymously...

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Autism Does Not Create Killers

(4) Comments | Posted December 19, 2012 | 2:28 PM

We don't like being reminded of our vulnerability. It's too frightening. So when a tragedy happens, we look for reasons that the same thing won't happen to us. We look for things we wouldn't have done or differences between us and the ones who died. When someone is robbed, we...

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