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When It's Safer to Walk Home Alone

Posted: 09/28/11 07:48 AM ET

Stories that start at 3:45 in the morning rarely end well.

Late Saturday night, I found myself on a busy street corner in Brooklyn attempting to catch a cab home -- and failing miserably.

My Manhattan-bound friend grabbed a taxi without a problem -- at that time of night, every cab wants to take you back to the city, but no one wants to go in the opposite direction.

My ride home would be a short one. I'd been sipping cocktails with friends at a bar about a half mile from my apartment. It was an easy walk back, even in high heels, but the abandoned, boarded-up lot next to my apartment building was shadowy enough for me to drop the extra few dollars on a safe ride to my doorstep. So I waited.

A black Lincoln Town Car with tinted windows -- a so-called "gypsy cab" -- pulled up alongside me. The driver was a slender white man in his mid-50s with a heavy Brooklyn accent. He asked me where I was headed. I told him.

"Oh, that's right down the street," he said. "Pay whatever you want. Just hop in."

At that point, alarm bells probably should have started ringing. Gypsy cabs aren't known for their generosity -- in fact, most people I know avoid them because they quote obscene rates for even the shortest rides. Unlike their more well-known and better-regulated counterparts, the yellow cabs, these rides don't offer a metered fare or city-enforced regulation. But they get business when yellow cabs are nowhere to be found, in situations exactly like the one I found myself in.

So it was with relief rather than trepidation that I slid into the backseat of that luxury vehicle. I thanked the driver for picking me up.

"For such an exquisite beauty, standing on the side of the road, how could I not?"

No stranger to the usually-harmless catcalls that women in New York deal with on a daily basis, I scoffed.

"I know it's a short ride, there's just an abandoned lot next to my building, and I'd rather take a car this late," I told him.

He looked back at me, white-haired and bespeckled, a character out of a Seinfeld episode. "I understand. A pretty young lady like yourself, all alone, wearing high heels -- really, anything could happen to you."

He was making me uncomfortable. I changed the subject. "Beautiful night, isn't it?"

"It's beautiful because you're in my car," he said.

I couldn't put my finger on where the line between flattery and unwelcome advances existed, but I knew he had crossed it. I started to reach for my cash and my keys, not wanting to spend an extra second in his car.

"Can you do me a favor?" he asked.

Oh no, here it comes, I thought. Alarm bells started ringing, clear as could be.

"Since I did you the great favor of letting you pay whatever you want for this ride, do you mind if I make a quick stop?"

We were four blocks away from my apartment building. What in God's name could he possibly need to do with me still in this car, I thought.

"I just wanna stop at this bodega for a second. No big deal. I'll be right back."

"No," I said. "If you need to stop, I can walk. I'm close enough. It's fine."

"No," he said, his voice rising. "I told you I'd get you to your doorstep. I just want to make a stop."

He started to pull over.

For the first time it occurred to me to look for the driver's identification. Gypsy cabs don't have medallions, but they typically come equipped with a laminated ID number, license, general fare information, and a piece of paper detailing rules of conduct.

I realized this car had none of that. There wasn't a single piece of identification, no badge, no list of livery fares or rights. This guy wasn't affiliated with any car service. He was a free agent -- totally random -- and I was locked inside his car.

"No," I said.

He was getting annoyed. "Come on. It'll only take a minute. I just need to grab something here."

Panic was rising in me, but I kept my voice firm. "Sir, if you get out of this car, I'm getting out of this car."

"Fine, be that way." He almost spat the words, but he got back on the road again.

As we sped towards my apartment, I wondered if I had made a huge mistake. The bodega he wanted to stop at was well-lit and relatively populated, even at this hour. My building, on the other hand, would be completely deserted.

Relief flooded my body as we turned the corner to my apartment: A small crowd of people were gathered around my building, chatting and smoking cigarettes. They were probably stragglers from a broken-up house party, but I didn't stop to ask. I threw my money into the driver's front seat and practically ran for the front door.

Two deadbolts, one security camera and a sliding lock later, I tried to calm my nerves.

It occurred to me that any rapist could easily buy a town car to cruise around in during the witching hour of the late-night last call. And that unsuspecting women -- who would never otherwise accept such a shady ride -- would hop right in.

I don't know why my driver wanted to stop at that bodega a few blocks from my apartment. Maybe he just had a sudden craving for a turkey sandwich. But I do know that on a different night -- if I had drunk a little more, noticed a little less, had that group of revelers not happened to station themselves near my building -- there was a chance that something terrible could have befallen me.

So I'd like to issue a plea to the women of New York -- and the women of any city, really: Before you take a cab of any kind, pause for a second and check for a license. Don't let the relief of catching a ride home overwhelm your voice of reason. If you feel even the slightest twinge of discomfort, step away from the car. Another taxi will inevitably come around, but the chance to act on your intuition may vanish the moment you roll up that tinted window and drive away.

 
Stories that start at 3:45 in the morning rarely end well. Late Saturday night, I found myself on a busy street corner in Brooklyn attempting to catch a cab home -- and failing miserably. My Manhatt...
Stories that start at 3:45 in the morning rarely end well. Late Saturday night, I found myself on a busy street corner in Brooklyn attempting to catch a cab home -- and failing miserably. My Manhatt...
 
 
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09:31 AM on 10/03/2011
Obviously you aren't a born and bred NYer.
04:55 AM on 10/01/2011
It is always better if we are prepared for what might happen because we don't exactly know when danger strikes. The idea of my children being harmed or lost is not something anyone wants to consider. I found an article by anationofmoms about a service that can protect your family via your cell phone. And, at the bottom there is an opportunity to enter a drawing for 6 months of that service just by liking them on Facebook. You might find it interesting:http://anationofmoms.com/2011/08/protect-your-family-giveaway.html
11:18 PM on 09/29/2011
Once you get into a NYC cab, they cannot - by law - refuse to take you to an address in NYC. If they do refuse, make a big show of recording their license info and tell the driver you will report him right away. Then - and here's the kicker, get out your phone and take his picture. Take several pictures. I did this once when the driver refused to put out his cigarette and once the camera flashed that smoke was out the window and the driver said nothing. No tip, of course. And don't let a pissed off driver take you to your apartment - then he knows where you live. Get out at the closest well-lit corner or place of business, then wait for him to move on. In general I don't have problems with cabs, and In NYC I have experienced both friendly and moody drivers. But I am not a woman alone in the middle of the night. I am a sloppy middle aged man. They may attack me for money, but I assure you no one is going after my virtue...
07:24 AM on 09/30/2011
There is no such law as you described above, There are many reasons driver can Legally refuse anyone, riders always forget one thing that drivers know rules much better than them.
Where did you read that news drivers may attack for money? it is always opposite, drivers do get robbed, attacked and get non paying customers in this city all the time.
3:45 A.M she should have phoned some car service, that is a shift change time and cabs are hard to get that time, unless some one is going to the driver's direction.
10:27 PM on 09/29/2011
Great advice!
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Ms NYC
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03:05 PM on 09/29/2011
If you were that close to your building couldn't the cab that took your friend back to Manhattan dropped you on the way? They would have had a higher fare and still got back to Manhattan. Win - Win.
12:56 AM on 09/29/2011
Can you come up with a name other than "Gypsy" cab? Is it necessary to malign a race connecting them to an activity they have nothing to do with?

Would we accept this if we inserted another race of folks?
03:22 AM on 09/29/2011
She didn't come up with the term. They've been commonly called that for I'm sure longer than she's going to know.
11:31 PM on 10/04/2011
I did infer that she coined the term. I just find it offensive. Just looking for a bit of civility.
06:49 PM on 09/29/2011
"Gypsy" is not a race. Are you referring to the Romani? They are not a race either, they are an ethnic group.

And Gypsy cabs have been called that since forever, at least in NYC.
11:32 PM on 10/04/2011
I don't know where to begin. Yes, I am referring to Romani. Clearly you have made the correlation or you would not have asked.
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12:51 AM on 09/29/2011
And possibly the ugliest thing is, if you had been attacked, there would be those who'd say it was your fault for wearing heels/ being alone/ being out at night/ not having a man around/ breathing while female. Yes, we have to be careful, but rape is only, and always, the fault of the rapist!
11:09 PM on 09/28/2011
Taxi Magic is my absolute favorite iPhone app. It’s completely free, you can order from several cab companies, and even pay with your credit card through the app.
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08:54 PM on 09/28/2011
When I first moved to NYC, I jumped into a citizen's car unknowingly. It was daytime, and he took me straight to my job, thank goodness. I've only experienced something similar to you in a yellow cab. He was so inappropriate that I asked to be dropped off away from where I lived at that time.
07:40 PM on 09/28/2011
I'd like to offer a slightly different plea to replace your "Check the cab for a license" My plea is "Don't wander around at 3am in a chemically impaired state, that's for college freshman. Grow up."

You live on your own now, take some responsibility for yourself. It's easy enough at the beginning of a night out to have a reasonable idea of what the end of the evening is going to look like. Plan accordingly. What adult Brooklynite doesn't have a car service number in their phone?
11:58 AM on 09/28/2011
First rule is to CALL for a car service. Put a couple of numbers in your phone if you always hang in the same neighborhood, or ask the bartender or your host for a recommendation. (Better to do so at the start of the night, when you're still sharp.) Then, check their plates, even if you called for a car: if it doesn't have a TLC plate, don't go anywhere near it. If you absolutely must flag a car, make very sure it's legit. Finally, don't get so out of control that you can't take care of yourself.
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11:25 AM on 09/28/2011
A scary story indeed and very good advice!
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jl4141
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11:12 AM on 09/28/2011
First, nothing you did justified this creep's actions. That said, you are ridiculously naive for having gotten into this vehicle when it didn't display the standard insignia that is on every legitimate livery car in New York City. I'm a guy who regularly takes livery cars during more ordinary hours than you did. I don't have the same issues that a woman alone on the street in the middle of the night would have (and you had). But I *always* make sure I'm getting into a legit vehicle when I flag one down -- and I flag them down maybe one out of five times, since I usually call a car service, which is what you should have done in the first place.

You allowed yourself to be in a situation where you could be taken advantage of by a creep, and you didn't have to.
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11:57 AM on 09/28/2011
Absolutely you're right. What's worse is that I did so soberly, as a city-dweller with a very real understanding of the dangers the city presents. My decision was a poor one, and I wish I'd been more careful. But I'd be willing to hazard a guess that other young women in my situation would have done the same. Which is exactly why I felt this was a story that needed to be shared.
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jl4141
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02:32 PM on 09/28/2011
It was certainly a story, and lesson, worth sharing. Sorry if I sounded scolding, but young lady, what in the world were you thinking?! ;=)
04:38 PM on 09/28/2011
What scares me most of all is the level our societynhas degenerated to. NYC has always been dangerous, even more so now.
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pennywhite
12:19 PM on 09/28/2011
She knows that now. That was the whole point of her article.