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3 New Year's Resolutions for Christians

Posted: 12/30/11 02:12 PM ET

1. Say grace. Many people, including me, begin most new years resolving to eat better. This is a good goal, but it can sometimes cause us to think about food as sinful and mealtimes as a scene of temptation or deprivation.

Saying grace before meals reminds us that above all food is a gift. It's a reminder that we are nourished and cared for by divine and human hands: by the cosmic forces that turn the planet and the seasons, and by the labor of bakers and bumblebees. Our meals depend on the work of the men and women working night shifts in a cannery or stocking shelves at the bodega.

I don't think I'll ever pray visibly in restaurants; it feels artificial to me, like something out of Norman Rockwell. But I love saying grace with friends and family who pray. And this year I resolve to remember to pause for a second before eating a lunchtime energy bar at my desk to remind myself: Yes, even this is grace. And to remind myself to say thank you.

2. Pray without ceasing.

I inherited my grandma's prayer book, and I keep it by my bed. I never met my grandmother -- she died long before I was born -- but it's meaningful to me that over half a century ago, when she was struggling with mental illness and the aftermath of a painful divorce, she sought comfort in prayer.

I love my grandma's prayer book, but I rarely use it. Most mornings I'm caffeinating against the clock as I rush off to my first class or meeting of the day, and realistically I know that's unlikely to change. This year, instead of setting aside a designated prayer time, I'm resolving to remember the apostle Paul's injunction to "Pray without ceasing," and I'm going to try to make prayer, rather than worry, my default inner monologue. I'm likely to break that resolution every day, but every day I can keep bringing myself back.

Sometimes my inner life seems like an endlessly scrolling to-do list. My resolution this year is to turn this dreary soliloquy into a psalm of gratitude and desire. My mantra will be that old Gospel song from back in the days of landlines:

Jesus is on mainline.
Call him up and tell him what you want.
The line ain't never busy!

3. Pay God first. It would be easy for all my money to go to paying off my student loans and supporting my 20-year-old car. It would be even easier for all of my money to go to buying boots I don't need and filling up my Christmas Kindle with the complete works of Agatha Christie.

Financial experts say to "pay yourself first" -- to put some of your paycheck in savings before you do anything else with it. This year, as an experiment, I'm resolving to pay God first and myself second. I've been inspired (or guilt-tripped!) into this by Peter Singer. This fall I assigned his classic article "What Should a Billionaire Give -- And What Should You?" to my students at Yale, and many of us were persuaded that we could be giving more. Singer argues that if everyone who could gave 5 percent to 15 percent of his or her income, world poverty could be eradicated.

I'm also inspired by the ancient biblical practice of giving God the first fruits of the harvest (not just the leftovers). Giving is not just a part of faith, it is the core of faith. As it says in the book of James, "Religion that is pure and undefiled before God ... is this: to care for orphans and widows in their distress."

There is plenty of distress to go around these days! And in these crazy economic times, giving is more necessary than ever -- not just for those who need money, but for those who give it. Like saying grace before meals, paying God first reminds us that everything we have is a gift, and it belongs to whoever needs it.

 
 
 

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eddy joe
welcome to the machine
08:44 AM on 01/28/2012
I just saw your article, and was very pleased by it, and by your courage to write it.
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rsttho557949
What is Job's Crucible?
12:05 PM on 01/12/2012
My three for the serious Christian:

1. Repent of sins . Well let's keep it real...slow down the sinning and try not to be a reason for dishonoring God or harming another person.
2. Do a "Tebow" and not be adhered to proclaim Jesus in front of "other men" In the end, you'll have to stand in front of God and not the people that censored your beliefs about Jesus. We're not talking fanaticism but a heatlthy no fear of saying in mixed company,"I love Jesus".
3. Preach the Gospel. Everyone- good or bad- has a testimony share. Folks nowadays eat up the testimonies of reality show characters ; it's usually about unhappiness and dysfunction. People still are seeking hope; the best hope is to tell them that a great future awaits them...if they change for the better. Cetatsinly the Gospel is of greater value than reality shows that reveal this reality: without Jesus in the home unhappiness is the expected norm.
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CMR64
u hurt my feeling
06:17 AM on 01/06/2012
thank you for your article I know I need to say grace before meals. as far as praying without ceasing I am taking algebra my worst subject so I am praying plenty lol.
10:23 PM on 01/05/2012
Study biology, study physics, get a telescope and study the universe. You will have a much better idea of the truth than you will from reading the bible, which was written by politically motivated men.
There is no evidence, outside the bible, that jesus ever existed and if one reads the bible, he comes off as petty, inconsistent and frequently irrational. Why would someone who can multiply loaves and fishes, encounter a non-productive fig tree that he himself as god created, and then decide to destroy it rather than make it fruitful? The bible is clearly a book of bronze age fables, and those who consider it their pathway to truth are deluding themselves, but that is the nature of all religion.
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Mr Sick Of Greed
03:34 PM on 01/20/2012
i think i have heard that before.....what is the point of your comment?
especially if the information is not relevant to what this article is about.....
but to each his own....and taking the bible literally is not a necessary part of
believing in God.....don't generalize religious people into one category..
that would be a good place to start.....
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iLdoRight
Encouraging The Rightest Rightness
07:55 PM on 01/05/2012
Best resolve would be to get an audio copy of the Bible and listen to it all the way through as many times as you can. That would be the best way to learn how God would like to be paid. Next best thing would be to print out the information at these two links and pass them out to any interested persons after looking up everything in them.

http://www.truechristianityevangelism.org/hell.html

http://www.truechristianityevangelism.org/koranhell.html
10:32 PM on 01/05/2012
Liberate yourself from religion. If you read or watch the news, it is the biggest source of evil in the world. Study science if you want truth. Don't waste your time and energy on 2,000 year old superstition. The bible condones slavery, slaughter of innocents, polygamy, abuse of women, and incest. Why fear things like hell that don't exist? You can be a good human being and be giving and charitable to others without the yoke of religion.
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iLdoRight
Encouraging The Rightest Rightness
10:43 AM on 01/06/2012
I can see by your comment that you did not bother to look at the information at the links, if you had you would not have made the "hell" comment. You could have seen that the Bible does not support a "hot hell, place of torture", but the Qur'an actually has directives that could cause its adherents to do evil things. How have you, or how do you intend to stop those evil Muslims who do evil things to relatively innocent people, many of them females who have done nothing wrong?

Try starting with reading Matthew 10:16, "be innocent, as harmless as doves", then read or listen to all the "New Testament" to confirm that is its message.

You can get a free download of the King James on the net or a commercial copy from $15 to $50 depending on CD collection (best) or DVD (next best) or MP3CD or tapes.

How have you improved the world, what do you intend to do to help people become "as harmless, as innocent as doves" ? Tell me about your "good works".

Why would you think it is a waste of time to encourage others to live up to the highest moral standards?

Are you wasting your time trying to discourage me from doing my "good works"?
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Mr Sick Of Greed
03:36 PM on 01/20/2012
liberate yourself from ignorant thinking.......whether one chooses to believe in God does not determine his/her's worth or how they conduct their lives....again you are generalizing an idea and then assuming everyone follows suit....it ain't that simple...and nothing is
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soma77
Author, Speaker, Retreat Facilitator
03:49 PM on 01/02/2012
Religion should bring reverence and respect for everyone and everything.
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BurtonDesque
Fear a Blank Planet
01:27 AM on 01/03/2012
Oh, please. Like that ever happens. As Christopher Hitchens used to say, "Religion poisons everything".

You certainly post like you're on Soma.
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soma77
Author, Speaker, Retreat Facilitator
02:10 PM on 01/03/2012
Why do you read articles on religion if you think it poisons everything? Drugs are not the answer, the answers are in your mind. If religious articles make you upset I would watch TV to calm down or change your reading habits.
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AntithiChrist
Rhymes with Grist
01:23 PM on 01/02/2012
1 - Say thank you, to the appropriate parties, all the time, and mean it. Develop an "attitude of gratitude."
2 - Do something. Anything. All the time. Work. Play. Relax. Think. Help. Two hands accomplishing absolutely anything will always win out over 10,000 hands clasped in prayer.
3 - Choose the recipients of your kindness thoughtfully, and then give. You time, energy, resources. (One for instance) The homeless person outside the grocery store wont be helped by anyone's new stained glass window installation, or payroll for clergy, but they might be able to use some of your groceries. - Keep some MREs (Meals, Ready to Eat) in your car for traffic stops.
09:36 AM on 01/02/2012
If I lived in Texas and I wanted to run for a public office, but I couldn't because I don't accept the "reality" of a Supreme Being, should I say grace, be thankful, feel blessed? Texas does have such a law on the books.
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tshields424
The unexamined life is not worth living.
05:39 PM on 01/01/2012
1. Sure, you can say grace before each meal. What does the starving child who has nothing to eat say? Where's their "grace"?
2. If the "mainline" to Jesus is never busy, then why do millions of prayers go unanswered everyday?
3. So does your God still expect to be paid as he does in Numbers 31, with gold, cattle, prisoners of war and slave women?
"From the soldiers who fought in the battle, set apart as tribute for the LORD one out of every five hundred, whether people, cattle, donkeys or sheep. Take this tribute from their half share and give it to Eleazar the priest as the LORD’s part." (Num. 31:28-29)

Come on, Briallen. You seem like a very bright woman. I should think your students at Yale would appreciate a little more teaching and a little less preaching.
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ILoveTheUSofA
BREAKING NEWS: There is no God.
07:53 PM on 01/01/2012
The Midianite women who were kept alive as slaves (being virgins) were actually the lucky ones:

Numbers
31:14 And Moses was wroth with the officers of the host, with the captains over thousands, and captains over hundreds, which came from the battle.

31:15 And Moses said unto them, Have ye saved all the women alive?

31:16 Behold, these caused the children of Israel, through the counsel of Balaam, to commit trespass against the LORD in the matter of Peor, and there was a plague among the congregation of the LORD.

31:17 Now therefore kill every male among the little ones, and kill every woman that hath known man by lying with him.
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OCerInTN
Hoplophobics worst nightmare.
11:49 PM on 01/01/2012
Got the perfect answer for you for #2. Sometimes the answer is "No."

But I must ask, as a non-Christian myself, why the hate?
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tshields424
The unexamined life is not worth living.
08:22 AM on 01/02/2012
Where do you see "hate"? I question a Christian's perspective on grace and prayer, and you interpret it as "hate"? It's more like incredulity, no? As for your "perfect" answer to #2, there are certainly more occassions than "sometimes", and even if you allow that "sometimes" the answer to prayer is "no", it doesn't coincide with what Jesus said in the Bible:

"Very truly I tell you, my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name. 24 Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete." (John 16:24)

It doesn't say, "ask, and most of the time the answer will be no."
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AntithiChrist
Rhymes with Grist
12:33 PM on 01/02/2012
Stop lying for Jesus. If you're not a Christian, then I'm a fire hydrant.

That whole "sometimes the answer is 'No'" apology, while right out of the 5th grade level Christian apologetics manual, it is supported in no wise by the words ascribed to the Jesus character.

While repeating it endlessly will certainly help a modern, wannabe god believer square a lack of successful requests for divine intervention with the laws of statistical probability, there's no actual theology to back it.
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David Weidner
I ignore all dog avatars.
02:44 PM on 01/01/2012
Dear me. Thank me for providing food to myself, bought with money I earned from working. Thank me for paying the gas bill which heated the oven that heated the food that I purchased at the grocery store. Thank me for providing the fuel that propelled the gasoline burning vehicle to and from the store, that I purchased with money I earned. Thanks again me, Amen.
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Mr Sick Of Greed
03:38 PM on 01/20/2012
don't forget to thank your parents for your existence
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BlueZoo
Independent voter, Independent thinker!
02:38 PM on 01/01/2012
For years, I have carried this with me. I resolve to live it this year:

"I will not die an unlived live.
I will not live in fear of falling or catching fire.
I choose to inhabit my days,
to allow my living to open me,
to make me less afraid, more accessible,
to loosen my heart until it becomes a wing, a torch, a promise.
I choose to risk my significance,
to live so that which came to me as seed
goes to the next as blossom,
and that which came to me as blossom, goes on as fruit."

- Dawna Markova
12:54 PM on 01/01/2012
Briallen, that was a thoughtful list. Thank-you.
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JayBachand
12:26 PM on 01/01/2012
Or, if you prefer reason and the scientific wordview - try these 3 resolution­­s:

1. Say thank you. There's no sky-daddy to thank for all the good things in your life (and bad, by the way - theodicy is a thorn in the side of every religionis­­t). If you were sick and got better - thank a doctor. If you enjoyed your high standard of living, your computer, your microwave, a vaccine - thank a scientist. If you enjoyed a good book or a great piece of music - thank the artist. Give credit to hard working and visionary human beings, where it belongs.

2. THINK without ceasing. Rote mumbling and incessant incantatio­­ns will change exactly nothing in the world. Your skepticism­­, critical thinking, and imaginativ­­e creativity ill accomplish far more than pious words uttered without thinking.

3. Give to OTHERS first. Kind of funny that the author is actually endorsing giving to others, but phrases it as "Give to God." Just cut out the phoney middle-man­­. Give to others not out of desire for approval or fear of damnation, but because all human beings are precious and wonderful. Do good for goodness' sake, not for god's.
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tshields424
The unexamined life is not worth living.
05:30 PM on 01/01/2012
I was going to to reply to this article and its annoyingly Christian author, but you have succinctly expressed exactly what I intended to.

F/F.
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OCerInTN
Hoplophobics worst nightmare.
11:51 PM on 01/01/2012
Hmm, the Atheist religionists rear their head in an article on Christianity to expose its evils. How very typical.
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tshields424
The unexamined life is not worth living.
09:35 AM on 01/02/2012
Atheism is not a religion, and you know that. Atheism is not the "belief" that there is no God. It's simply the lack of belief that there is one.

Now go read any article in the gay and lesbian community section and the comments from Christians to see the real hate on Huff Post.
11:59 AM on 01/01/2012
You know there is a bitter and militant atheist agenda at work when a simple article about praying more ( for those who believe in such things) and being more thankful draws the atheists from the dark corners to condescend and taunt. But that is the nature of light isn't it - light always attracts.
03:02 PM on 01/01/2012
Yes it does. The Light also exposes the darkness.
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OCerInTN
Hoplophobics worst nightmare.
11:52 PM on 01/01/2012
Lets hope it also disinfects.

I'm not a Christian, but I respect your rights to worship in peace and tell others of your religion without ridicule (or harassment).
09:33 AM on 01/02/2012
Bitter and militant may not describe many or most. Far too often, any kind of question is deemed bitter by a believer, if that question raises questions. Rather than bitter, perhaps it's impatience. Einstein described to all as "childish", but that was his euphemistic endeavor, I'm sure. Others have not been so polite. Thomas Paine, in The Age of Reason, called it as he saw God, a "demon" after reading the Bible. Jefferson scoffed and ridiculed because he said that was the only remedy with something was so absurd and silly that any real intellectual time spent on it would be wasted. And Mark Twain had some germane observations, satirical for sure, but not necessarily "bitter".

When believers use the "bitter" or "angry" card, it's usually an attempt to kill the messengers, but, of course, the message does not die.
10:18 AM on 01/02/2012
I'm not trying to "kill the messenger" which is a euphemistic self characterization of the atheist. The figureheads of atheism could easily be described as militant - Dawkins, Hitchens, etc. That aside, the most interesting characteristic about atheists to believers is that atheists cannot leave God alone - they are obsessed with the subject, sometimes more than believers, hence we find, at the bottom of a benign article about prayer, the typical atheistic condescension. I say bitter and angry because it seems obvious. The more vocal one becomes against all religion, the more aggressive they become.

Good atheists are hard to find - the ones that actually live as if God doesn't exist instead of trying to convince everyone that he doesn't. I don't believe in aliens, though others do, but I don't waste a minute trying to convince them otherwise.
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BurtonDesque
Fear a Blank Planet
10:46 PM on 12/31/2011
1. Remember there is no evidence your god exists
2. Stop leading your life according to the myths of Bronze Age goat herders.
3. Encourage every theist you meet to do likewise.
11:06 PM on 12/31/2011
1. Remember there is no higher power dragging your cursor over to the Religion section.
2. Stop trying to obliterate a belief/delusion that has been an impulse of the human race since the beginning of recorded history.
3. Encourage every atheist you meet to stop acting like evangelicals and mind their own business.
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BurtonDesque
Fear a Blank Planet
11:22 PM on 12/31/2011
Atheists would mind our own business except for the fact that we've learned that if we don't keep a close eye on the religious we tend to end up being burned at the stake. That's the sort of obliteration history has told us too many of them have in mind for us.
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iLdoRight
Encouraging The Rightest Rightness
08:34 PM on 01/05/2012
Have you ever had the visual acuity of your mind's eye checked by a competent professional ?
Have you ever read all the Holy Scriptures with enough of an unbiased, open mind to be able to give it a fair evaluation ?
Have you ever personally accomplished more good than the average of all Christian do-gooders ?