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Bridget Fonger is co-author of "The Lazy Woman's Guide to Just About Everything," sole contributor to The Lazy Woman Blog, and a freelance writer. She is currently working on her next book "Superhero of Love: Heal Your Broken Heart & Then Go Save the World."

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Transformation: How Superheroes Pay It Forward

(0) Comments | Posted October 31, 2014 | 4:30 PM

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When she was a girl, Lauri Burns was regularly abused by her dad. One afternoon her father hadn't realized she had a girlfriend visiting. That friend ended up accidentally witnessing the horror of Lauri being abused. Knowing that he was about to be...

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Detour From the Fear Freeway: Steering Toward the Path of Love

(0) Comments | Posted October 24, 2014 | 8:38 AM

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This is a picture that could launch a thousand good deeds... if we let it! My friend Darin Raney was at a Walmart in Missouri the other day. He passed by the above ruby red landscape and remembered that in his pocket he...

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Bowing to the Happy Marriages: Superhero Territory

(0) Comments | Posted October 10, 2014 | 2:37 PM

My claim to fame, as far as I'm concerned is setting up two of my favorite people. I created a whole singles event just to camouflage my intentions. They are now just under ten years into what I consider to be an inspiring marriage. They still, to this day, make...

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Kick Ass and Be Kind: A Daily Recipe for a Great Life

(1) Comments | Posted September 1, 2014 | 7:01 PM

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My fantasy is that Einstein, Gandhi and Joan of Arc had tea one day and they whipped up this little recipe for a great life. I tried to find its author, only to discover that it is a twist on another untraceable genius'...

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Empty Nests Are Superhero Territory

(3) Comments | Posted August 19, 2014 | 4:17 PM

Saturday was a big shopping day. It was also a big sobbing day. My Facebook feed was filled with the lamentations of many of my mom friends who had spent the day filling carts with all the necessities and must-haves for their kids going off to college for the first...

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Superheroes Live in the Heart of Life

(1) Comments | Posted July 25, 2014 | 2:28 PM

I know an honest to God, professional, practicing-every-day, Superhero of Love. Her name is Kathy Eldon, and she has the fiery red hair that I suspect holds at least one of her superpowers.

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I've been blessed to have had Kathy flying in...

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Oh, to Be Easily Amused and Enthused!

(0) Comments | Posted July 8, 2014 | 11:50 AM

I just returned from a most delicious and inspiring trip to Italy. Travel always feeds my soul and creativity, but this trip filled my superhero-of-love heart with jet fuel. And I think I know the secret to why every little adventure from start to finish was one where I was...

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Relationship Kryptonite: Good for Every Superhero

(0) Comments | Posted June 13, 2014 | 1:42 PM

When you are a superhero of love, you are bound to be leveled by kryptonite from time to time. I was very conscious that I would be dealing with all kinds of the devilish stealth sources of kryptonite as soon as I got into the first relationship after breaking up...

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The Unshakable Faith That Trekking to Magical Places Makes a Difference

(0) Comments | Posted May 19, 2014 | 6:20 PM

New Year's Eve 1982: holiday break from our junior year abroad in Paris. A friend's parents had invited us to Sri Lanka and one of their magical gifts to us was leading us on a Buddhist holy trek to the top of Sri Pada (also known as "Adam's Peak"). At...

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To Actively Never Forget All the Broken Hearts

(0) Comments | Posted April 29, 2014 | 10:28 AM

I noticed the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington, D.C. for the first time on my way into town from the airport on Sunday night. It looked like a beautiful and mighty flame glowing against the clear night sky. The next day a friend reminded me it was Holocaust...

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If You Know Someone With Cancer You Should Know About This

(1) Comments | Posted April 22, 2014 | 10:47 AM

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I am surrounded by friends who are battling cancer. Two are waging fairly epic battles with Stage IV colon cancer. Recently I was supposed to be on a beach in Ventura celebrating the birthday of one of these friends. But every time I...

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Be a Superhero: Help Bring the Epidemic of Obamacare Fear to an End

(2) Comments | Posted March 21, 2014 | 8:54 PM

On March 15 I went to a lovely party. By the end of the night I had helped two people sign up for Obamacare. No, I'm not in the insurance business, but I did do some research for a HuffPost blog I wrote soon after the Affordable Care Act went...

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The Impossible Becomes Possible: Channel Your Inner Dachshund

(0) Comments | Posted March 15, 2014 | 11:35 AM

If you want a good laugh, watch this determined little dachshund make the impossible happen in this YouTube video:

He's my new hero, and when I am next battling a "shark" in my own life, I think I will remember how this little pup conquered his -- like when I run my next marathon.

I ran my very first, the L.A. Marathon, this weekend. I had only trained three months, which didn't feel like quite enough for a 51-year-old woman who hadn't run in years. I was in shape, but even when I used to jog for exercise, I had never run more than a 10K, so this was going to be a stretch. Throw in a chronic immune-system-bending disease I have and one begins to question my sanity. I missed a few weeks all-tolled of training due to this disease, so I found myself repeatedly defending my choice to my beloved inner circle.

Less than 48 hours before the race I found myself getting an emergency tune up in my acupuncturist's office in the hopes of shifting my health in time. I had no energy and couldn't even imagine running 3 miles, let alone 26. But I found myself tap into what I now know is my inner Dachshund with respect to that ominous marathon shark. I remembered that my friend's cousin had just finished chemo when she ran the New York Marathon last year. It was her "F you" to cancer.

I declared to my acupuncturist that this was my "F you" to my disease. So she and I both got to work on getting me healed. Her treatment (including the little tiny acupuncture needles that remain in your ear that Russian and Chinese Olympians use!) coupled with my inner dachshund worked to increase my energy over the next day and a half. I had a successful first marathon with no injuries and plenty of energy left to even celebrate with friends over dinner that night.

This video has one sweet moment in it when the camera operator/doggie mom clearly adjusts the position of the shark to help the tiniest bit. If you interviewed the dachshund I think he would say he didn't need her help, no matter how impossible a feat he had ahead of him. He was not going to lose.

I, though, needed the subtle adjustments of my friends and family. Were it not for them helping move that shark a tiny bit I wouldn't have made it. People I have never met on Facebook cheered me on with such love and enthusiasm. A Facebook friend's son (genius writer you will one day hear about, Tanner Walters) who was home from college for the weekend did this for me:

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All of my friends and family filled the invisible Energizer Bunny pack on my back with their cheers, wisdom, love and support. Then the spectators on the road refilled what I was losing along the way with their hilarious and moving cheers: "Don't forget you PAID for this!" and, "The pain is temporary, finishing is forever."

And check out this stellar spectator I recognized around Mile 16. As I walked closer to him I screamed "NO WAY!" He replied "WAY!" I asked him to tell my running buddy and I that we would make it and, in fact Bob Harper of "The Biggest Loser" told us he had no doubt we would finish. As I ran on I turned around and snapped a photo of the proud papa who literally watched each and every runner as if he was their coach.

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If you've got a shark you want to catch, a dream you have no idea how to attain, pick up the phone and call the person in your life that might have a clue about how to help you turn that unwieldy beast in the right direction. I would not have completed this marathon injury-free without my friends near and far, even with my inner dachshund at full throttle. But he helped, that's for...

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Sisters Can Move Mountains -- Starting With That Hill Over Yonder

(0) Comments | Posted March 5, 2014 | 4:06 PM

Before I went to renowned spiritual author and teacher Marianne Williamson's "Sister Giant Conference" in November 2012, I rarely supported candidates outside my district; yet I would bitch and moan about the fact that women were underrepresented on the Hill. Williamson gently slapped us all upside the head at Sister...

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Philip Seymour Hoffman: Take That Death In

(0) Comments | Posted February 2, 2014 | 8:24 PM

I hope that if I die young my friends and family get something out of my early passing. Was I doing something stupid? Was I ignoring something, pretending it wasn't there? Was I not living life as consciously as I claimed to, missing the signs of what took me out?...

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People, People Who Need Cheerleaders

(0) Comments | Posted January 17, 2014 | 11:48 AM

At 4:55 p.m. today I was covered with sweat, standing at the Post Office mailing a package off to New York. Nothing was going to stop me from mailing that package today. Not even the fact that I had a 5:30 appointment about 20 minutes away and had just finished...

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The Signature of All Things Superhero

(0) Comments | Posted December 30, 2013 | 3:02 PM

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It's a bird! It's a plane! It's Elizabeth Gilbert. I had the great pleasure of meeting Ms. Gilbert at a Vroman's Bookstore signing in Pasadena a few months ago. She is exactly, precisely as you would imagine her to be: full...

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Over the River and Through the Woods: Passing Through Pain

(1) Comments | Posted December 18, 2013 | 7:37 AM

The holidays have a way of triggering old pain points, particularly around the loss of loved ones. I am currently surrounded by several people who have very recently lost someone. I also have several people in my life very recently diagnosed with cancer. All of them are struggling with moving...

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Switch the Light Bulb on With 'Power Words'

(0) Comments | Posted December 8, 2013 | 10:02 PM

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I have a really good idea. Start your -- or a loved one's -- new year out right with Sharon Anne Klingler's book Power Words: Igniting Your Life with Lightning Force. I just read it, and I feel like I have jumpstarted my...

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Thanksgiving as Communion

(0) Comments | Posted November 26, 2013 | 1:54 AM

I was with my 95-year-old friend Adelaide the other night. I always learn from all 9.5 of her decades when we are together. She took me to see Manfred Honeck conduct an evening of Dvorak at the LA Philharmonic at Disney Hall.

The heart-plucking tone of the evening was...

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