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Can Your Emotions Be Affecting Your Professional Life?

04/22/2013 11:39 am ET | Updated Jun 18, 2013
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"Successful individuals control their emotions; they don't let their emotions control and sabotage them."

That is a quote from author, life coach and the founder of life-choice psychology Ken Lindner.

Chances are you probably got emotional just reading that quote, scoffing and thinking -- "Yeah, that's a lot easier said than done."

It's true, but it's not impossible -- not by a long shot. Ken's career in life coaching has enhanced the personal and professional lives of thousands. Among his celebrity clients are Mario Lopez and Matt Lauer -- two highly successful people in the eyes of the public.

Ken's newest book, Your Killer Emotions, is a detailed outline of ways that we can keep our emotions under control.

The truth is we are all guilty of having that job we hate or that boss we can't stand, or hate -- should we be allowing this to dictate our success and our personal and professional well being?

"If you want to be strategic, you need to be cognizant and clear. You need to know what your values are; you need to know where you're going in the short and in the long term. It's almost impossible to be strategic if you're letting your emotions cloud your better judgment." Ken said.

"You opt for the emotional fix, you retaliate or allow someone to push your buttons, you let resentment, jealousy and other insecurities enable you to make life damaging choices. The truth is you're doing something that is inconsistent with what you truly want."

Too often, people allow their animosity to get the better of them. They might have a difficult boss at work and allow these emotions to cause them to leave a career that could have possibly been more beneficial for them -- this is an example of opting for that quick fix.

"Opting for that quick fix can prevent people from thinking about what's best for them in the long term. Don't play checkers, play chess -- always be thinking three or four moves ahead. Think about your future."

"Here's an example -- I was negotiating a deal with a company a few years ago and at the last minute the CEO wanted to change the deal. I was really annoyed with the way it was handled. Instead of getting angry and losing my temper, I decided to ask for something different in lieu of what I was supposed to get because in the long run making that deal was going to add long-term revenue streams to my company. As a result, we made far more money because we made the deal and grew exponentially because I did not allow my emotions to blow the deal."

"I never let my negative emotions get in the way of what I need to accomplish."

Control over whatever toxic impulses and emotions are critical in an environment where tensions can run high. These types of feelings are exactly the same kinds that can be the start of something far more serious and potentially dangerous. The number of violent occurrences in the workplace is rising every year. It should be noted that many of these reports are of employees that co-workers and superiors feel have the potential to become violent.

Don't be that person.

For more information on Ken Lindner, his coaching and his books please visit his website here.