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All Kids Should Be Protected From Bullying

Posted: 09/10/10 02:46 PM ET

When you ask those who favor the bullying of children to please stand up, no one does – including us. It’s almost silly to have to respond to such an accusation made by Pennsylvania Sen. Bob Casey in his Sept. 8 Huffington Post column where he claims Focus on the Family is an organization that “stands up for bullying.”

The truth is, we strongly support fair and objective bullying policies that protect every child against bullying of any kind for any reason. We realize this is a serious issue in our schools that too often has tragic consequences and simply must be addressed.

But considering that some 30 percent of American children are involved in bullying today, we feel the most effective way to do this is to develop policies that reflect the widespread nature of the problem, rather than focusing on certain aspects of it. After all, when the Founding Fathers wrote the words “all men are created equal,” they didn’t append a lengthy laundry list singling out certain characteristics as more worthy of protection than others and dividing human beings into competing categories.

Sen. Casey’s criticism of Focus on the Family was directed at our concerns about his bill, the Safe Schools Improvement Act. If passed, this bill would affect most K-12 schools nationwide, mandating that they insert special protections for homosexual categories such as sexual orientation and gender identity into their local policies.

While this might sound nice on the surface, it is problematic for several reasons: First, it represents yet another federal intrusion into an education issue that has traditionally been the domain of local communities. Does the federal government really need to get into the business of micromanaging our neighborhood school policies? Parents and school officials are most qualified to develop good policies based on their communities’ needs.

Second, we’ve carefully documented how similar laws at the state level have already been used to undermine parental rights and marginalize individuals whose viewpoints are perceived as incorrect by homosexual advocacy groups. In Alameda, Calif., for example, a similar law was used to justify mandating homosexuality sensitivity lessons for kids as young as six years old. Alameda parents were told they could not opt their children out for any reason—even if these lessons conflicted with their families’ deeply held religious convictions, or even if they just didn’t think their children were ready to handle controversial sexual topics at such a young age. While that may not be a concern shared by some of you who are reading this, how would you feel if the federal government forced your local schools to teach your children things that violated your deepest moral, ideological or spiritual beliefs—all at taxpayer expense?

I’ve also talked to parents in Illinois, where a law similar to Alameda’s was recently passed, who are at this moment trying to protect their elementary age children from being presented with homosexual-themed books and videos promoted in the name of “safe schools.” In fact, these parents discovered that a “safe schools” training done at their elementary school went so far as to list “family values” and “faith systems” as “perceived obstacles.” As one mom told me, ironically, the school system no longer felt very “safe” for her family’s viewpoint. How is that fair and equitable treatment?

This bill is a vehicle but Sen. Casey isn’t talking about who’s driving the car, which is why we feel it’s only fair to raise the question of how the bill’s biggest promoters plan to use it in our nation’s classroom.

During our recent debate on CNN’s “Anderson Cooper 360,” Eliza Byard of GLSEN (the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network), referred to the Safe Schools Improvement Act as “our bill.” That’s very interesting, considering that as part of its safe schools efforts, GLSEN calls for gay, lesbian and transgender themes to be “fully integrated into curricula across a variety of subject areas and grade levels.”  The fact is, not every parent in America wants homosexual issues presented during math and English classes – in the same way not every parent wants religious doctrine presented during public school classes. The difference? We all know the latter is strictly prohibited.

GLSEN also recently issued a press release asking educators to use its recommended book list as assigned “safe” school reading for kids. The problem is, several of the books on this list are not only extremely sexually graphic—but they also contain negative, even mocking, portrayals of people with conservative and faith-based viewpoints. (We’ve documented these concerns at TrueTolerance.org).

It’s unnecessary to politicize the issue in this way—and it goes way beyond bullying prevention into adult identity politics that bring divisiveness into classrooms. Let’s instead take a lesson from the Founding Fathers and unite around what we share in common as Americans – the unshakeable belief that all men are endowed by their Creator with unalienable rights, no matter what their political subgroup happens to be or how they sexually identify.

Candi Cushman is the education analyst for Focus on the Family and the creator of True Tolerance, an online tool that instructs parents on education law and policy so they can engage their local school officials.

 

 
 
 
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mercury613
In the blue TV screen light
05:03 PM on 09/29/2010
"The goal of Exodus International and Focus on the Family is to purge LGBT people from society, although they disingenuously frame the issue as eliminating homosexuality, which is not possible. When you target homosexuality, the result is persecution and punishment of LGBT people, and in many cases it leads to gay bashing or suicides."
-- Wayne Besen, Truth Wins Out

http://www.truthwinsout.org/pressreleases/2010/09/11595/
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StevenKeirstead
Photographer and Biologist who happens to be gay.
12:58 PM on 09/28/2010
Texas teenager Asher Brown is dead. Here is yet another case of nominally Christian kids bullying a gay youngster so badly that he committed suicide: http://www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/metropolitan/7220896.html

Will "www.truetolerance.org" do anything to help save such innocent young lives? Right now people like Candi Cushman are trying to block anti-bullying efforts that could save kids like Asher Brown. Stop being part of the problem "Focus on the Family!"
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mercury613
In the blue TV screen light
04:52 PM on 09/17/2010
createdequal: The questions I ask myself are: Which beliefs are good, right, healthy, accurate, true.
If I act according to a strong belief in something that is false (i.e. I step into a crosswalk believing that the oncoming bus will stop) then who will ultimately suffer the consequences? I will suffer, along with my wife, my children, my friends, my family, my workplace, my country, etc. All because I strongly believed in something that turned out to be false.
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Which beliefs are good, right, healthy, accurate, true? Those which can be backed up with verifiable *evidence.* Period.
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mercury613
In the blue TV screen light
04:50 PM on 09/17/2010
createdequal: "Why do you consider Mr. Rekers a fraud?"

The man who claims to be an expert on changing homosexuals to heterosexuals was caught getting off a plane with a male prostitute he vacationed with, and you're asking me why he's a fraud? Seriously?

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createdequal: "Please show me some links to the lies about gay people that FOTF tells."

"Homosexuals are not monogamous. They want to destroy the institution of marriage," Dobson said. "It will destroy marriage. It will destroy the Earth." LIE.

http://atheism.about.com/b/2004/10/25/dobson-gays-will-destroy-the-earth.htm

"The majority of more than 30 years of social-science indicates that children do best on every measure of well-being when raised by their married mother and father..." LIE, refuted by the very psychologist whose work James Dobson distorted.

http://www.insidehighered.com/news/2006/12/19/gilligan

More research distortions by FOTF:

http://www.truthwinsout.org/pressreleases/2009/06/3207/

In fact, there are so many that a web site has been set up just to set the records straight.

LIARS.
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Mik McAllister
08:30 AM on 09/12/2010
Um. What the hell?

Why is this woman touting her organization's party line on HuffPo? Why is she flinging her supposed credentials, as well as the organization's Founding Fuhrer, James Dobson, as if she has a point to make? We know what that point was as soon as she said her name and that of her employer.

Maybe this is the beginning of a new series of blogs on HuffPo. Next, Sarah Palin on gun control. GWBush on executive privilege. Martha Stewart on deregulation of the stock market. Pope Ratzinger on shielding clergy from prosecution. British Petroleum on the evils of alternative energy.

By the way, Candi, God wanted me to ask you why you aren't listening to him anymore.
01:33 PM on 09/13/2010
It is, perhaps, enjoyable to poke fun at someone that you don't agree with but since C. Cushman's organization has a long history of opposing things like school bullying, on this issue at least I'm going to have to go with her. Besides, I think you are missing the best point of those that oppose Sen. Casey's legislation.

Consider this quote from the 14th amendment of the US constitution.

US Constitution Amendment 14 - Citizenship Rights. Ratified 7/9/1868 "All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside. No State shall ... deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws."

The "Safe Schools" proposal by Pennsylvania Sen. Bob Casey is in DIRECT opposition to the equal protection clause of the constitution. Further, it simply won't help with bullying. If you make a special class of children in the schools you are painting a sign on those children that clearly screams ASSOCIATE WITH ME AT YOUR OWN RISK! The natural response will be to further ostracize the very children that Sen. Cassey claims he is aiming to help.

The proposal by Sen. Casey is both unconstitutional and very likely to make the situation for children that believe themselves to be GLBT worse rather then better.
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mercury613
In the blue TV screen light
07:25 PM on 09/13/2010
"....but since C. Cushman's organization has a long history of opposing things like school bullying..."

Care to cite any evidence of this claim?

"The "Safe Schools" proposal by Pennsylvania Sen. Bob Casey is in DIRECT opposition to the equal protection clause of the constitution."

Really? Please explain how.
02:18 AM on 09/12/2010
"After all, when the Founding Fathers wrote the words “all men are created equal,” they didn’t append a lengthy laundry list singling out certain characteristics as more worthy of protection than others and dividing human beings into competing categories."

You mean characteristics like sexual orientation, I assume, Ms. Cushman. That being the case, I assume that Focus on the Family supports my equal right to marry my same-sex partner.

Just checking.
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Jdaddy1951
01:52 PM on 09/11/2010
"Sen. Casey’s criticism of Focus on the Family was directed at our concerns about his bill, the Safe Schools Improvement Act. If passed, this bill would affect most K-12 schools nationwide, mandating that they insert special protections for homosexual categories such as sexual orientation and gender identity into their local policies."

And considering that gay teenagers are more likely to be bullied and harassed by children from religious-minded and other anti-gay households, what's wrong with that, Miz Candi? Bullying on any issue is un-American, just like Focus on the Family. Send your kids to a religious private school off in a cave somewhere if you don't want them to interact with our gay children. But you'd better tell them never to leave home and not expect to interact with gay or gay-friendly people --- we and our children are NEVER going back to the closet again.

Focus on the Family is LOSING this war.
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mercury613
In the blue TV screen light
06:01 PM on 09/11/2010
"Focus on the Family is LOSING this war. "

Yes, they are, which is why they are now playing the victim card. "Waaa! Waaaa! It's discriminatory to take away my right to discriminate!"
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Jdaddy1951
06:40 PM on 09/11/2010
To which we say, "You NEVER had that right. Go and pray to God for forgiveness for not loving your gay neighbor as yourself, Pharisee."
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Gay Pagan Man, Living Happily With Husband
01:21 PM on 09/11/2010
Boo-effing-hoo that children are finally getting some accurate material on GLBT people and kids. Boo-effing-hoo that someone is countering your hate and misinformation. My heart bleeds for you--not. You are upset that you and your children no longer can plead ignorance or bully GLBT kids with impunity. If you really cared, you would support the effort to stop bullying of ALL kids, not just those of whom YOU approve.

Quit pleading "parents' rights"--it's more like bigots rights. What about the right of GLBT kids not to be bullied?
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TRex86
Enjoying life in West Ohio
09:47 AM on 09/11/2010
I hereby require a PhD in American history before invoking the "Founding Fathers." Sorry, but there's plenty of ambiguous and obsolete language from those guys. Moreover, they were the FF's because their private club treated women and people of color as non-humans back then. "All men are created equal." That's transcendent wisdom for its time, but in action it was a Men's Club. As to bullying, its roots are complex. On the one hand abused kids tend to become bullies. Is FotF advocating violation of the sanctity of the family?

At a higher level America has become a violent bully. We think nothing of anonymously vaporizing bad guys with predator drones--even at the risk of "collateral damage." Focus on the Family wants to deal at the most superficial level with bullying behaviors. Well, guess what? The kids already know that it's wrong. Duh. Ya gotta get at the root causes.

American pop culture celebrates violence as the solution to all problems. We have a superman/superhero/superpower complex. The more we quiver in fear of terrorist threats the more we degenerate into collective insanity. So confining bullying to a limited context may be a feelgood for the FotF folks, but it's not going to address the gay-baiting and hate. Not until we normalize alternative sexual identities. Sorry, but ineffective and superficial efforts are worse than none.
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StevenKeirstead
Photographer and Biologist who happens to be gay.
04:38 PM on 09/11/2010
Nicely put counterpoints!
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StevenKeirstead
Photographer and Biologist who happens to be gay.
08:44 AM on 09/11/2010
Sorry Candi, I don’t buy it when people in powerful organizations play the victim. Your FRC is a group devoted to fighting gay rights in any form: essentially you are professional anti-gay bullies. Like school yard bullies you are intolerant of people you label as others, yet when strong opposition to your Christian Supremacist agenda develops, you love to claim you are oppressed. How dare you?
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Gay Pagan Man, Living Happily With Husband
01:33 PM on 09/11/2010
Fanned and faved.

This is the newest gambit in the hater community. When you can't get your own way, then play the victim. GLBT people have a documented history of mistreatment and worse at the hands of homohaters. The only "persecution" or "mistreatment" is that those such as Ms Cushman can no longer lie about us with impunity.
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mercury613
In the blue TV screen light
08:23 PM on 09/10/2010
Gay children experience bullying expressly because organizations like FRC continue to propagate malicious lies about gay people. You have gall, Ms. Cushman. I'll give you that.

What's next? Removal of all references to race in school anti-discrimination policies because racists' "deepest moral, ideological or spiritual beliefs" will be offended?
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minerva117
The dog ate my micro bio.
11:10 AM on 09/11/2010
That's the first thing I thought of, too. Also, claiming that the Federal government has no place in deciding thing for school districts is just plain wrong! I'm old enough to remember the controversy surrounding the de-segregation of schools in the south, and it would not have happened without the Federal government stepping in.
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Gay Pagan Man, Living Happily With Husband
01:24 PM on 09/11/2010
All the religious arguments are merely excuses for hatred against and lies about GLBT people to be propagated. This woman is upset that the time that haters can get away with this mistreatment and lying without a response from GLBT and allies.

You are right...if nothing else, this woman has gall. It is the usual whining that Christians are being persecuted. They are not being persecuted...they are being limited in their ability to persecute and lie about those they don't like.
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Gay Pagan Man, Living Happily With Husband
01:35 PM on 09/11/2010
Sorry mean to say: "...the time that haters can get away with this mistreatment and lying without a response from GLBT and allies is passing."
08:18 PM on 09/10/2010
“Bullying is a very serious issue. Policies and legislation that label the victim do a dis-service to the victim. Strong policies that go after the behaviors of the bully and the culture of bullying are the most effective. Giving special status to victims will not derail bullying. As a conservative Christian I believe that any child regardless of gender, race, sexual orientation, etc. does not deserve the cruel and shameful acts against them because they are different. Do we then create special status for victims of bullies that are overweight, wear glasses, wear the wrong clothes, wear the wrong shoes, stand in the wrong place, walk down the wrong hallway, talk with the wrong girl/boy. Where do you stop? The issue at hand is the behavior of the bully not the victim. The other issue of bullying is the culture in which is exists. Policies that are effective against bullying are ones that address the very culture which the bullying is occurring. Just read the literature. You remember when you were in middle/high school when you showed up when day at school and no one wanted to sit with you or talk with you. You are hurt and devastated. You later learn that someone spread false things about you or gossip that was untrue, but the damage was done. Lets get to the core issues of shame and fear associated with bullying and deal with those issues. Creating special status does not fix the problem.
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mercury613
In the blue TV screen light
12:33 PM on 09/11/2010
"Giving special status to victims will not derail bullying."

That's rich coming from someone who, as a conservative Christian, already enjoys the most protected status in American society.
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Gay Pagan Man, Living Happily With Husband
01:25 PM on 09/11/2010
Faved for truth since I can't fan you more than once!
04:09 PM on 09/11/2010
Mercury..not sure what your story is and just because I state myself as a conservative Christian you automatically know my story...this is the very reason why giving labels or status means absolutely nothing, since you assume falsely and know nothing of my journey. Blessings to you
06:40 PM on 09/10/2010
You are making an excellent point about the problems in differences in values. Harry Browne made the point long ago that the real reason that Fundamentalists and Liberals hate each other is public education, because here it is a zero sum game.

That being said as long as there is going to be public education homosexual children need to be protected. The rules regarding bullying should be simple across all areas of a student's personal life: be supportive or shut up anything else is inappropriate in school. Christian on homosexual bullying is very common because you all spend a great deal of time attacking homosexuals and children have trouble drawing the fine distinctions you would like them too regarding behavior.

In terms of your anti-bullying proposal:
I think you should stop at intentionally causing emotion distress. No reason to weaken for verbal further.

As for article V do you really intend to allow students full first amendment protections like adults? If yes I might go for that compromise even though I don't think it is quite strong enough.
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Alvin McEwen
06:04 PM on 09/10/2010
The only people who are politicizing this thing are people like Ms. Cushman. If you cannot "name" the problem, you cannot deal with the problem. And by the way, has Ms. Cushman eliminated the work of George Rekers from her resources yet? - http://www.huffingtonpost.com/alvin-mcewen/focus-on-the-family-chann_b_701244.html

Until she does, I don't think Cushman should be considered as credible in terms of anything having to do with the lgbt community, bullying or otherwise.
04:56 PM on 09/10/2010
"The fact is, not every parent in America wants homosexual issues presented during math and English classes – in the same way not every parent wants religious doctrine presented during public school classes. The difference? We all know the latter is strictly prohibited."
Gay people exist. Gay people occur naturally. Kids learning about the existence of gay people is the same as kids learning about the existence of giraffes. Don't worry, you can still teach your kids to hate teh gays just as you could teach them that giraffes don't exist.

"how would you feel if the federal government forced your local schools to teach your children things that violated your deepest moral, ideological or spiritual beliefs—all at taxpayer expense?"
If things like facts get in the way of your religious fantasies then remove your children from public schools that teach tolerance and home school them with your mythologies. If you don't like the public schools that teach facts then join a cult compound where you can teach your children that people rode dinosaurs.
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CaraTaylor
Is that true or did you hear it on Fox News?
06:30 PM on 09/10/2010
Fanned and faved. Couldn't have said it any better myself!
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minerva117
The dog ate my micro bio.
11:13 AM on 09/11/2010
X2!
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Gay Pagan Man, Living Happily With Husband
01:27 PM on 09/11/2010
Fundamentalist Christians need to start getting used that we exist, that we have lives, that there is nothing wrong with us and that we are not going to take their lying about us and bullying us, especially the children and youth of cour community. Deal with it, get over it.
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Gay Pagan Man, Living Happily With Husband
03:09 PM on 09/11/2010
Sorry, meant to say: "Christians need to get used to the fact that we exist..."