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Caren Chesler
A journalist for almost 25 years, Caren Chesler has spent half her career as a general news reporter and the other half covering business. In that time, she’s written about topics as diverse as racial profiling on the New Jersey Turnpike to the newest trends in private equity investing. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, Salon, The New York Daily News, The New York Post, Bloomberg Business News, Popular Mechanics, Miller McCune, New Jersey Monthly, Modern Bride, Investor’s Business Daily, and the Asbury Park Press, among others. A mother at 47, she is writing a book (and looking for a publisher): "The Dancing Egg: An IVF Story for the Over 40 Crowd." She blogs at

Entries by Caren Chesler

How I Taught My Kid to Lie, Cheat and Steal

(1) Comments | Posted March 25, 2015 | 5:43 PM

I took my 4-year-old, Eddie, to a big-box store whose name I dare not say for fear of repercussions, though it starts and ends with a "T," and its logo is a bull's eye. As I pushed him past a display of string cheese, he pointed and yelled, "I want...

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And Just Like That, My Kid Surprised Me Again

(0) Comments | Posted December 2, 2014 | 9:47 AM

I quickly tuned my guitar and put it in its case. I then grabbed the music to the four songs I planned to play for my son Eddie's daycare class, stuffed them into my guitar case as well and snapped it shut. I wanted to put the guitar in the...

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Sometimes Pre-School Boys Are Just Being Boys

(1) Comments | Posted November 20, 2014 | 1:03 PM

I picked up my 3-and-a-half-year old son Eddie from daycare and as we left the building, he and a classmate began running around and around a circular cement path in front of the school. The other boy was in the lead and as my son caught up to him, he...

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My Son Likes Nail Polish

(1) Comments | Posted October 28, 2014 | 11:18 AM

I went to the drug store with my 3 1/2-year-old son, Eddie, and when I threw some nail polish into my cart, my son said, "I want one."

"Really? Um, OK," I said. I knelt down on the floor and plucked several colors out of the display that I thought...

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Defending Your Child in the Face of Strangers

(0) Comments | Posted October 1, 2014 | 3:11 PM

I went to our local library this afternoon because I received a letter that said the "book on tape" I had borrowed was overdue and that I now owed the library $1.60. When we arrived, I was told my outstanding bill was not $1.60, but actually $18.00. That's because on...

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Are You Pushing Your Kid to Play Sports?

(0) Comments | Posted June 10, 2014 | 6:03 PM

"I don't want to skate," my 3-year-old son said, kicking the tip of his skate blade against the rubber flooring.

"Why? I thought you liked skating?" I said.

"It's boring," my son said, boldly.

I had an English teacher in high school, a short little man with a lisp, who,...

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Trying to 'Have It All' as a Writer and Mom

(0) Comments | Posted March 25, 2014 | 12:00 PM

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Every morning as I lie in bed and hear my three-year-old son begin to rustle in his crib, I vow that today, I will get down on my hands and knees and play with him. Soon,...

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Who's in Charge? You or Your Kid?

(0) Comments | Posted February 10, 2014 | 12:28 PM

My 3-year old son, Eddie, has had a love affair with super heroes for more than a year now. Batman and Superman top the list. Whenever anyone asked him what he wanted for Christmas, he'd say, "BatmanZoopaman," as if it were one word. The fact that he meant any kind...

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Finding the Balance Between Being A 'Yes' Mom and a 'No' Mom

(1) Comments | Posted January 13, 2014 | 9:00 AM

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I knew her as "the lady who let her kid play in the middle of the street," until our annual block party, when I learned her name was Summer, she was a single mom with three...

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The Pitfalls of Helicopter Parenting

(0) Comments | Posted October 29, 2013 | 4:50 PM

As we pulled up to the playground, I could barely get my son's seatbelt unlocked before he leapt out of the car and took off down the sidewalk toward the playground's entrance. My husband and I grabbed our coffees from the car, and by the time I looked up again,...

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The Fine Art of Circumvention

(0) Comments | Posted October 21, 2013 | 12:13 PM

My son, Eddie, marched through the pumpkin patch in his work boots, bypassing all of the pumpkins and stopping only to yank weeds out of the ground or pick up a rock.

"Don't you want to pick a pumpkin, pal?" I said.

Eddie, who is 2-1/2, didn't answer.

"Look, Mommy,"...

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The Dog House

(1) Comments | Posted July 24, 2013 | 2:40 PM

For several months now, I've been carrying around a photo of my 2-year old son, Eddie, wedged inside a book of essays. In the photo, my son is sitting on the edge of our front garden. His cheeks look large like he's storing nuts, his limbs are still fleshy from...

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The Healing Power of Ice

(1) Comments | Posted July 18, 2013 | 6:19 PM

I was sitting in the living room the other day when my 2-year-old son, Eddie, said, "Band-Aid, mommy. I need Band-Aid."

"What happened?" I asked, quickly scanning his body. I saw nothing. I wasn't surprised. He'd been sitting on the living room floor a few feet away from me playing...

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The Misery of Riches

(1) Comments | Posted July 4, 2013 | 1:27 PM

I just finished writing a story for a money magazine about people who feel having a lot of money can be a burden as much as a blessing. One advisor said he had a client who left his sons a family business and left each of his two daughters about...

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(0) Comments | Posted June 29, 2013 | 4:34 PM

"Mommy, why is the sky blue?" "Mommy, why eat dinner? Eddie no want dinner." "Why go bed? But why?" We are officially in the 'Why?' stage.

This morning, my 2-year-old son, Eddie, said he had to make a poopy, so I asked him if he wanted to go on the...

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Karma Is Over-Rated

(0) Comments | Posted June 19, 2013 | 3:11 PM

Some find the concept of Karma reassuring. "I'm a good person, therefore, the universe is nice to me." The concept of Karma, in the hands of a neurotic like myself, can be a prison sentence, like having a Siamese twin who's a back seat driver. "You know you missed your...

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What's Mine is Mine

(0) Comments | Posted June 11, 2013 | 10:54 AM

We took our 2-year old son, Eddie, to Puerto Rico. On his first day at the hotel pool, he so enjoyed swimming, it was hard to get him out of the water. As he splashed around by the stairs, he met a boy called Noah, who had a sack of...

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A Sibling for My Child

(3) Comments | Posted May 31, 2013 | 12:45 PM

When we went to the playground the other day, my 2-year old son, Eddie, insisted on taking his two Elmo dolls with us. One is large and covered in red fur. The other is small and made of red cloth. Eddie placed the two dolls down on the ground and...

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Jolly Rogers

(0) Comments | Posted May 28, 2013 | 11:45 AM

When I was growing up, there was a little cluster of amusement rides off of Hempstead Turnpike called Jolly Rogers. The amusements were covered in a thin layer of car exhaust, the ferris wheel had rusty cages that were totally enclosed and the rides were jammed in so close together,...

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Old Yeller

(1) Comments | Posted May 20, 2013 | 1:08 PM

Parents who tell their children to use their "inside voice" in restaurants must not have a child who yells, because inside is where my kid screams the most. He yells at the top of his lungs when he doesn't want me to put him in the bath. He then yells...

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