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Caren Chesler
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A journalist for almost 25 years, Caren Chesler has spent half her career as a general news reporter and the other half covering business. In that time, she’s written about topics as diverse as racial profiling on the New Jersey Turnpike to the newest trends in private equity investing. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, Salon, The New York Daily News, The New York Post, Bloomberg Business News, Popular Mechanics, Miller McCune, New Jersey Monthly, Modern Bride, Investor’s Business Daily, and the Asbury Park Press, among others. A mother at 47, she is writing a book (and looking for a publisher): "The Dancing Egg: An IVF Story for the Over 40 Crowd." She blogs at http://thedancingegg.wordpress.com.

Entries by Caren Chesler

Trying to 'Have It All' as a Writer and Mom

(0) Comments | Posted March 25, 2014 | 12:00 PM

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Every morning as I lie in bed and hear my three-year-old son begin to rustle in his crib, I vow that today, I will get down on my hands and knees and play with him. Soon,...

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Who's in Charge? You or Your Kid?

(0) Comments | Posted February 10, 2014 | 12:28 PM

My 3-year old son, Eddie, has had a love affair with super heroes for more than a year now. Batman and Superman top the list. Whenever anyone asked him what he wanted for Christmas, he'd say, "BatmanZoopaman," as if it were one word. The fact that he meant any kind...

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Finding the Balance Between Being A 'Yes' Mom and a 'No' Mom

(1) Comments | Posted January 13, 2014 | 9:00 AM

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I knew her as "the lady who let her kid play in the middle of the street," until our annual block party, when I learned her name was Summer, she was a single mom with three...

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The Pitfalls of Helicopter Parenting

(0) Comments | Posted October 29, 2013 | 4:50 PM

As we pulled up to the playground, I could barely get my son's seatbelt unlocked before he leapt out of the car and took off down the sidewalk toward the playground's entrance. My husband and I grabbed our coffees from the car, and by the time I looked up again,...

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The Fine Art of Circumvention

(0) Comments | Posted October 21, 2013 | 12:13 PM

My son, Eddie, marched through the pumpkin patch in his work boots, bypassing all of the pumpkins and stopping only to yank weeds out of the ground or pick up a rock.

"Don't you want to pick a pumpkin, pal?" I said.

Eddie, who is 2-1/2, didn't answer.

"Look, Mommy,"...

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The Dog House

(1) Comments | Posted July 24, 2013 | 2:40 PM

For several months now, I've been carrying around a photo of my 2-year old son, Eddie, wedged inside a book of essays. In the photo, my son is sitting on the edge of our front garden. His cheeks look large like he's storing nuts, his limbs are still fleshy from...

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The Healing Power of Ice

(1) Comments | Posted July 18, 2013 | 6:19 PM

I was sitting in the living room the other day when my 2-year-old son, Eddie, said, "Band-Aid, mommy. I need Band-Aid."

"What happened?" I asked, quickly scanning his body. I saw nothing. I wasn't surprised. He'd been sitting on the living room floor a few feet away from me playing...

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The Misery of Riches

(1) Comments | Posted July 4, 2013 | 1:27 PM

I just finished writing a story for a money magazine about people who feel having a lot of money can be a burden as much as a blessing. One advisor said he had a client who left his sons a family business and left each of his two daughters about...

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Because

(0) Comments | Posted June 29, 2013 | 4:34 PM

"Mommy, why is the sky blue?" "Mommy, why eat dinner? Eddie no want dinner." "Why go bed? But why?" We are officially in the 'Why?' stage.

This morning, my 2-year-old son, Eddie, said he had to make a poopy, so I asked him if he wanted to go on the...

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Karma Is Over-Rated

(0) Comments | Posted June 19, 2013 | 3:11 PM

Some find the concept of Karma reassuring. "I'm a good person, therefore, the universe is nice to me." The concept of Karma, in the hands of a neurotic like myself, can be a prison sentence, like having a Siamese twin who's a back seat driver. "You know you missed your...

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What's Mine is Mine

(0) Comments | Posted June 11, 2013 | 10:54 AM

We took our 2-year old son, Eddie, to Puerto Rico. On his first day at the hotel pool, he so enjoyed swimming, it was hard to get him out of the water. As he splashed around by the stairs, he met a boy called Noah, who had a sack of...

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A Sibling for My Child

(3) Comments | Posted May 31, 2013 | 12:45 PM

When we went to the playground the other day, my 2-year old son, Eddie, insisted on taking his two Elmo dolls with us. One is large and covered in red fur. The other is small and made of red cloth. Eddie placed the two dolls down on the ground and...

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Jolly Rogers

(0) Comments | Posted May 28, 2013 | 11:45 AM

When I was growing up, there was a little cluster of amusement rides off of Hempstead Turnpike called Jolly Rogers. The amusements were covered in a thin layer of car exhaust, the ferris wheel had rusty cages that were totally enclosed and the rides were jammed in so close together,...

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Old Yeller

(1) Comments | Posted May 20, 2013 | 1:08 PM

Parents who tell their children to use their "inside voice" in restaurants must not have a child who yells, because inside is where my kid screams the most. He yells at the top of his lungs when he doesn't want me to put him in the bath. He then yells...

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When a Ball Isn't Just a Ball

(0) Comments | Posted May 10, 2013 | 5:56 PM

I pick my 2-year old son, Eddie, up from daycare every day at noon, and we have about an hour-and-a-half to fill before he goes down for his nap. It's a funny amount of time because it's too short to do something fun, like go to a movie, but too...

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The Wanderer

(0) Comments | Posted April 17, 2013 | 4:21 PM

For three days, I'd been telling my son, Eddie, we were going to the Curious George exhibit at the Liberty Science Center.

"We're going to see George's house," I'd say every morning when I changed his diaper. "And who are we going with?"

"Dora and Franz," he'd say. Dora...

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Potty (Mouth) Training

(834) Comments | Posted February 15, 2013 | 10:26 AM

This morning, I placed my 2-year-old son, Eddie, in his high chair and put a plate of bananas covered in peanut butter on his tray. He looked up at me with his little pinkies extended, and clearly, as one might say, "Hi," or "Bye," he said, "Fuk."

"Excuse me?" I...

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A Habitat for Humanity

(1) Comments | Posted January 11, 2013 | 6:00 PM

I belong to an organic produce cooperative. Every other week, I pick up a box of fruit and vegetables at the home of a woman who lives about seven minutes away. I like to take my 22-month old son, Eddie, because in her backyard, the woman has a rabbit in...

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The Myth of Santa

(1) Comments | Posted January 3, 2013 | 10:56 AM

There's a patch of green space about half a block from my house called Fireman's Park, named for the big metal bell that sits in the center as a memorial to firemen killed in the line of duty. Every Christmas, our fire department puts up a manger alongside the bell,...

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Christmas Tree Indecision

(1) Comments | Posted December 16, 2012 | 7:23 AM

I love buying a Christmas tree. I like how they smell, the way they feel in my fingers. I like to stand in the middle of the lot when no one else is around and look at the rows and rows of trees as far as the eye can see....

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