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Carl has a degree in economics from Stanford University. He has spent the last 15 years designing, building, and using technology that helps gay men meet, first at Gay.com (later Planet Out Partners); then as Founder of Daddyhunt.com, a site for older guys; and most recently with the MISTER dating app.

Entries by Carl Sandler

6 Steps to Better Grindr, Jack'd and MISTER App Photos

(16) Comments | Posted April 25, 2014 | 7:41 PM

A typical gay man may spend dozens of hours every week on his favorite dating apps and websites, yet few gay men put nearly as much time or thought into writing a compelling profile description or taking photos that really show off their best, um, assets.

At the

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Ask MISTER Carl: "My Boyfriend Is Cheating...Maybe? Help!"

(7) Comments | Posted February 21, 2014 | 9:38 AM

Welcome to "Ask Mister Carl." I'm Carl Sandler, the founder of the gay mobile app, MISTER. You can also find me on SiriusXM Radio OutQ's The Morning Jolt discussing gay dating and relationships. In this series, I invite readers to share challenges that they encounter in their dating and love...

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'Looking' at Relationships. How HBO's New Series Lays Bare Our Struggle to Find Sex and Love

(2) Comments | Posted January 22, 2014 | 1:53 PM

After months of anticipation, HBO's new series "Looking" premiered this past Sunday. Reaction so far appears mixed at best, with gays either loving its "honest and realistic" portrayal of a group of twenty and thirty- something, single gay men living and loving in San Francisco, or finding its merry band...

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Ask MISTER Carl: 'My Ex Uploaded Nude Pics of Me to Tumblr. Should I Give Him a Taste of His Own Medicine?'

(15) Comments | Posted January 17, 2014 | 9:26 AM

Welcome to "Ask Mister Carl." I'm Carl Sandler, the founder of the gay mobile app, MISTER. You can also find me on SiriusXM Radio OutQ's The Morning Jolt discussing gay dating and relationships. In this series, I invite readers to share challenges that they encounter in their dating and love...

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Ask MISTER Carl: 'My Boyfriend Is HIV-Positive -- Do I Have to Tell My Parents?'

(1) Comments | Posted December 2, 2013 | 7:00 PM

Welcome to "Ask MISTER CARL." I'm Carl Sandler, the founder of the gay mobile app MISTER. You can also find me on SiriusXM Radio OutQ's The Morning Jolt discussing gay dating and relationships. In this series I invite readers to share challenges that they encounter in their dating and love...

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Ask MISTER CARL: 'We Ended Up Being More XXX Than BFF -- Is Our Friendship Ruined?'

(5) Comments | Posted November 13, 2013 | 5:02 PM

Welcome to "Ask MISTER CARL." I'm Carl Sandler, the founder of the gay mobile app MISTER. You can also find me on SiriusXM Radio OutQ's The Morning Jolt discussing gay dating and relationships. In this series I invite readers to share challenges that they encounter in their dating and love...

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Ask MISTER CARL: 'Add Getting to Know Your Butthole to Your To-do List'

(24) Comments | Posted October 18, 2013 | 7:55 PM

Welcome to "Ask MISTER CARL." I'm Carl Sandler, the founder of the gay mobile app MISTER. You can also find me on SiriusXM Radio OutQ's The Morning Jolt discussing gay dating and relationships. In this series I invite readers to share challenges that they encounter in their dating and love...

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Pastamore: A Love Story About Gays and Pasta (NSFW VIDEO)

(9) Comments | Posted October 1, 2013 | 4:58 PM

Unless you've been living under a rock, you've heard Guido Barilla, chairman of the Barilla Group, which makes Barilla pasta products, opine on gays and pasta. The only thing worse than Barilla's original comments is the sad fact that he may really believe that gay people don't see...

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Ask MISTER CARL: 'How Can I Put His Porno Past Behind Me?'

(31) Comments | Posted August 15, 2013 | 7:21 PM

Welcome to "Ask MISTER CARL." I'm Carl Sandler, the founder of the gay mobile app MISTER. You can also find me on SiriusXM Radio OutQ's The Morning Jolt discussing gay dating and relationships. In this series I invite readers to share challenges that they encounter in their dating...

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Ask MISTER CARL: 'Is It Morally Wrong to Have an Affair With a Straight Married Man?'

(61) Comments | Posted July 15, 2013 | 2:48 PM

Welcome to "Ask MISTER CARL." I'm Carl Sandler, the founder of the gay mobile app MISTER. You can also find me on SiriusXM Radio OutQ's The Morning Jolt discussing gay dating and relationships. In this series I invite readers to share challenges that they encounter in their dating...

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Pride and Gay Apathy: A Deeper Love

(9) Comments | Posted June 28, 2013 | 1:39 PM

So, it's that time of year again. The time when many of us squeeze our overgrown feet into two-sizes-too-small hooker heels, dust off our adult-sized dog collars, and dig deep into our closets in search of that pair of silver lamé booty-shorts and spray-on body glitter. Yup, you know what...

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Ask MISTER CARL: 'My Boyfriend Can't Top Me! Is Our Relationship Doomed?'

(88) Comments | Posted June 10, 2013 | 11:37 AM

Welcome to "Ask MISTER CARL." I'm Carl Sandler, the founder of the gay dating app MISTER and Daddyhunt.com and a relationship expert on The Morning Jolt on OutQ on Sirius XM Radio. In this new blog series I offer strategies and advice for anyone navigating the marvelous, messy and often...

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The Dark Side of Gay Dating Apps

(50) Comments | Posted May 10, 2013 | 8:00 AM

Click here to read an original op-ed from the TED speaker who inspired this post and watch the TEDTalk below.

Fashion model and "genetic lottery winner" Cameron Russell's TEDTalk presentation was a thought-provoking account of how the fashion world manipulates and manufactures unobtainable -- and ultimately...

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Ask MISTER CARL: 'What Do I Have to Do to Get a White Boy's Attention?'

(18) Comments | Posted May 8, 2013 | 3:19 PM

Welcome to "Ask MISTER CARL." I'm Carl Sandler, the founder of the gay dating app MISTER and Daddyhunt.com and a relationship expert on The Morning Jolt on OutQ on Sirius XM Radio. In this new blog series I offer strategies and advice for anyone navigating the marvelous, messy and often...

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Don't Drop the Soap: Gay Body Image and Dove's Latest Viral Video

(60) Comments | Posted April 26, 2013 | 8:52 PM

All-American soap manufacturer Dove is known for many things: its fresh, clean scent; keeping skin oh-so-soft (thanks, one-quarter moisturizing cream!), and, more recently, its marketing department's rather uncanny ability to sell millions of bars to women by talking frankly to them about their self-esteem issues and the hang-ups they have...

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Ask MISTER CARL: 'My Boyfriend's Too Busy for Me!'

(4) Comments | Posted March 14, 2013 | 12:28 PM

Welcome to "Ask MISTER CARL." I'm Carl Sandler, the founder of the gay dating app MISTER and Daddyhunt.com and a relationship expert on The Morning Jolt on OutQ on Sirius XM Radio. In this new blog series I offer strategies and advice for anyone navigating...

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Ask MISTER CARL: 'Can I Go to Jail for Not Disclosing My HIV Status?'

(4) Comments | Posted February 12, 2013 | 8:18 PM

Welcome to "Ask MISTER CARL." I'm Carl Sandler, the founder of the gay dating app MISTER and Daddyhunt.com and a relationship expert on The Morning Jolt on OutQ on Sirius XM Radio. In this new blog series I offer strategies and advice for anyone navigating the...

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Ask MISTER CARL: The Gay Advice Column That Always Gives It to You Straight

(11) Comments | Posted January 22, 2013 | 2:47 PM

Welcome to "Ask MISTER CARL." I'm Carl Sandler, the founder of the gay dating app MISTER and Daddyhunt.com and a relationship expert on The Morning Jolt on OutQ on Sirius XM Radio. In this new blog series I offer strategies and advice for anyone navigating the marvelous, messy and often...

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Homo for the Holidays: An 8-Point Survival Guide

(57) Comments | Posted December 21, 2012 | 8:25 PM

If you're like millions of other Americans, there's a good chance you'll be spending at least part of the coming holiday week with your family of origin. And like many of those same Americans, you're already bracing yourself for the inevitable drama that will come along with it. Parent-child dynamics...

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A Pill to Prevent HIV

(26) Comments | Posted November 6, 2012 | 1:35 PM

Last week a friend posted on Facebook: "It's been an interesting life. HIV + (positive). 10/9/2012." He is 24.

Later, I asked my young friend if he had heard of Truvada, the drug recently approved by the FDA for use as pre-exposure prophylaxis, or PrEP, against HIV. It's a...

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