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Carlin Flora
Carlin Flora is the author of Friendfluence. A former editor at Psychology Today magazine, she is a graduate of the University of Michigan and the Columbia University School of Journalism. She's written for Discover, Glamour, Women’s Health, and Men’s Health, among others. She has also appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, The Today Show, CNN, Fox News, and 20/20. She lives in Queens, New York.

Entries by Carlin Flora

How to Find (and Keep) Your Ideal Creative Partner

(0) Comments | Posted November 4, 2014 | 3:36 PM

When Carl Jung met Sigmund Freud, they "talked uninterruptedly for thirteen hours," writes Joshua Wolf Shenk in his inspiring book, Powers of Two: Finding the Essence of Innovation in Creative Pairs. Two people so hungry to devour each other's thoughts and stories, and so delighted to be understood...

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5 Ways to Raise Better Readers

(0) Comments | Posted July 30, 2014 | 1:16 PM

Even parents who treasure books tend to look at screens more than dead trees these days. How then, can we raise kids who love reading as much as we did? Jason Boog pursued this question with a journalist's zeal for research and an in-house experimental subject-his daughter Olive. The result,...

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Celebrities: Should You Be Just Like Them?

(0) Comments | Posted July 7, 2014 | 9:56 AM

A nice aside in Rachel Bertsche's smart, funny, and engaging new book, Jennifer, Gwyneth & Me: The Pursuit of Happiness, One Celebrity at a Time is the origin story of those "Stars -- They're Just Like Us!" photos of celebrities filling up their cars with gas or dragging...

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Bad Friendfluence: Are You in the Wrong Crowd?

(0) Comments | Posted December 23, 2013 | 2:07 PM

Remember when Mom became unhinged after you befriended that rebel kid, the one who smoked and sassed back to her parents?

Well, friends who are bad influences is not just an adolescent cliche. Your grown-up friends can lead you astray. Here are two key questions to ask yourself if you...

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10 Friendship Rules to Live By

(2) Comments | Posted November 8, 2013 | 2:03 PM

Over the years, I've learned a few things about friendship. Here are my top 10 friendship rules to live by:

1. Make friends consciously.
Don't passively drift into a group whose values you're not sure about.

2. Recognize that conflict is part of friendship.
Don't let resentments build...

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10 Friendship Conundrums

(22) Comments | Posted August 3, 2013 | 9:41 AM

1. "We hate it when our friends become successful," Morrissey sang, but successful friends make us more successful.

2. Many romantic couples will celebrate a year or even six months together, yet many friends do not even acknowledge the milestone of a 20, 30, or 40-year friendship.

3. Parents are...

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Anti-Bully? Sure -- But What About Pro-Friend?

(1) Comments | Posted May 28, 2013 | 2:43 PM

It only takes one.

Just one friend, that is, to reduce a child's chances of being bullied, and, if he is bullied, of developing depression as a result. These findings are rarely mentioned in discussions about bullying.

And we are currently awash in such discussions, a good thing, considering the...

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School Size and Interracial Friendship

(101) Comments | Posted April 22, 2013 | 7:03 PM

School brochure pictures notwithstanding, by and large, students hang around kids of their same race. But it turns out that the type of school they go to might encourage or subvert this tendency.

A new study by Siwei Chang and Yu Xie of the University of Michigan analyzed...

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7 Things You Didn't Know About Your Friends

(12) Comments | Posted February 25, 2013 | 10:55 AM

Sure, you're up on everything from their favorite soups to their most shameful secrets. But you probably haven't thought much about how your friends are quietly and unassumingly coloring key aspects of your life. While friendships are mostly cherished, few of us are fully aware of the specific effects friends...

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