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Yesterday My Daughter Emigrated

Posted: 10/08/2012 12:54 pm

"Today I'm not going to talk about science or R&D policies; I'll get back to that in the next post. Today I'm going to talk about something happening in my house, something that surely reflects what's happening in many other homes, because the fact is that today I can't think about anything else.

Yesterday I said goodbye to my daughter. She emigrated in search of a future she couldn't find in her country and that society, or her parents, didn't know how to give her.

It is extraordinarily frustrating for a father to watch his children leave -- but keeping them close is no longer an option, because it would mean trapping them in a situation with no future.

Living abroad is not new to her, nor does it intimidate her. In the past five years, she lived and worked in Canada, France, and England, though all those times it was about developing her professional credentials. Now it's about rebelling against those who refer to her generation as the "lost generation." Leaving has cost her her partner, the hushed sobbing that I heard last night from my bedroom made the situation even more bitter.

Like many young people her age, my daughter was caught by surprise upon completion of her professional training. In the spring she returned to Spain with the intention of looking for a job here -- it didn't really matter what, as long as she could "do her thing." She got a few interviews, but the conditions that were offered to her always seemed to be abusive: a mere salary, 400 € a month, for a person with a bachelor's and a master's degree, who speaks four languages, and who has worked abroad. Such salaries aren't enough to eat or rent a room in the cities where they're offered. She would have needed help from her parents -- something we were willing to do. But our daughter didn't want to keep being dependent on us -- as this support would in fact subsidize the same employers that are taking advantage of our young people.

This summer, many of her friends stopped by the house to say goodbye. Their conversations always came down to the same thing: the depression of the crisis, layoffs or fear of layoffs, companies that take advantage of the crisis to impose unfair conditions, laying off a good part of the workers so that "supervisors" end up doing everyone's part of the job, intimidated by the threat of being let go. It seems to me that they feel guilty, and maybe they are somewhat responsible -- as we all are -- but not for the excessive burden we've unloaded onto them.

In Mallorca, where I live, it has been a spectacular year for tourism, with record numbers of travelers and profits. A friend of mine who has a restaurant told me that this summer his revenue was 15 percent higher. Nonetheless, many businesses in the sector have laid off large parts of their workforce, once again forcing everyone else to do the jobs of those let go, taking advantage of the fear they have of losing their job just to increase profit margins. Is this what our so-called labor reform has achieved?

A good number of her friends have also emigrated, some to Germany -- not speaking a word of German but full of illusions and grit; others to Uruguay, where they can get by in Spanish. Others have gone to Canada, Australia, England, Norway... I'm sure that many left under conditions much more difficult than those of my daughter and her friends, just as there are people who wanted to leave but couldn't, because they had dependents they couldn't abandon.

Emigration is not new in our country, but we thought we'd left it behind in the 20th century, trading it in for international mobility. We thought that our young people would grow up and be educated in a modern, advanced country, a standout member of the European Union -- and, with euros in their pockets, make a bid for the G8, much to the world's surprise. This was all an illusion, a facade made of paper-mâché.

As a father I feel frustrated and unsuccessful. Parents always want children to have a better life than their own.That's how it's been at least since the Civil War brought us to rock bottom. Eighty years later we're going into a tailspin because of a political and economic regression which, as I wrote a year ago, is threatening to drag us down a tunnel back in time into the Spain of my infancy in the 1960s. In many ways, we are already getting there.

I also feel frustrated as an educator of young scientists, although I feel certain that my students have a better future. The long education of researchers, which they finish in their late 30's, means that these young people, who are the same age as my daughter, and headed towards a master's and the Doctoral thesis, will continue to progress as scientists and complete their education when our country has dug itself out of the deep hole -- or so I hope -- it finds itself in. However, it won't be easy for them, and they will also have to be tough and resilient to keep moving forward.

But this isn't about sharing my feelings as a father or as a professor of young researchers. Rather, it's about my feelings as a Spanish citizen. What future awaits a society in which the youth only have two options: disappear, or adapt to work conditions that are more often than not abusive, and which require the support of their parents?

The media calls them -- and I find it repulsive -- the "lost generation." But isn't it rather us, my generation, born between 1950 and 1970 that have taken a beating here? We are an irresponsible generation: Some got gold fever, thinking they could get a dollar for a dime; others, and I include myself here, looked the other way. With a degraded political system based in clientelism feeding itself -- and everyone knows this -- on the real estate bubble and on superfluous, disastrous housing developments. Taxation became a way to generate enormous budgets, so they could install party members high up in municipality-run businesses and boards of directors and banks, while using public funds. They illegally financed parties and took kickbacks in the most brazen way (just look at the front pages of the newspapers). Many now say they're having a rough time -- poor dears! -- subsisting on their public-servant salaries... and that's because they're no longer receiving the "bonuses" that opportunism brought into politics. Just remember the words of a politician who, despite his commentary, managed to become president of an Autonomous Community and government minister : "I am in politics to make a killing." ("yo estoy en politica para forrarme" -- look it up in Google and you'll see who I'm talking about). I also remember another recording in which a businessman bribed a municipal employee by promising him something like (I don't remember the exact phrasing), "I can promise you the future -- you and ten generations after you." It's repugnant, but we all knew about it; we all heard those words reported in the media.

At the very least, justice is slowly but surely making these crimes surface -- even though what comes to light is just the tip of the iceberg. I also hope that soon it will also be the necessary accomplices' turn: those bankers who, instead of having to give performance reports, are probably roaring with laughter over the publication of the state's new budgets -- in which we pay the bank bailout at the cost of our health and education. With the help, of course, of politicians, who freed bankers from any effective regulation.

Nobody asks forgiveness to our younger generation. Well, I want to do it here, out of responsibility -- just the small (I hope) bit I owe.

Accustomed now to being sold a false gospel, we are no longer unsettled to hear that the unemployment rate among young people is above 50 percent (without counting, of course, the folks who've already left -- and there are many of them). As long as our national soccer team keeps scoring goals and Cristiano (Ronaldo) is happy, our senses will continue to be dulled, and we'll accept with resignation the sorrow heaped upon us, without anyone ever assuming responsibility or anyone asking forgiveness.

Some people congratulate themselves, stupidly, upon the fact that many of us remained silent for so long. But something is changing. We're no longer happy with more of the same; we're no longer soothed by calculated lies, clumsy sleights of hand, by euphemisms and the same old story: that what's happening to us is happening because we lived beyond our means, and so we deserve it.

We should all make a great effort to ensure a future for our children, because that future is ours, too. We are a society that's getting older every day, which will soon have such an enormous percentage of retirees that it can only be supported by a dynamic and productive workforce -- one including the same people we have forced abroad or discarded of the family home. I don't see any other solution to the problem of restarting job creation than for a new cooperative movement dedicated to innovation, which should prioritize our young people's initiatives (they have stupendous ideas), and support those ideas with public resources. Investing in our youth is investing in our future.

But those who are supposed to take advantage of our efforts (our taxes), to push through pro-youth employment policies are yet again distracted, trying to figure out where their political advantage lies. Our political institutions are the same as ever: as the English expression has it, it's the same circus with different clowns. Nothing has changed; but it is crucial that it does.

We have taken a beating. But let us stand up, brush the dust off, and get moving. First, though, for that to happen we must liberate ourselves from the enormous burden of the incompetent politicians who have largely brought us to where we are today.

I want my daughter and everyone else who left the country, to be happy, and, in some near future, to come home to their country to contribute, in their capacity, to our future.

I would like to close this post by reciting to my daughter, and the youth of her generation who left, a poem by José Agustín Goytisolo, "Words for Julia." But it's probably better if they just hear it as sung by Paco Ibáñez in his cover at the Olympia in Paris.


This post first appeared on HuffPost Spain and is translated from the original Spanish.

 
 
 
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Matthew Hirtes
12:30 PM on 11/30/2012
I'm not sure why the writer didn't name and shame the politician in question. It was Eduardo Zaplana. Wonder what party he belongs to. Oh, the PP. Who would have thunk it?
08:33 AM on 10/16/2012
I can understand how the author feels about the situation but, without trying to offend anyone's feelings, I would like to point out how elitist his view in comparison to billions of people in the world who do not have a luxury of getting a visa and going to England or Canada when they can't find job in their home country.
Yes, it is tough to be unemployed in Spain. But you know what is tougher? To be unemployed in Tajikistan. The author complains about how horrible it is to be paid 400 euros with bachelor degree and four languages. You know what is horrible? To be paid 100 (one hundred) dollars in Azerbaijan with PhD from one of the leading American university and with the knowledge of 4 languages. And, no, you cannot survive for 100 dollars in Azerbaijan. But unlike a young citizen of Spain, a person from Azerbaijan, Ukraine, Tajikistan or Armenia cannot just pack and go to Canada or Ireland because the borders are closed for those young people just because they were unfortunate to be born outside of the developed world.
It breaks author's heart to see his daughter move in another country. At the same time, millions of parents in developing world would give a lot to see their children emigrate to the US or Europe because it would mean the start of a new and prosperous life with freedom.
05:49 AM on 10/21/2012
Go to Ireland? Are you mad? Ireland is haemorraging its youth now over the recklessness of its politicians and developers and the utter greed of German, French, British and American banks who are raping the Irish economy
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Barely Left of Pobedonostsev
05:42 AM on 10/16/2012
The "Very Serious People" insisting on 'austerity' for Spain and other parts of the world are being very destructive. The sad case of these emigrations are only one example. There are very many other ways in which high unemployment is ruining life in these countries not just for the unemployed. Dr. Paul Krugman has been warning of this for years now.

But for some strange reason, politicians listen to the "Very Serious People" instead of the benevolent, educated and highly educated and accomplished Nobel Laureate.
04:54 PM on 10/15/2012
Despite having bachelor's/masters degrees from Stanford, I could not find promising jobs stateside beyond those in consulting/finance, industries that I believe create no true value for society. Of course, there were other opportunities working in social media, but I see this as another sort of mirage, just on a slightly longer time scale. Give it 5 years.

I have since left America for Europe to study on a 2 years+ joint masters/PhD program in Belgium and France, in nanotechnology. This program would probably cost me $80,000+ in the US; in Europe, I am paid to complete my studies. There is quite a powerful nascent science/ technology scene here- and not in the hackathon sense, but in the materials science, hadron collider, rocket science, semiconductor sense. I would be hard pressed to afford these opportunities state-side-- *literally*. I am, quite literally, an example of the brain drain other on this forum are referring to in the abstract.

I will admit that I am already quite unlikely to return to my home country, which, IMO is experiencing a slow bleed-out at the hands of corrupt financial institutions. If Romney is elected, my choice will have been made for me. Even if Barack Obama gets a second chance, I doubt that he will have the political will needed to make the swift decisions needed to keep America off the cliff of a full-blown plutocratic collapse.

I wish you all luck from abroad. You will need it.
T4Timbuktu
Rich people actually pay the freight
06:03 AM on 10/16/2012
Keep us posted on the coming Civil War in Belgium.
07:04 AM on 10/16/2012
haha.. mayor antwerp was just elected as a flemish separatist, so your comment is quite timely, as a separatist movement is def sweeping Europe :) that said, Belgians just don't seem to have the fight in them like those northern Irish- :p- I don't think I could ever see anything more than a peaceful split up between Flanders and Wallonia, perhaps with Brussels becoming an autonomous EU capital region, somewhat as Washington DC is now in the states..
03:54 PM on 10/15/2012
A wonderfully powerful, personal and painful piece, eloquent and poignant and angry. As an Irish person with a daughter in Australia and a stepson leaving for Asia in a few months, I totally empathise with this article. Piaras Mac Éinrí, Cork, Ireland.
03:16 PM on 10/15/2012
Emigration as a choice to achieve personal goals is a blessing . Emigration for survival is a curse. My daughter also emigrated from Greece to England.
11:01 AM on 10/14/2012
#thisisspain ....tragically!
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alooo
02:48 PM on 10/11/2012
To Uruguay????omg, who does that? I was born there, and not even the fear of the plague will take me back there. Do you know how much is a badly constructed house there? way more than anything you will find in Spain. I share your pain though, my kids are emigrating as well, from the USA to Europe. Why you may ask? No matter how gritty is gets, Europe is the most civilized place to live in the world. My kids don't have health insurance here the "greatest nation in the world" , and getting a mediocre plan will cost too much. Education is expensive and paying back the loans, which by the way, cannot be forgiven with bankruptcy, will make them slaves for ever. I say to the European young and unemployed: kick the "box" out, and start from scratch...you live in the most incredible place on earth, you are creative, intelligent....find a way, don't leave! If in November Ronmey becomes the President, WE ARE ALL
LEAVING.
09:08 PM on 10/14/2012
Uruguay is wonderful country. I leaved 10 years in the USA and came back to Uruguay. Please aloo do no come back. We do not need people like you. We are happily receiving engineers and inmigrants from other countries to fill positions we have thanks to strong invesments. It is good to allow free movement of people to follow the demand wherever it is. The word is flat now. In few years, Spain will be doing well, and this girl will come back with gained experience, unless she finds a husband where she goes, and decides to stay.
06:06 AM on 10/11/2012
Carlos, wasn't it inevitable after the Civil War and the dog-est-dog environment of the post-war years living under a repressive regime. The people ruling now grew up and profited under Franco, it is DESPITE your generation, not BECAUSE OF your generation.
things will get better......
meanwhile, Animo! different experiences always benefit long-term.........
04:06 PM on 10/10/2012
During the Viet Nam era multi1000's left the US and headed north where, because they had been drafted, they were accepted a refugees from persecution arising from an unjust war, something equitable nations just do. Those kid who came north were well educated, much of them from academia who in no small way brought the educations standards of the host country to levels beyond the norm...http://ca.finance.yahoo.com/news/the-10-most-educated-countries-in-the-world.html I've often wondered how many returned home. BTW because all US service people are now volunteers they are deported back to the US.
02:09 PM on 10/10/2012
Sad. But if ruling elites have their way, and who's to stop them - certainly not governments, least of all democracies - the rest of the developed world will soon look like Spain. Where will our children emigrate to then?
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07:31 PM on 10/10/2012
To China or India? They worship Americans over there. It's well documented by news articles that a nobody in the states is instantly catapulted to become a somebody in Asian high society. For example, a college drop out student from Iowa traveling in India was constantly invited to join Indian high society social functions rubbing elbow with rich businessmen and celebrities.
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JustBNice
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01:39 PM on 10/10/2012
Unfortunately, it's the well educated who are emigrating from the US.

The dumbing down of America, drive the middle class into poverty and submission. It's a right wing agenda to eventually get cheap labor here w/o having to ship products made overseas. They've been fighting against the minimum wage for years, they want it to 10 cents an hour, four or five families living in one house. Think I'm crazy ? Wait 10 years. Ok five.
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....is politically radioactive.
01:21 PM on 10/10/2012
America is on its way there, too.
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kyeshinka
01:12 PM on 10/10/2012
Nothing wrong with emigrating. Can't find a job up the street? There's no reason to believe there will be one the next state over. I moved to Korea in 2004 and lived there for four years because I couldn't find work in the US. It was the best decision I made. You only have one life; make the most of it.
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sweetpatriot
28,woman,healthcareworker,polyglot,bisexual.
03:50 PM on 10/10/2012
Are you still there?
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Barely Left of Pobedonostsev
05:44 AM on 10/16/2012
Look past the immigrant success stories the press floods us with to see how many immigrants find nothing but trouble, and you will hesitate before recommending your course of action to everyone.
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AlButerol
It's all about me
01:11 PM on 10/10/2012
I have been recommending emigration to every young person I happen to open a conversation with. What's to be gained in another country? Employment, inexpensive or free education and health care, better health care, social security that's not in danger of cutbacks or disappearing altogether, a free press, civil rights, a government that doesn't squander all it's resources on the military and useless wars (including fake wars on drugs and terrorism). I think the intelligentsia should leave this country and leave the 1% wealthy to live in a country where there are two classes: the very rich and the very poor. It seems that's what they want anyway. In the long run, I think your daughter will be happier and eventually will feel no desire to look back wistfully at this pathetic third world nation. I wish I had emigrated when I was young. Take heed, It's too late for me, but not for others.
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Jerry Bourbon
02:48 PM on 10/10/2012
What makes you think Spain is a third world nation?
08:40 AM on 10/14/2012
He sounds confused, maybe he thinks the daughter in question is leaving the US?
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AlButerol
It's all about me
07:37 PM on 10/30/2012
I was referring to the US, not Spain.