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What Women REALLY Want in a Man

02/10/2015 05:49 pm ET | Updated Apr 12, 2015
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If you ask a woman what she's looking for in a man, she'll tell you that she wants someone tall, dark, and handsome. She's looking for a clone of George Clooney. If you look at her relationship history, however, you'll see that's not always true.

Men are visual; they fall in love through their eyes. They're shallow and superficial. Sorry, guys -- you know it's the truth. Women, on the other hand, fall in love through their ears. We care more about the whole package; we value a man's personality, how thoughtful he is, and how he treats us.

I'm here to be the bearer of great news and tell you that looks aren't so important to all women. Yes, a man's physical appearance is important to some ladies, but most women want much, much more than that. A nice looking man who is in good shape, dresses, well and possesses all of the below characteristics is what we really want! Read on:

1. Being Kind Goes A Long Way
Women want to date a man who is kind and caring. We want someone who will be our best friend, a partner, and our equal. Above all, we want someone who makes us feel great.

2. Brains Are Sexy
Intelligence is a turn on. Being sexy is cool because smart men simply captivate women. Whether it's informing us about the newest congressional race or teaching us something we didn't know about football, we like someone from whom we can learn. Women enjoy feeling enlightened.

3. Funny Is Always A Good Thing
Being funny makes men more attractive to women. There's no science to it; it's just a fact. One hundred percent of women appreciate a man who is witty. If you can make a woman laugh, she'll almost always think you're awesome.

4. Confidence Is Key
Women like men who are confident. When you're sure of yourself and your actions reflect it, women will be naturally drawn to you. Women are attracted to men who know they're great. We like dating a man who can captivate a room just by walking in.

5. Be Charismatic, Please
Charisma is defined as having swagger, being unique, and possessing a certain je ne sais quoi, or just not being "vanilla." When you're charismatic, you're that much cooler. All women love a charming man. When you have a big personality, women find you irresistible.

6. Balance Is Needed
Leading a balanced lifestyle is important. Women enjoy dating a man who can do it all. We want to date someone who can prioritize his job, family, friends and a relationship. We're drawn to men who make time for us and who show us that we're an essential part of their lives.

7. Are You A Good Listener?
A man who is a good listener is a true catch. Because women are more emotional than men, we love to share. We can talk for hours. We have tons of stories to tell and we want you to listen to all of them. If you can listen to a woman, and I mean genuinely listen, you're a gem!

8. Thoughtfulness Is Cool
Thoughtful men are enticing for women. Being thoughtful doesn't mean spending a lot of money; it means showing us that you care. If we mention we love a certain restaurant, surprise us and plan a date there. If we say we have a particular flower, bring us flowers on the next date. If we tell you we're eager to see a specific movie or play, get tickets and take us. A man who's considerate is very sexy.

9. Don't Be High Maintenance
We like to date men who can go with the flow. Women can be high maintenance; men can't. We want to date someone we can bring anywhere. If we're invited to a business dinner, we want to date a man who can put on a fancy suit and talk about important things. When a client invites us to a sports game, we want to date someone who can keep up with the lingo. If we're in the mood to sit on our couch in PJ's all day, we need someone who can too. Quite simply, we enjoy dating men who can be comfortable in any situation.

10. Get Your Look Right
Being put together and looking presentable is essential. Women want to date men who are well dressed. A nice outfit can make men so much more attractive! If you're well dressed and put together, you're showing everyone that you value yourself and your appearance.

Ultimately, women want to fall in love. We want someone who makes us feel special and important.