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Carol Smaldino
Carol Smaldino, CSW, is a social work psychotherapist for over thirty years. She has relocated from the New York area to divide her time between Colorado and Italy. She still works with families, and does consultations in both locations and in New York as well. Her work is both deep and practical, though she admits that she'd "be nowhere without humor on tap". After wanting to save the world for a long time, she has "settled" for the more modest and partial processes of attending to emotional issues as being connected to our political states of distraction, coldness and fear. Her current project is a book coming out in April 2014 with Dignity Press, called "Feelings in the Raw: On Safer Ground with our Emotions". She well knows and learns over and again, that to work on mental health and social issues means attending to her own insides, shadows if you will.
Although she feels not always "grown up enough to be married" Carol is in fact married to Lino, whom she met in Italia ages and ages ago. She feels she has been married many times, albeit to the same man who has changed as well.
A staunch liberal she would like for more of us to value the part emotional depth and practice ( a kind of "feelings fitness") play in becoming more connected, empathic and effective. Carol lectures, or real converses, on subjects of bullying (from the inside out), the human climate, taking the power out of power (going from power struggles to relationships) and more. She loves to share and sometimes really can.

Entries by Carol Smaldino

Where Did Your Food Come From? And your Cat's: A Look at Killing on the Seas

(0) Comments | Posted July 28, 2015 | 1:44 PM

I am spending time in Italy, the quintessential land of the bargain. I never had the stomach for it, and yet I began to feel that people who were selling things at local markets must be okay with the bargained down prices because they didn't look too unhappy as they...

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When Therapy Becomes Torture

(0) Comments | Posted July 15, 2015 | 3:09 PM

James Risen of the New York Times is known for his fearless honesty, and his courage to have decided to use his freedom not to name sources in the midst of important investigative reporting. His most recent piece comes now in the form of an article entitled

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From Italy: The Death Penalty as Seen Within the Context of July 4th

(0) Comments | Posted June 30, 2015 | 3:34 PM

July 4th is hardly noticeable as it approaches, here in the lush but quieter hills close to Lucca in Italy. It's nearly impossible, though, not to notice it in some way. A seafood restaurant owned by a new friend seems perfect as an outing for a few people close enough...

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From Italy, I Pray: Don't Get Distracted by Religion

(2) Comments | Posted June 18, 2015 | 1:05 PM

The racism in the United States has come to be shocking, to many of us who have perhaps over years closed our eyes to how violent a thing it is. That, of course, is easier to do for white people because as many point out, white people, knowingly or not,...

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When Emotions Are Left Behind

(2) Comments | Posted June 1, 2015 | 2:12 AM

It's almost a year since my double mastectomy last June for invasive lobular breast cancer. The fancier words mean it was bad and dangerous and it/I needed five months of chemo before the surgery, which also meant it was pretty bad. One of the worst things about the experience, and...

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Relating to Race Over Dinner: "Memphis" in Fort Collins

(0) Comments | Posted April 22, 2015 | 3:43 PM

How good could theatre while eating be? Better than one might think, would be the answer. Aside from the issues of dinner theater in general, there is a compelling reason to acknowledge that this experience of seeing and feeling the Tony award winning show "Memphis," is a surprising one in...

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Spoiler Alert for Dreamcatcher, the Documentary: You Will be Moved

(1) Comments | Posted March 27, 2015 | 7:17 AM

Dreamcatcher, the Showtime documentary that airs March 27, 2015 (9 p.m. ET/PT) surprises you from the start. The darkness of the Chicago streets where there are prostitutes at work, is pierced by the voice of Brenda, someone we will get to know much better, yelling out, "Hey, do you need...

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A 2015 Passover Seder, An Exodus That Includes Evolving

(0) Comments | Posted March 19, 2015 | 12:55 PM

For what now seems a very long time, meaning decades, I have been having at my home what we've called an alternative Seder. It started with my best friend Roseanne when we were in our twenties, and both thrived and evolved through the years of raising children. Roseanne and I...

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Dreaming of Dignity: The Movie "Selma"

(0) Comments | Posted January 29, 2015 | 6:58 PM

Hollywood has been about fantasy, right? About emotions inspired and provoked, about being stimulated--for some of us--and at times even transformed. I saw "Selma" today and I have to say I was filled with so many of the emotions that for me mark a movie experience as being profound, memorable,...

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Dying of ALS or Not

(0) Comments | Posted January 21, 2015 | 10:43 AM

ALS, also known as Lou Gehrig's disease, is gaining in some media attention, thanks to the current award-winning film about scientist Stephen Hawking, The Theory of Everything. In addition the film Still Alice starting Julianne Moore which deals with early onset Alzheimer's, has a back story in which

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Je Suis: Jewish, and So much Else

(0) Comments | Posted January 20, 2015 | 2:59 PM

Watching the Golden Globes, and reading the newspaper tributes to the fallen in the kosher meat market in Paris, and the fearless tribe of satirists who seemed to feel that freedom is the true prize of life, I felt very moved. The sentiments of "we will not let terrorists win"...

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Torture, Mental Health, and Accountability

(0) Comments | Posted December 17, 2014 | 1:07 PM

Dick Cheney can wag his finger at the anchor or at the public that is protesting the use of torture, but it's not quite as appropriate for members of the mental health professions, who have actively committed to doing "no harm". In addition to the brutality of the American torture...

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On Torture: Crossing Party Lines

(0) Comments | Posted December 10, 2014 | 10:07 AM

This business of torture has lasted a long time, in terms of the U.S. activities with detainees from Iraq and Afghanistan. And from ethical and humanitarian points of view, torture has been antithetical to those of us following the news, reading The Dark Side by Jane Mayer, witnessing the fierce...

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A Personal Reflection on Prejudice

(0) Comments | Posted December 8, 2014 | 4:21 PM

It has been a few years since I heard the brilliant and impassioned white anti-racist Tim Wise speak about the "benefits" that white people received from racism. He spoke about lily white communities, and even poorer white people who allegedly voted against their own interests feeling compensated by a sense...

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What I Want to Be Thankful for on Thanksgiving: An Ode to Edward Snowden

(0) Comments | Posted November 25, 2014 | 11:42 AM

I am an idealist, and that probably won't change, despite my realistic and even skeptical leanings, and despite a downright pessimism at times about the way our political scenarios are going. I was depressed, or at least saddened when in high school I read Richard Hofstadter about the Presidents of...

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When You See Something Say Something: Tomas Young, and the Rest of Us

(3) Comments | Posted November 19, 2014 | 11:21 AM

Recently I gave a talk on a concept I have that I refer to as "the bully and the brain freeze." Some people who are very smart otherwise, can, when traumatized or vulnerable in particular areas, sort of freeze if someone accentuates the wounds, and provokes doubt as well. This...

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Take Viagra If You Can Afford It: The Necessary Comedy of Lewis Black

(2) Comments | Posted November 12, 2014 | 10:00 AM

Lewis Black, who performed last night in Fort Collins, didn't talk about Viagra. He did talk about another drug prescribed to help him quit smoking, for which he had to pay out of pocket. He was doing a very on target rant about insurance companies not caring about us very...

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How Can I Be Living in a Republican State?

(0) Comments | Posted November 5, 2014 | 10:42 AM

I want to move, hearing too soon (the polls aren't even closed, but we have gotten used to that) that Cory Gardner who is known to people like me for his positions of denying climate change, has won the race for Colorado Senator. Okay, inequality for women in terms of...

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Furthering the Conversation: Our Kids and Digital Media

(1) Comments | Posted November 4, 2014 | 4:00 AM

Even though it is one of the key values of a democracy to vote, Election Day, this coming Tuesday, becomes a perilous situation when many of us have been so bombarded by manipulations, begging and warnings, that it is hard for some to know what might be their best decision....

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The Problem I Have With Religion: Going Beyond Bill Maher

(0) Comments | Posted October 9, 2014 | 5:56 PM

Up here in the clouds, on a plane from Denver (well, Fort Collins) to New York, there is no change in political atmosphere as of yet, although I did purchase The New York Times, and my husband handed me the Nicholas Kristof op-ed entitled "The Diversity of Islam,"...

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