iOS app Android app

Carol Smaldino
GET UPDATES FROM Carol Smaldino
 
Carol Smaldino, CSW, is a social work psychotherapist for over thirty years. She has relocated from the New York area to divide her time between Colorado and Italy. She still works with families, and does consultations in both locations and in New York as well. Her work is both deep and practical, though she admits that she'd "be nowhere without humor on tap". After wanting to save the world for a long time, she has "settled" for the more modest and partial processes of attending to emotional issues as being connected to our political states of distraction, coldness and fear. Her current project is a book coming out in April 2014 with Dignity Press, called "Feelings in the Raw: On Safer Ground with our Emotions". She well knows and learns over and again, that to work on mental health and social issues means attending to her own insides, shadows if you will.
Although she feels not always "grown up enough to be married" Carol is in fact married to Lino, whom she met in Italia ages and ages ago. She feels she has been married many times, albeit to the same man who has changed as well.
A staunch liberal she would like for more of us to value the part emotional depth and practice ( a kind of "feelings fitness") play in becoming more connected, empathic and effective. Carol lectures, or real converses, on subjects of bullying (from the inside out), the human climate, taking the power out of power (going from power struggles to relationships) and more. She loves to share and sometimes really can.

Entries by Carol Smaldino

What I Want to Be Thankful for on Thanksgiving: An Ode to Edward Snowden

(0) Comments | Posted November 25, 2014 | 12:42 PM

I am an idealist, and that probably won't change, despite my realistic and even skeptical leanings, and despite a downright pessimism at times about the way our political scenarios are going. I was depressed, or at least saddened when in high school I read Richard Hofstadter about the Presidents of...

Read Post

When You See Something Say Something: Tomas Young, and the Rest of Us

(3) Comments | Posted November 19, 2014 | 12:21 PM

Recently I gave a talk on a concept I have that I refer to as "the bully and the brain freeze." Some people who are very smart otherwise, can, when traumatized or vulnerable in particular areas, sort of freeze if someone accentuates the wounds, and provokes doubt as well. This...

Read Post

Take Viagra If You Can Afford It: The Necessary Comedy of Lewis Black

(2) Comments | Posted November 12, 2014 | 11:00 AM

Lewis Black, who performed last night in Fort Collins, didn't talk about Viagra. He did talk about another drug prescribed to help him quit smoking, for which he had to pay out of pocket. He was doing a very on target rant about insurance companies not caring about us very...

Read Post

How Can I Be Living in a Republican State?

(0) Comments | Posted November 5, 2014 | 11:42 AM

I want to move, hearing too soon (the polls aren't even closed, but we have gotten used to that) that Cory Gardner who is known to people like me for his positions of denying climate change, has won the race for Colorado Senator. Okay, inequality for women in terms of...

Read Post

Furthering the Conversation: Our Kids and Digital Media

(1) Comments | Posted November 4, 2014 | 5:00 AM

Even though it is one of the key values of a democracy to vote, Election Day, this coming Tuesday, becomes a perilous situation when many of us have been so bombarded by manipulations, begging and warnings, that it is hard for some to know what might be their best decision....

Read Post

The Problem I Have With Religion: Going Beyond Bill Maher

(0) Comments | Posted October 9, 2014 | 6:56 PM

Up here in the clouds, on a plane from Denver (well, Fort Collins) to New York, there is no change in political atmosphere as of yet, although I did purchase The New York Times, and my husband handed me the Nicholas Kristof op-ed entitled "The Diversity of Islam,"...

Read Post

Truth or Pravda

(1) Comments | Posted September 8, 2014 | 7:46 PM

The beach can be a wonderful place if it's vacation and if the sea is beautiful, soothing and invigorating. For me, the sea in Italy is a place to meet people of all ages, backgrounds and countries; in fact those who know me well in this context refer to me...

Read Post

Ideally, A Journalist...

(0) Comments | Posted September 4, 2014 | 9:03 AM

I woke up to the news of the ISIS beheading of an American, an American journalist, a freelance American journalist many of us have come to know at least through his mother's televised pleas for mercy for his life, as Steven J. Sotloff, 31-years-old. I tried to sleep again, as...

Read Post

The Cancer of Solitude

(1) Comments | Posted August 14, 2014 | 3:34 PM

I was sitting in an accountant's office in Italy this morning with Lino. Amelia is a very welcoming and warm person and she spoke to me about my cancer with a cheer I have become used to. I like her and didn't want to detach too soon so I attempted...

Read Post

I Feel Like I Lost a Friend

(2) Comments | Posted August 13, 2014 | 11:00 AM

Even before I read a statement by Susan Schneider asking the public not to dwell on the suicide but on the gifts given during his life, I was already pining, longing for the Robin Williams I had come over years and years to feel was a member of my world...

Read Post

Taking Cancer to Heart

(0) Comments | Posted July 7, 2014 | 11:03 AM

I don't have to be a mega linguist to realize that the root of courage has within it the French word for heart. Lately I've been struck by just how many people in my life have told me how strong I am, and how courageous as well. I haven't seen...

Read Post

A Baby Boomer's Liberal Guilt Regarding Edward Snowden

(0) Comments | Posted June 7, 2014 | 3:17 AM

In being an advocate of the Civil Rights movement in this country, in being an advocate of peace during the Vietnam War, there was a sense of rightness about it, perhaps one could even say righteousness. As we know our national political landscape got progressively (interesting word, yes?) more conservative,...

Read Post

Cancer Comedy

(0) Comments | Posted May 12, 2014 | 11:34 PM

I have cancer, which is not that funny. At all. Or, is it? Honesty can be funny when it's hard hitting, and hard hitting can feel necessary to get out of a funk of depression that, well, fuses in ways with political correctness. There is the wholistic doctor who asks...

Read Post

How I Chose the Title 'Bubby'

(0) Comments | Posted May 6, 2014 | 1:46 PM

For those of you who have followed my misadventures with breast cancer, you probably know that I'm confronting some mighty terrible moments, including fear, rushed visits to emergency rooms, side effects, the specter of a bi-lateral mastectomy and more. Plus as a self-diagnosed sensitive person (mind you I'm not embracing...

Read Post

"Just Breathe Into the Terror" -- Toward an Alternative Brand of Positve

(0) Comments | Posted April 22, 2014 | 2:44 AM

Something felt quite positive for me today. I walked into the oncology office to find a woman who seemed to be in her 70s with her bald head exposed. It wasn't just that, but her face looked naturally lively and as such pretty, vibrant, and I noticed her face much...

Read Post

When the Earth Goes Back to Being Flat

(3) Comments | Posted April 8, 2014 | 3:43 PM

Coming down with breast cancer is all too common these days, and it seems to be common knowledge that even with a decent to good prognosis, chemotherapy can be a brutal experience. With a decent to good prognosis, often comes the specter of the operation, lumpectomy, mastectomy, double or bilateral...

Read Post

Saying No to the Missionaries of Positive

(1) Comments | Posted February 25, 2014 | 3:25 PM

Dignity and honesty are frequently part and parcel of integrity, a positive value to be almost sure. So here's to making a case that during cancer treatments and diagnosis, as well as in so many other difficult conditions of life, it seems that we under-value honesty to our detriment. All...

Read Post

You Don't Have to Be Gay to Say: Thank You, Ellen Page

(0) Comments | Posted February 18, 2014 | 1:33 PM

This morning Emma showed me the YouTube of Ellen Page's speech in front of the LGBT youth conference where she spoke for some minutes before mentioning her own sexuality, her being gay -- and her own suffering from Hollywood stereotypes. Emma had cofounded the first LGBT organization in Port Washington,...

Read Post

A Gift of Grief: One Important Way of Loving for Valentine's Day

(5) Comments | Posted February 3, 2014 | 4:37 PM

Nobody wants cancer, at least that's what I'm thinking. Nobody wants it even if the doctors say it's curable, though, of course, it and every other condition life affords us becomes relative as we can't help but compare how it could be better, or much much worse. But oddly enough,...

Read Post

Arrested By Cancer

(8) Comments | Posted January 17, 2014 | 12:00 AM

Someone I know described his cancer as being mugged, but that's his metaphor. "Arrested" seems right for me, because it's a kind of stopping, being stopped in one's tracks, it's like "arrested" as in arrested development and it's like the cops came to say time is up, up for something,...

Read Post