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Caroline Choi
Caroline Y. Choi is an associate attorney at the firm of Solomon Ward Seidenwurm & Smith LLP. Ms. Choi also runs the website Divorce Confidential, helping individuals navigate through the murky waters of divorce towards happily ever after.

Ms. Choi serves as an advocate for children through Bridge of Hope San Diego, a non-profit organization dedicated to working with distressed families to help them through difficult transitions.

She is a member of the California State Bar and a member of the San Diego County Bar Association, Lawyers Club of San Diego, Pan Asian Lawyers of San Diego, and Secretary for the Korean American Bar Association of San Diego.

Entries by Caroline Choi

Divorce Confidential: Using Mental Health Professionals In Divorce

(0) Comments | Posted February 18, 2015 | 1:08 PM

When you and your ex-spouse choose collaborative divorce, you make a commitment to keep matters out of court and focus on problem-solving in a confidential, private setting. Collaborative divorce is beneficial in that you and your ex-spouse have access to an entire team of experts, including mental health professionals to...

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Divorce Confidential: Child Testimony in Divorce Proceedings

(0) Comments | Posted January 29, 2015 | 4:34 PM

In litigated custody battles, clients sometimes ask if their child can testify. This is undoubtedly tempting, especially if your child is saying he or she wants to spend more time with you than your ex-spouse. However tempting, there are a few things you need to consider before you and your...

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Divorce Confidential: Silver Linings in Divorce

(0) Comments | Posted January 9, 2015 | 12:25 PM

It's a new year and we can never predict what lies ahead, but there are definitely many adventures to be had for each and every one of you. If you're going through a divorce, there may be many challenges ahead, but regardless of the challenges, there is always a silver...

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Divorce Confidential: Holiday Preparations

(0) Comments | Posted December 15, 2014 | 6:51 PM

Holiday preparations are in full swing. The shopping malls are packed like a can of sardines and if you're like me, you're probably a little overwhelmed and stressed about getting the perfect gift for your loved ones. When you're going through a divorce, the holidays can be extra stressful. If...

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Divorce Confidential: Crafting a Creative Pet Parenting Plan

(1) Comments | Posted November 19, 2014 | 1:17 PM

Couples face many heated battles during the divorce process. One such battle may revolve around the division of the family pet. As I explained in my last post discussing pet custody, pets are not treated the same under the law, as a child. Due to this legal restriction,...

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Divorce Confidential: Tips for a Healthy Marriage

(1) Comments | Posted November 14, 2014 | 6:37 PM

As a divorce attorney, I find it amusing when friends and strangers pepper me with the same questions about divorce and relationships. First, do I believe in marriage or am I jaded because of my job? Second, do I have any tips on how to maintain a healthy marriage based...

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Divorce Confidential: The Case for Privacy in Divorce

(0) Comments | Posted November 8, 2014 | 1:42 PM

Privacy is almost a foreign concept these days, given that our culture is all about Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. The idea behind social media is to celebrate transparency, but sometimes we can get ourselves into trouble when our use of social media exposes matters that should be kept private, especially...

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Divorce Confidential: The Fight for Your Pet in Divorce

(4) Comments | Posted September 24, 2014 | 11:35 AM

Earlier this week I was standing in the lobby of my apartment building and witnessed for the first time, a pet custody exchange between two ex-spouses. At the center of the exchange was an adorable chocolate Labrador. The exchange was peaceful, with one ex-spouse handing over the dog to his...

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Divorce Confidential: Do Grandparents Have Rights in Divorce?

(0) Comments | Posted September 9, 2014 | 12:22 PM

It's no secret that divorce can be messy at times, especially for those directly involved in the process. Many times, divorce can have major ramifications upon other significant relationships such as the relationship between grandparents and grandchild. In certain unfortunate circumstances, a parent may decide to cut off any relationship...

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Divorce Confidential: Potential Risks When Litigating Move-Aways in Divorce

(0) Comments | Posted September 3, 2014 | 4:53 PM

For my last installment in this three-part move-away series, I am going to explore the potential risks that you may face when you decide to litigate a move-away motion in court. As a family law attorney, it is my position that the better option is to try and problem solve...

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Divorce Confidential: Your Legal Rights to Relocate Your Child

(1) Comments | Posted August 20, 2014 | 2:21 PM

In my previous post, I discussed the importance of a well thought-out plan before you decide to move your child away to another city or state. While it may be tempting to romanticize the idea of a fresh start, it is important to refrain from jumping the gun and instead...

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Divorce Confidential: Considerations Before Relocating Your Children

(1) Comments | Posted June 4, 2014 | 6:58 PM

In the heat of your divorce, have you thought about possibly moving your children to another city, state or even country? Moving away may seem like a fabulous idea because maybe you are getting remarried and your new husband lives in another city. Or maybe you are involved in a...

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Divorce Confidential: Preparing for Child Custody Mediation

(2) Comments | Posted May 22, 2014 | 4:22 PM

One of the ugly realities of divorce is that you and your spouse have to divide your time with your children. Instead of the luxury of having your children in one home at all times, shuttling your children back and forth between two households is now a new reality. This...

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Divorce Confidential: Tips for Successful and Healthy Co-Parenting

(2) Comments | Posted May 9, 2014 | 1:20 PM

A client recently expressed her frustration over co-parenting with her ex-spouse. Managing summers, choosing extra-curricular activities and figuring out the best food to feed your children are just a few issues that can become an uphill battle for many parents in a divorce. For the lucky ones, co-parenting may come...

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Divorce Confidential: The Importance of Being Financially Savvy During Divorce

(0) Comments | Posted April 18, 2014 | 5:59 PM

One of the main issues that couples battle over in a divorce is money. It really is no surprise since money is at the center of many of the litigated issues in a divorce such a child support, spousal support and the division of assets and debts. As a family...

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Divorce Confidential: Managing Your Emotions During A Divorce

(0) Comments | Posted March 13, 2014 | 12:21 PM

Anger, sadness, guilt, anxiety, grief and loss are just some of the various emotions that you may be experiencing as a result of your divorce. Due to this vortex of emotions, it's not uncommon for you to act and behave in a way never imagined, nor should you beat yourself...

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Divorce Confidential: Coping With an Impossible Spouse During and After Divorce

(1) Comments | Posted February 13, 2014 | 12:32 PM

Divorce is already a traumatic experience for most individuals and their families. Dealing with a toxic spouse who has it out for you makes the divorce process even worse by dragging out issues that could easily be resolved with compromise and agreements outside of the courtroom. If you and your...

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Unpacking Prenuptial Agreements

(1) Comments | Posted January 31, 2014 | 4:40 PM

For many of you, the first thing that comes to mind when you think of a prenuptial agreement is "gold digger." (Remember Kanye West's 2005 hit song "Gold Digger"?)

Yes, prenuptial agreements may protect you from the wiry claws of a gold digger (gender neutral, of course)....

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Divorce Confidential: When Divorce Is a Bad Idea

(0) Comments | Posted December 18, 2013 | 6:24 PM

In a web story that has gone viral, it was allegedly reported that a Chinese man sued his wife for "false pretenses" after she gave birth to children that he believed were "ugly" and not possibly his children. According to the story, this man was dismayed to find...

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Divorce Confidential: Asking the Right Questions in a Divorce

(11) Comments | Posted December 4, 2013 | 12:14 PM

In a divorce, there are a million concerns that are swirling around in your head as you embark on this daunting and overwhelming process. One of the ways to ease your concerns is to be educated about the divorce process, and this requires you to ask the right questions before...

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