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Cate Pane
Cate Pane is an educator, writer and blogger at

Entries by Cate Pane

Better Than an Acceptance to Harvard

(6) Comments | Posted May 29, 2015 | 12:57 PM

The din of the coffeehouse diminished into the background as my dear friend whispered the words that described her reason for immense joy.

"My daughter went out to dinner with us last week for the first time in a year.

She actually sat in a restaurant for an hour and...

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My 10 Commandments of Screen Time and Technology Use

(0) Comments | Posted April 7, 2014 | 1:05 PM

Since it's Lent and all, I decided it was an appropriate time to examine my screen time conscience. In doing so, I evaluated the use of my iPhone and laptop.

To conduct a proper self-assessment, I pulled out our family guidelines, also known as our:

Ten Commandments of...
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You're Just Not Good Enough for College!

(1) Comments | Posted February 18, 2014 | 3:37 PM

Yesterday, as my son and I sat in yet another college information session, that familiar phrase rang in my ears: "We care about your grades and your test scores, but we REALLY want to hear about the activities that distinguish you from other applicants."

So, again, I am thinking that...

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I Was Raised By My Teenage Son

(0) Comments | Posted February 5, 2014 | 5:14 PM

Panic-stricken that the water rushing down my legs would ruin the upholstery of his company car, my husband covered the seat of his sedan with an enormous, brown, plastic garbage bag. Experiencing frequent contractions and piercing pain, I lacked the energy to express my anger toward him for worrying more...

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I am NOT a Helicopter Parent!

(5) Comments | Posted January 28, 2014 | 4:52 PM

Dear Childless Teacher,

First of all, please accept my gratitude for the countless hours you spend planning lessons, teaching, grading papers and attending meetings.

Secondly, this letter is by no means meant to criticize you for choosing not to have children or being young and not ready to start...

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I Guess I Never Really Wanted to Become a Doctor

(1) Comments | Posted January 14, 2014 | 12:49 PM

The tall, brunette 20-something stood up in the middle of the crowded audience and reluctantly approached the microphone. She began to chronicle the seemingly never-ending hours spent studying and interning and working in residency. It had been a long and arduous process to become a physician.

Then, she was asked...

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Life-Giving Parenting

(0) Comments | Posted January 6, 2014 | 10:13 AM

My husband, Frank, has quite a wise way of measuring his words and actions. He frequently queries himself: "Is this "life-giving?" If the conversation or activity doesn't measure up to his litmus test of creating or supporting life, he will do his best to hold his tongue or prevent his...

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A Christmas Tail: Rescuing the True Meaning of the Season

(2) Comments | Posted December 20, 2013 | 8:59 AM


I pulled into the Target parking lot, stopped the car and rolled down the windows just a wee bit. My legs were stiff from driving for hours and hours without stopping. Walking briskly into the store, I headed straight to the...

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Dear President Obama: Payment Due Upon Receipt, Application Now Complete

(1) Comments | Posted December 6, 2013 | 12:49 PM

Dear President Obama,

As author of "The Clear Parent" Blog, it is typically not my practice to write political posts. However, the following invoice chronicles the time spent away from my search for "clear parenting" while dealing with shopping for individual family health insurance. Our policy was cancelled in October...

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Letter From a Toddler: 'Dear Santa: Ho, Ho, NO!'

(0) Comments | Posted November 26, 2013 | 7:55 PM

Dear Santa,

Grandma helped me write this letter to you. I am two fingers-old, so I haven't learned how to do letters yet. Please don't bring the toys MY PARENTS WANT for me. Bring me the list of things I WANT, instead!

Mommy and Daddy want you to bring me...

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Why Do We Push Our Babies?

(0) Comments | Posted November 12, 2013 | 11:11 AM

Four moms with our 3- and 4-month-old babies, we sat on a big beautiful blanket in a local park on a delightful, spring morning. One mother began to demonstrate how her charming little cherub had already mastered "objective permanence." Object permanence is achieved when babies know that objects...

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Why I Don't Read Digital Books to My Kids

(2) Comments | Posted November 5, 2013 | 11:18 AM

I miss the stack of books on my nightstand.

Now, don't get me wrong; I love my Kindle. For a person with a great love of a good read and lack of impulse control, the world of "one-click" digital books is an ardent bibliophile's paradise.

Nevertheless, I miss actually turning...

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