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The following is an excerpt from The 50th Law, adapted for HuffPost.

Every negative situation contains the possibility for something positive, an opportunity. It is how you look at it that matters. Your lack of resources can be an advantage, forcing you to be more inventive with the little that you have. Losing a battle can allow you to frame yourself as the sympathetic underdog. Do not let fears make you wait for a better moment or become conservative. If there are circumstances you cannot control, make the best of them. It is the ultimate alchemy to transform all such negatives into advantages and power.

Events in life are not negative or positive. They are completely neutral. The universe does not care about your fate; it is indifferent to the violence that may hit you or to death itself. Things merely happen to you. It is your mind that chooses to interpret them as negative or positive. And because you have layers of fear that dwell deep within you, your natural tendency is to interpret temporary obstacles in your path as something larger--setbacks and crises.

In such a mind-frame, you exaggerate the dangers. If someone attacks and harms you in some way, you focus on the money or position you have lost in the battle, the negative publicity, or the harsh emotions that have been churned up. This causes you to grow cautious, to retreat, hoping to spare yourself more of these negative things. It is a time, you tell yourself, to lay low and wait for things to get better; you need calmness and security.

What you do not realize is that you are inadvertently making the situation worse. Your rival only gets stronger as you sit back; the negative publicity becomes firmly associated with you. Being conservative turns into a habit that carries over into less difficult moments. It becomes harder and harder to move to the offensive.

In essence you have chosen to cast life's inevitable twists of fortune as hardships, giving them a weight and endurance they do not deserve.

What you need to do is to take the opposite approach. Instead of becoming discouraged and depressed by any kind of downturn, you must see this as a wake- up call, a challenge that you will transform into an opportunity for power. Your energy levels rise. You move to the attack, surprising your enemies with boldness. You care less what people think about you and this paradoxically causes them to admire you--the negative publicity is turned around. You do not wait for things to get better--you seize this chance to prove yourself. Mentally framing a negative event as a blessing in disguise makes it easier for you to move forward. It is a kind of mental alchemy, transforming shit into sugar.

Understand: We live in a society of relative prosperity, but in many ways this turns out to be a detriment to our spirit. We come to feel that we naturally deserve good things, that we have certain privileges due to us. When setbacks occur, it is almost a personal affront or punishment. "How could this have happened?" we ask. We either blame other people or we blame ourselves. In both cases, we lose valuable time and become unnecessarily emotional. In places like the hood or in any kind of materially impoverished environment, the response to hardship is much different. There, bad things happening assume a kind of normality. They are part of daily life. The hustler thinks: "I must make the most of what I have, even the bad stuff, because things are not going to get better on their own. It is foolish to wait; tomorrow may bring even worse shit."

This hustler mindset is more realistic and effective. The truth is that life is by nature harsh and competitive. No matter how much money or resources you have accumulated, someone will try to take them from you, or unexpected changes in the world will push you backward. These are not adverse circumstances but merely life as it is. You have no time to lose to fear and depression, and you do not have the luxury of waiting.

 
 
 
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William50
04:43 PM on 11/20/2009
Today, we read that there are millions of Americans out of work, under employed or have just given up looking for work. We listen to the feds and media say that if we just wait things will get better, yep, just a few years and their will be a chicken in every pot and a nickel cigar on the mantle.
What if those who are unemployed, employed, under employed and stopped looking said we can do better ourselves. (silver lining,) What if they said they would be willing to give ten dollars a month not to the needed but into a private fund that then made money available to create jobs, work and a re-birth of America. What if, as you sat drinking a cup of coffee you talked to a man who was interested in starting a business, a business that turned out an item every American used, but could not because the feds and banks turned him down, and what if because Americans believed in America he could summit the proposal to a group to review it and fund him.
What if instead if saying give me money, jobs and a future Americans started to invest in their own future.
What if next year you had a choice of made in the USA and made in China...putting Americans back to work or keeping the Chinese government happy...What if.....
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05:46 PM on 11/20/2009
where is your revenue engine

where are your raw materials to exploit transfering capital to wealth

where is the forward thinking...
milking popular sentiment and calling it novel is at least two fold wrong: it is exactly the model that media uses to distract from the constant contexting that prevents contientious obsevation and that being the case puts you on a platform where you can not compete (barring pirate transmission) with others agendas who occupy the same space in the conscious of the recipiant namely their dependance on convienent consumption.
11:48 AM on 11/20/2009
Every person who steals from you or craps on you has, in some form, someone stealing from and crapping on them. Every person you steal from or crap on will, in some form, steal from and crap on someone else. Sure, by the laws of statistics there is a least crapped on person and a most crapped on person, but statistically we the public all sit pretty close to the meridian. It's called life.
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Nelson Montana
Artist, Author, Composer
11:22 AM on 11/20/2009
This type of thinking could put some so called "activists" out of business.
11:55 AM on 11/20/2009
Why? It should embolden them
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Stockbroker38
Where the ladies at?
11:13 AM on 11/20/2009
The would be great as one of those Onion columns, with a headline completely unrelated to the body.
09:31 AM on 11/20/2009
We are trying to create a supportive, non dog-eat-dog society. I agree with creating a positive spin on obstacles and misfortunes and moving on, but I do not agree with aggression to others. Where do you draw the line?
12:05 PM on 11/20/2009
I dont think there can ever be a non dog-eat-dog society. Even in socialist societies, some always end up more equal than others.
The closest we can come to equality is with capitalism. Not corporatism which is the situation at the moment here in the US. The problem with bigger government is that power always corrupts. As governments take control of more and more of society, the people pulling the levers (the politicians), use that power to benefit themselves and the interest of their donors and friends in big business, and there is less and less the common people can do about it.
12:47 PM on 11/20/2009
Capitalism does not lead to equality. In a capitalist system, money is power, and there is no check on the power that it wields. Those with money make the decisions, and tilt the playing field more to their advantage even than their wealth does alone. Capitalism leads to the consolidation of wealth as each dollar (or million) earned makes it easier to earn more. Wealth begets wealth, and everyone else gets poorer as a result. That's the opposite of equality.
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vippy
Carpe Diem!
09:11 AM on 11/20/2009
It is a natural course to "progress" otherwise we would still be Neanderthalers! I can't fathom why our politicians work only for their own pocket when they are in charge of their district they represent.
Now would it not be natural to make it the best, to move forward, to take pride in accomplishments!
But I guess that is not the case. It would make so much more sense if we actually would be the country we are trying to project to other countries!
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Dredd
Our government is a wartocracy.
08:30 AM on 11/20/2009
Ok, but in the meantime don't turn BS into words. The problems we face are so stark when compared to our ability to deal globally, the sugar might as well be poison.

http://blogdredd.blogspot.com/2009/11/holy-status-quo-badman-neoorleans.html
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dadw5boys
Disabled Vietnam Vet
09:59 AM on 11/20/2009
We are surrounded by those who would own the natural resourses in efforts to create shortages and call it capitalism.

We have lose those who have vision as they dumb down education with religion, sports, and mindnumbing repetition of teaching to the test.

Americans need workshop in their homes again. They stopped building them into homes in the 1950's becuase consumerism was to become the American way of life.
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03:43 AM on 11/20/2009
what about the power structure that permiates through the history of ripe empire. those that can realize your fears and hang the phobia out for consumption. Things like wars, typecasting, malfeasance, coruption and impotence ensure that the begining of reconciliation starts with having a system of accountability and responsibility in place. look at the senate, about five hundred people (thats 1/40th of a sold out basketball arena; thats two times the number of students in the graduating class of a private school; thats mabey enough to have pall bearers for all the black males that di ed at the hands of p olice in cinncinati) not only to act as a check on the executive and judicial branches but also being a pillar of government having the fortitude to create legislation for a country that has seen the advent of manifest destiny to a man on the moon and beyond. you can tell from the hereditary succession in many cases that hoarding of access and privelage is occuring, but whats more is mainstream inclination (mostly from media concumption) do not negate or engage this discrepancy. And so it goes that the intentions of a few millionaries trumps the novelty of our constitution and its notions.
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Social Construct
Go left, young man.
09:22 AM on 11/20/2009
That's pretty much what I was alluding to (I think. Forgive me, but I have difficulty deciphering your word structures.). Government and social structures should be, and I'm not saying that they always are, an avenue of alleviation to the suffering that much individualist, at least a great deal of contemporary conservative American individualistic thought, implies. I guess I'm hinting that Mr. Jackson's view reminds me of that of the conservative movement; one of which I disagree with on many fronts.
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11:37 AM on 11/20/2009
what do you think contemporary conservative thought has kept from post modern conservative thought or rather what are youre definitions of conservative thought?

and I think government is an noun and like most nouns has a definition which gives it some utility. what the definition of the United States government is is up for grabs, but whatever it is now, it is not an alleviation for much other than those who have been singled out as inheritance and claimworthy recipiants of the power structure in which entitlement (and the preception of it) negotiate the copious system of rewards and the undeniable system of punishments.
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Social Construct
Go left, young man.
10:15 PM on 11/19/2009
In other words, "Life is nasty, brutish and short?" Really? People form societies and governments in order to repel that Hobbes-ian notion of the brutish "survival of the fittest" world view. Although I do agree about utilizing whatever resources one possesses in order to pursue happiness, as our founders thought we had the right to, I disagree with Mr. Jackson's reality. Read Locke, Dickens and a host of others that envision and define the roles of societies, governments and individuals in a much more benevolent manner.
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02:32 AM on 11/20/2009
why not read james weldon johnson, you are critical of the "vehicle" Mr. curtis johnson uses to impart his priciple but in your criticizm miss the transmission; the engendered introspection that mandates an indoctrinization of actualization via sincereity of implication and of inference that only a witness to culpability can testify to. he does though, over simplify a little digressing from convienience and conformity culture to the parable of the reluctant antagonist.
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kobrock1
Clever only seems easy
04:28 AM on 11/20/2009
Poignant and succinct, Cornel.
12:25 PM on 11/20/2009
Even with those governments, a utopian society is a fantasy. In fact, i think that government intervention often makes things worse not better. Theres a saying about power corrupts absolutely. As government becomes more powerful, it attracts those who want to further their own interests (big business campaign donors) or those who want power over people (ie the religious right). Eventually these social programs end up serving the wealthy at the expense of the common person.
07:40 PM on 11/19/2009
How long does it take people to figure this out? And does one actually need to spend $20 on a book to tell them that? "It is neither good nor bad but thinking makes it so." A very long time ago some guy named Shakespeare wrote that.
11:15 PM on 11/19/2009
And about 3-1/2 millennia before him, it was expressed in the I Ching.

Thinking this way is great to keep your thoughts straight.
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nolabels
06:43 PM on 11/19/2009
Another good update. I am almost sold on the book.
06:14 PM on 11/19/2009
You've been reading the big book. Very good. Thank you for your supportive insights.