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Charlie Maffei

Charlie the Matchmaker is a professional matchmaker for men and women from all walks of life. You can find examples of Charlie's advice in his latest love and relationship book "Love Made Easy with CharlieTheMatchmaker" available at

With his reasonable membership fees and reputation for personalized one-on-one service, men and women, straight and gay, are flocking to Charlie for guidance in finding love. Charlie prides himself on one-on-one contact with every single client and works personally with him or her to help find a perfect match.

Having been in a relationship with his husband of 21 years has given Charlie the knowledge of not only how to find the perfect match but, just as importantly, how to keep it. Many of his past clients actually turn to Charlie for ongoing relationship advice.

Visit to find out more about Charlie. If you are interested in getting into his matchmaking database or have any questions regarding services, do not hesitate to email him directly at, or follow him on Twitter @CMatchmaker to get updates on the many different events he hosts throughout the month at different locations throughout NYC. You can also like Charlie the Matchmaker on Facebook at

Entries by Charlie Maffei

Desperately Seeking Love

(8) Comments | Posted August 9, 2013 | 6:48 PM

To all of you out there who are desperately looking for love, I have one thing to say: Simply stop being desperate. Trust me: Other single people can smell desperation a mile away, and to them it is a huge red flag. I know this may be hard to do...

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Getting Past Perfection

(18) Comments | Posted July 26, 2013 | 3:50 PM

A client of mine told me the most amazing thing. He said, "I know I am not perfect, but I know that I am perfect for someone." To this I say, "Amen!"

Too many times in my matchmaking business I meet people who are not only striving for...

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Live in the NOW This Summer

(0) Comments | Posted July 8, 2013 | 12:51 PM

For many people, summertime is no longer a time of care free fun. Gone are the days of taking time off to relax and recharge. These days, I hear more and more people saying "I am so busy that I can't take any time off." I am guilty of this...

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Pick Up the Phone!

(2) Comments | Posted June 24, 2013 | 7:46 PM

This summer, I am taking it upon myself to assist people in exploring ways to communicate. This is going to be much easier than you might imagine. I have something to tell each and every one of you: That invention that you use to type text messages can also be...

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Spring Into Action

(0) Comments | Posted March 27, 2013 | 9:00 AM

Spring is here, and love is in the air! Can you feel it? There is still a chill in the air, but each day is getting warmer and longer.

Spring is a time for rebirth. Everything in nature starts to grow and bloom. For each and every one of...

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What Time Is It

(7) Comments | Posted March 11, 2013 | 7:00 PM

Without looking at a clock, ask yourself right now "What time is it?" Now ask yourself "Where am I supposed to be?" Are you supposed to be across town for a meeting or date in half an hour? Are you supposed to be dressed and ready to meet friends in...

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Valentine's Day Is Just Another Day

(0) Comments | Posted February 12, 2013 | 2:00 PM

Valentine's Day is here! Being a matchmaker, I may get flack for saying this, but I am here to tell you that Valentine's Day is just another day!

My phone has been ringing off the hook with single people frantically looking for a date for Valentine's Day. My advice to...

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Want to Find That Special Someone? Find Your Joy

(0) Comments | Posted January 29, 2013 | 6:04 PM

Many people ask me, "How do I find someone to love?" My answer is quite simple: Find what makes you happy, and do it! When you are doing something that brings you joy, you will find that you are surrounded by people who share your interests.

When someone chooses me...

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Making Your List and Checking It Twice

(1) Comments | Posted November 27, 2012 | 9:39 PM

It's that time of year again. Everyone, including Jolly Old Saint Nick, is making their lists and checking them twice. Instead of asking whether you were naughty or nice, my question to you is this: How is your list working for you?

More and more lately, I have found that...

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Two Little Words

(1) Comments | Posted November 15, 2012 | 1:15 PM

The last few weeks have created many challenges for many people. My heart goes out to all those affected by Hurricane Sandy and the following nor'easter. What has warmed my heart is seeing the outpouring of good will that has occurred in the wake of these tragedies. I have witnessed...

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Put Your Big-Girl/Big-Boy Panties On!

(5) Comments | Posted October 24, 2012 | 5:37 PM

A straight friend of mine recently came to me for advice. She was encountering something that happens to my gay and straight friends alike. She had been dating a guy for several months, and everything was going great, but she didn't really know where she stood in his life. When...

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What to Do and What Not to Do to Get Date Number 2

(3) Comments | Posted October 1, 2012 | 10:58 AM

One of my clients told me recently that she went out on a date and it didn't go so well. Her date was nice and polite, but she simply didn't feel a "spark" She was not feeling it with him. Guess what? They are still dating. Want to know why?...

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Make Love a Priority in Your Life Today

(0) Comments | Posted September 19, 2012 | 1:53 PM

Every year, September is one of the busiest months in my matchmaking business. Why? Because so many single ladies and gents take the summer off from life and let loose. What amazes me is that so many of these people only decide to get serious about dating after...

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Communication, Communication, Communication!

(1) Comments | Posted August 29, 2012 | 7:05 PM

I have said it before, and I will say it again: Communication is the most important part of any relationship. And I mean communication right from the start!

When someone emails, texts, or phones you, they reaching out to you to communicate with you. This means that they are expecting...

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Finding Happiness

(1) Comments | Posted July 31, 2012 | 2:44 PM

I recently heard an interview in which Don Henley, the lead singer of the Eagles, stated that all of the Eagles hit songs were written about finding "IT." It being...happiness, love or success. It made me realize that that is what all of us are looking for. We are simply...

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You Can Catch More Flies With Honey

(0) Comments | Posted July 17, 2012 | 2:18 PM

Many of you have probably heard of the old adage, "You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar." This was one of the first rules of life that my mother taught me, and you'd better believe I have perfected it. I learned at a very young age that life...

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Find Pride in Yourself

(0) Comments | Posted June 28, 2012 | 1:41 PM


Happy Gay Pride 2012! The last Sunday of June was a beautiful day and a wonderful experience that I will cherish forever. This year I had the pleasure of riding in the NYC Pride Parade as CharlieTheMatchmaker. While I propped myself up...

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Looking for Gay Marriage and Kids in NYC?

(2) Comments | Posted June 21, 2012 | 12:12 PM

I have news for those of you in the LGBT community who live in New York City and are looking for a "traditional" relationship in which you want to settle down, get married, and raise children together. According to the online dating site, New York City didn't even make...

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Mistakes in Choosing Mr./Ms. Right

(4) Comments | Posted May 31, 2012 | 6:46 PM

I don't believe in mistakes. Mistakes make us who we are. I believe that we should all learn from our mistakes and better ourselves.

In my matchmaking business I come across people every day that are stuck in a rut because they do not realize the mistakes...

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(2) Comments | Posted May 23, 2012 | 3:37 PM

2012-05-21-changelsmall.jpgI heard the greatest statement today: "Courage is an angel that makes the difference between a good life and a great life." This is brilliant. This is exactly what I explain to my clients in my matchmaking business.

For all my...

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