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Chez Pazienza

Posted: November 13, 2009 05:12 PM

The Ugly Truth

What's Your Reaction?

I'm going to try to get this over with as quickly as possible, mostly because I've done my best to avoid writing about either of these people for a long time and so far have been mercifully successful.

The whole Controversy over Sharon Osbourne calling Susan Boyle a "hairy arsehole" who looks like she's been beaten with an "ugly stick" is completely ridiculous.

Thursday, in a move that had been predestined since about three seconds after the offending comment, Osbourne apologized to Boyle -- and by proxy everyone else on the planet, all of whom had taken it upon themselves to demand repentance -- for being so callous and insensitive during an appearance on The Opie and Anthony Show on Sirius XM (a radio show that's raised callous-and-insensitive to an art form). In the week since Osbourne made the on-air crack, you honestly would've thought that she'd driven her Bentley to Susan Boyle's house and taken a crap on her front lawn; the amount of contrived outrage from both the slavish celebrity media and the lifeless dolts who eat that kind of nonsense up has been hilariously deafening.

It really should go without saying, first and foremost, that Opie and Anthony do a comedy show; if you've never listened to it, trust me when I tell you that somebody calling somebody else a hairy asshole is probably the least offensive thing you'll hear on that show on any given day. The fact that people can't take a joke, a rude one, sure, but still a joke -- and most poignantly, one that wasn't really aimed at their tender ears in the first place and was only brought to their attention by a mass media machine that makes its living off of those who are constantly on the lookout for something to be outraged over -- is as hell of a lot more offensive in my mind than the joke itself.

But beyond that, the outpouring of indignation -- the shock and anger over a comment from a woman who's not exactly known for being classy or tactful, directed at a supposedly defenseless wallflower -- isn't just absurd, it's disingenuous. The reality is that Susan Boyle is unattractive. She's really unattractive. And guess what? The event that catapulted her to stardom in the first place capitalized on the fact that just about anyone who sees her believes this. When Susan Boyle stepped out onto the stage on Britain's Got Talent, you were supposed to think that she was an ugly, overweight frump who was doomed to embarrass herself in spectacular fashion the minute she opened her mouth. For God's sake, they practically played the Baby Elephant Walk from Hatari as her intro music. That moment, which became a cultural phenomenon, was all about the juxtaposition of her very impressive voice with her anything-but-impressive looks; the show's producers engineered it to shame the audience they knew would make an instant assumption: that somebody who looked like that couldn't possibly be talented -- not somebody that ugly.

People don't respond well to being forced to face the rottenest parts of their character -- like, say, the part that snickered when it first saw dowdy, awkward Susan Boyle and heard that she had dreams of being a successful singer -- and they usually respond by overcompensating in the opposite direction. Hence, you get thousands of people commenting on celebrity news websites or penning impassioned diatribes calling Sharon Osbourne "the one who's TRULY ugly" and making the obligatory knee-jerk demand that she be fired (from what exactly? Britain's Got Talent? America's Got Talent? Her job as Ozzy's manager?). Or how about this -- to really prove to themselves that they're good people, enlightened beings above petty prejudices, 68% percent of those who took part in a poll earlier this week by Access Hollywood engaged in the pop culture equivalent of voting for the mentally disabled kid for prom king: They proudly declared that when compared with Sharon Osbourne, Susan Boyle had more "sex appeal."

Think about that for a minute.

68% of those who watch Access Hollywood -- a show hosted by a couple of living Barbie and Ken dolls with hardly a brain cell between them, a show that traffics in gossip about the lives of the most gorgeous people in the world -- believe that Susan Boyle has much more sex appeal than Sharon Osbourne.

Right.

What does that poll really tell us? It tells us that it's not even that so many in this country can't take a joke, it's that so many would rather lie, even to themselves, than admit that they're nowhere near as evolved as they pretend to be. That although she may have been crude about it, Sharon Osbourne wasn't saying anything millions of people weren't already thinking.

 

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Jazzineva
07:25 AM on 11/27/2009
Susan Boyle is one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen or experienced through listening to her singing. Millions of fans are not lying to themselves in the least for being attracted to her because to them, she is truly attractive in how she's transformed how she looks and remained pure and natural inside through how she gives. Those of you who are incapable of seeing that are the ones with a real problem.
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saami
Cranky old lady
04:49 PM on 11/16/2009
But she can sing! Ella Fitzgerald was not a beautiful woman on the outside but she was a goddess of song and lovely on the inside.
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ccoppe
Obama Biden 2012
07:27 AM on 11/16/2009
"The Divine" Miss Sarah Vaughn was not a physically attractive woman, either. Nobody cared because she was such a wonderful singer. However, I strongly suspect had she been a contestant on America's Got Talent, Sharon Osbourne would make her the object of "hairy arse" jokes.

I understand the superficiality of men regarding a woman's appearance. They are biologically hard-wired to respond that way -- unless trained to restrain blurting their hurtful first impression by good parents.

However, I don't get Sharon. Not only is she a woman who most certainly has experienced
negative comments about her appearance (she was quite obese at one time), she is also the mother of a daughter who has battled a very fragile self-image. Her statement was the very callous and cruel act of a woman who should have deep empathy for another woman's struggle for confidence and self-acceptance.
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TheBaffler
a long the riverrun
10:20 AM on 11/16/2009
Huh? Vaughan was quite attractive; certainly more so than Holiday and Fitzgerald. Probably the three greatest singers of all time.
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TheBaffler
a long the riverrun
03:25 PM on 11/16/2009
A pic of the Divine One:

http://www.asstr.org/~Bradley_Stoke/images/SarahVaughanBeauty.jpg

Beautiful!
02:05 AM on 11/17/2009
you lose me on the biological wiring, I think that is something we've been sold a bill of goods on, but I agree on the Sharon comments.
12:26 AM on 11/16/2009
Well, I missed Sharon Osborne's comment.

What has struck me about Susan Boyle is not that she's an amazing singer: She's not. She is just much better than people expected her to be when she stepped onto the stage looking the way she does.

She's pretty good. Better than a lot of people. But not as great as she is being made out to be.

I think people should be given credit where credit is due, but not overcompensated.

And, as my mom always said, calling someone a name doesn't make them look bad. It makes you look bad. Even as a joke.
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kathy001
Don't bogart that duck
04:28 PM on 11/15/2009
Oy, Chez. As evidenced by most of the comments here, I fear you just shot yourself in the foot with your focus on Boyle's looks. Your comment on the media manufactured outrage is the real story. The fact that people are looking so hard for something to have a hissy-fit over that they jump on every comment taken out of context and blow it up to apocalyptic proportions. Something I hope doesn't happen to you over this article.
03:27 PM on 11/15/2009
So she is unattractive? And saying that is speaking the "truth"? Despite the fact that it was the media who wanted us saying and feeling that she is unattractive (which was the whole point of showing her the way they did in her very first appearance on screen, highlighting the gap between her looks and her voice, for cheap sensationalism)? Since when do staged performances reveal "the truth"?

And, last of my questions: can't you imagine someone to whom someone else's appearance appears to be "beautiful", no matter how they "look"? Seems to happen a lot with people in love.... Just asking.
01:51 PM on 11/15/2009
It's not okay what Osbourne said, but I appreciate Pazienza's dig at the over-the-top, righteous indignation the celebrity obsessed media is spewing all over the place, as though they themselves are not vapid, shallow, and superficial. He nails it regarding the cartoonish depiction the show gave Boyle from the first minute we saw her on screen, down to the lame, condescending music they cued as she made her way to the stage. Kind hearted people who don't think you should call others "ugly" are not the culprits deserving this critique; it's the people who have blown this into some big scandal, while ignoring the sick, looks-obsessed entertainment culture that made her into some huge story because she was unattractive by most people's standards, but low and behold, could sing. On a side note, Osbourne, being famous for who she married and starring in a reality show should really keep her head down and refrain from criticizing others who are also enjoying their 15 minutes.
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PatA
Pink is a 4 letter word
01:39 PM on 11/15/2009
Whatever your name is, Chez?, you can't speak for me and my response when Ms. Boyle walked out on the stage! Don't even try going there.
I was watching Ms. Boyle's facial expressions and thinking how sweet she looked. And I cheered her on. I knew that it had been set up by the producers, especially after Simon "winced" when he saw her. What'shisname rolled his eyes. At that moment I knew 1. It was a setup 2. She was going to knock our socks off!
I wish her all of the success she so richly deserves. I wonder if eventually Ms. Boyle will be able to buy and sell Mr. Chez?
I think so! You go, woman, you go!
02:40 PM on 11/15/2009
Yes... please go.
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slvrfox857
questionevrthing.blogspot.com
10:05 AM on 11/15/2009
I was one of those who was offended by Sharon Osborne's remarks. To say that Susan Boyle is not attractive is irrelevant. To say she looks like a "hairy arsehole" is unnecessarily harsh. The big problem that I have with the remarks is that they came from someone who was attractive herself-until she decided to have her face frozen. I do understand why Sharon believes she must do this. She is not famous for anything except saving an impossibly damaged drug addict who makes gazillions of dollars from music career of the late 70s and nostalgia tours. As a result, since she has nothing else to offer, she must keep her looks. I think the same thing is true of Cher and Joan Rivers. Their careers are really in the past. Joan doesn't want to go to the Catskills like all the other Jewish comics of the 50s and 60s, and she believes if she keeps having plastic surgery and just getting meaner by the minute, people will continue to love her. Cher's best days as a singer are behind her-her music is no longer relevant. But if she looks like the beautiful 24 year old she was when she made it big, maybe people will remember her that way. Problem is, she doesn't look like that. All of them look like freaks. At least Susan Boyle came by her unusual looks naturally-she never paid someone to do it for her.
07:56 AM on 11/15/2009
I've been unlucky enough to see some of these frozen faced hollywood ladies that all the tabloids write articles about. The kind of articles that act surprised that they look so wonderful for their age, and are aging gracefully. Trust me, in person they are rubber faced monsters who look like it takes effort to move their jaws since their faces are so paralyzed. The ONLY reason people aren't regularly chasing them out of town with burning torches as invading creatures from some form of hell is that they live in Hollywood where many people have had all the same surgeries so people there are scewed enough to think that they don't look so bad. Susan Boyle looks like the person who waited on your in Denny's when your family was driving on vacation, the one who called you "Hon" and brought your mother the extra crackers and a few apples when she heard you still had a few hours to dive. An everyday person.....Sharon Osbourne has been stitched, tucked, botoxed, dyed, made up, and stiched again. While worrying about her appearance so much she seemed to miss the fact that she raised two kids who had to go to rehab. Perhaps if Sharon was less concerned with appearances she would have had more time to watch over her kids.
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respectingothers
02:23 PM on 11/15/2009
ouch! I was with ya until you blamed her progeny's rehab on her preoccupation with herself. there may well be some connection there but that's way too smug of a criticism from someone spouting authenticity
02:55 PM on 11/16/2009
If you watched the show "The Osbournes", the assistants were telling her that her son wouldn't go to school because he was staying up every night until 4 or 5am and needed to stop partying and sleep. Sharon's brilliant response was along the lines of "well he maybe doesn't like school, he probably needs prozac or something.". So her response when told that her son was staying up late and skipping school was to basically say "Give him a pill, why are you bothering me with this?". That and the fact that as a mother she didn't even know her son was doing that does indeed lead me to believe that her neglect was in part responsible for some of her kids problems.
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phlashba
09:29 PM on 11/14/2009
Oh Chez, dear Chez, why did you go and stick your foot into this mess?
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pottedferne
09:08 PM on 11/14/2009
Susan Boyle has musical talent that exceeds her physical appearance....can we not just appreciate that?
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jimspy
Quod quae operibus sufficit.
09:14 PM on 11/14/2009
Amen.

MAN, we're getting to be a gossipy, catty crowd in this country! MEOW!!
09:19 PM on 11/14/2009
Totally spot on, PF. The sum of Susan's talent and genuine personality totally outweigh how she looks or doesn't look. I'm just glad she got a chance to get out there so we can enjoy her lovely voice!
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pottedferne
09:21 PM on 11/14/2009
Fanned girlfriend!!!
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HelloFunnyWorld
In Times Of Sorry Leadership.... Cry or Manage Up?
08:52 PM on 11/14/2009
"disingenuous" ~ Chez??

This reads like a Bad post.
What's wrong?Were you having a bad hair day when you wrote it or were you just really hungry?

99% of this Planet could easily qualify as Susan's ugly, and the remaining 1% could qualify as Sharon's ugly: the not at all "classy" or "tactful" - or anything nice for that matter.

You should have continued to listen to your instinct & avoided writing about these 2!

Go get some good sleep. Yea, we still love you.
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VirginiaJeff
Waiting for the "Jennifer Government" movie
08:35 PM on 11/14/2009
Chez is wrong. Boyle just looks like one of the neighbors. THAT'S what made her stick out.
08:44 PM on 11/14/2009
Aint that the truth. If you saw her at a mall, you wouldn't even notice her. She looks like an average person - not a plastic, air brushed, designer clad "celebrity".
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jimspy
Quod quae operibus sufficit.
09:02 PM on 11/14/2009
Man, I'd hate to live in your neighborhood...
09:22 PM on 11/14/2009
Not all of us live in Stepford, Dude.
12:10 AM on 11/15/2009
Depressing, you...
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07:44 PM on 11/14/2009
Shakespeare had it right, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". What is considered "beautiful" changes with the times, the particular culture (or lack thereof), even from one part of the same country to another.
That being said. There are some "absolutes" in how humans react either positively or negatively to appearance. Symmetry is powerful, and so is conditioning. Susan Boyle is not Angelina Jolie, nor is she Bela Abzug. She looks like many women her age, and from the region of her country of origin. She's not ugly, but then, modern western society has a very skewed and manipulated idea of what "should" be "beautiful". Women "of a certain age" find themselves invisible. Women who do not fit the current status quo also find themselves either invisible or subject to ridicule. We seem to have a problem with thinking that a person who sings as beautifully as Susan does, should look a certain way, not the way she looks. Talent and "conventional" beauty do not always go hand in hand. Ms. "almost beauty queen" Prejean comes to mind...she fits the bill for "conventional" beauty: vaselined shiny teeth/caps, dyed blond hair, silly-cones, and all the talent of a block of wood.
08:49 PM on 11/14/2009
Thank you for an enlightened comment. I was going to make a comment along these lines, but yours is too elegant to sully with imitation.

I knew a woman with a gorgeous operatic coloratura voice when I was in college. She was frequently selected to audition for contests after submitting tapes of her performances, but won only once. She was short and stocky; not fat, not ugly, but didn't resemble the statuesque singers that the Met likes to parade on stage. I thought it was criminal then, and I feel little differently about it now.
10:40 PM on 11/14/2009
If a person only looks at the surface, chances are, the
surface is all you will get.