Be Sexy!

02/02/2014 07:26 pm ET | Updated Apr 04, 2014

This month we celebrate --  in a Hallmark-driven holiday -- romantic love. With pink and red hearts everywhere and ubiquitous ads for flowers and romantic dinners for two, for many single people this time of the year becomes an inescapable reminder of their longing and loneliness. 

Whether single or coupled, it is crucial to remember that there isn't anyone out there who can fulfill us or add a sense of meaning or purpose to our lives. That only comes from within. No one can substitute a relationship to self.

So you want to find a partner in love? Go within. Know yourself. Discover what you're passionate about -- what turns you on spiritually -- and begin living and expressing that fully. That's sexy. That's the source of personal attraction, much more than looks, age beautiful hair or bone structure. OK, so the harsh reality is that most of us are not going to be found on the cover of a fashion magazine. Sorry to break the news. Yet, have you ever had the experience of speaking with someone who could be, who after a few minutes, you were going ... "Next!" There just wasn't much going on there. And surely we have met others who wouldn't be the subject of a fashion photo shoot who, after a short while, we found compelling and wanted to jump into bed with them. There was simply something about them -- that animal magnetism thing just exuded from their pores.

To me that comes from someone who knows who they are, who is deeply connected to self and living their passion and purpose. We all have access to that. That comes from within. So, no more excuses... no one is off the hook here when it comes to attractiveness! Be sexy!