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Christie O. Tate
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Christie Tate blogs at outlawmama.com about raising her two young
children to be responsible consumers, one weekly Costco trip at a
time. She's both a recovering Texan and a recovering BigLaw
litigator. She's working on a novel and plotting a world-wide ban of
princess-themed crap. In the meantime, her writing has appeared on
BlogHer, Scary Mommy and Mom.Me.

Entries by Christie O. Tate

Why I Stopped Working From Home (and Bashing Marissa Mayer)

(12) Comments | Posted July 25, 2013 | 2:00 PM

On February 25, 2013, I thought my computer was going to blow up because there were so many blog posts and articles going around about the newly-instituted policy at Yahoo that employees could no longer work from home. I read countless posts fashioned as open letters to Yahoo's CEO Marissa...

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I Love and Welcome My Daugther's Rage

(10) Comments | Posted May 22, 2013 | 11:47 PM

My daughter's temper tantrums are explosive. There's all the basic elements, like tears and yelling and kicking. But there are usually extra flourishes like writhing on the floor and pounding her fists, usually about grave injustices like not getting to eat pudding for dinner. When she really gets going, it's...

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Reaction to Amanda Berry: I've Got to Be a Better Neighbor

(6) Comments | Posted May 10, 2013 | 12:47 PM

My house is approximately .4 miles from the train station where I catch the train for work three days a week. I've made that walk hundreds of times. I always take the same route, so you would think I know the people living in the dozens of houses I pass...

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Telling My Young Children About My 12-Step Recovery

(6) Comments | Posted May 9, 2013 | 4:24 PM

I should be used to my children asking me the "big questions" years before I am ready to answer them. In my four short years as a mother, I've covered ground I didn't expect to cover for another decade or so in conversations we've had that concern tampons, homosexuality, the...

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Why My Kids Are Allowed to Say They Don't Like Me

(14) Comments | Posted May 3, 2013 | 1:54 PM

"Mommy, I don't like you," my 2-year old said when I set the unreasonable boundary of insisting he wear his pants to dinner.

I smiled at him. "You don't have to like me, but you do have to wear your pants."

We have this exchange regularly -- I do something...

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What I Didn't Expect to Feel After Childbirth

(16) Comments | Posted April 11, 2013 | 11:33 AM

I was born without an innate sense of pacing in relationships. When I was dating, I typically started planning a wedding after the first date. Through a lot of dating (and heartache) I finally learned that I shouldn't start planning a wedding until at least the fourth date.

When I...

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What My Parenting Aptitude Test Looks Like

(5) Comments | Posted March 14, 2013 | 4:14 PM

Anyone who has advanced to high school has come face-to-face with the tests that serve as the gateway to "the next level." Those tests assess and categorize prospective students by mental ability before institutions will allow them to pursue higher education or the careers of their choice.

Can we all...

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Letter To My Younger Self: Stop Saying Guys Who Dumped You Were Gay

(41) Comments | Posted March 5, 2013 | 12:32 PM

Sometimes I buck the trends, and sometimes I drag my mom to the mall to buy Jellies and chalk-striped jeans because everyone in 5th grade has them. Today, I am hopping on an epistle bandwagon. I am referring to authors writing letters to their younger selves.

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What Not to Ask a Mother Who's Returning to Work

(35) Comments | Posted March 1, 2013 | 11:30 AM

"Is it so hard being away from the kids?"

That's the number one question I get these days now that I have returned to work part-time as a lawyer. I understand why people are asking me that. After all, just weeks ago, I spent the majority of my time...

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A Father Curses Out His Young Daughter On the Street: How I Chose to Intervene

(2258) Comments | Posted February 7, 2013 | 1:12 PM

He was yelling so loudly that I actually pulled off my earphones to hear if he was OK. He was about a block ahead of me on the other side of the street, yelling and gesticulating wildly. I could hear him over my iPod, which was blaring The Lumineers on...

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I Work Harder For Male Spin Teachers: Discovering An Unconscious Gender Bias

(5) Comments | Posted January 31, 2013 | 11:21 AM

I am a ritual exerciser: I exercise at the same time of day, after eating the same exact breakfast, while wearing the same sports bra. A few months ago, I started taking spin classes at a new studio near my daughter's school, which lets me reserve the exact same bike...

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My Proudest Parenting Moment

(53) Comments | Posted January 22, 2013 | 11:18 AM

My video camera was charged and I was 15 minutes early for my 3-year old daughter's first dance recital. As I milled outside the studio, I could see her practicing with the other students. I saw her execute her signature move: raising the roof. Her cheeks were flushed and her...

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